Ingabe kujwayelekile ukuthi umuntu athole ukukhathazeka? Yebo, ngokungangabazeki, ngoba lesi simo sisiza ukuhlola izinga lengozi futhi lithathe ngokwanele izinyathelo zokuphendula ezenzakalweni ezibangelwa yilesi simo.
Ezimweni lapho umzali ene-alamu yengane yakhe, lokhu kuwuphawu lokuthi kunezinkinga emndenini. I-alamu iyadingeka! Le yindlela yokuhlola eyanele yezinga lengozi kanye nokuphendula ekwenzeni izinqumo ngesimo esisodwa noma kwenye.
Kodwa-ke, akufanele uthathe ukubonakaliswa kwe-pathological kokukhathazeka njengokujwayelekile! Akahlangene nempilo yangempela futhi adinga usizo lochwepheshe nesinqumo sakhe.
Ungayihlukanisa kanjani ukukhathazeka nge-pathological neyokuhlungu? Uma ingane inomkhawulo ngaphezu kwesidingo - kungukukhathazeka kwe-pathological.
Isibonelo lesi simo: Umuntu osemusha uneminyaka engu-16 abazali babazala ukuya kuma-movie nabangane, ngoba i-cinema kufanele iqhutshwe izitobha ezi-3 ezintabeni zomphakathi. Abazali bashukumisela isinqumo sabo izinsolo zokuthi banendaba ngaye, kodwa osemusha ubona ukwenqaba okunjengokucindezela kanye nesinqumo sawo.
Kungani izinga lokukhathazeka liphakanyiswe:
- vele ukukhathazeka okukhona "kuvunguza";
- Umuntu ungowoluhlobo "Bonke babona ukukhathazeka", futhi lobu budlelwano bukopishwa kumzali.
Unganquma kanjani ukuthi unjani endaweni yokukhathazeka? Bheka, yiziphi izinhlaka zokuziphatha abanye abazali bezingane zabo eziphathelene nobudala obufanayo nasezimweni ezifanayo.
Isibonelo, ebangeni le-9, akekho noyedwa kwabafundi engifunda nabo enganeni yakho lapho befika esikoleni. Futhi uyafuna, futhi uhlala endaweni eyodwa ukusuka esikoleni. Uma umgwaqo uhlanganyele ezokuhamba isikhathi eside, khona-ke leyo mfuneko izolungiswa.
Noma ancishe uhambo lwengane e-zoo, kuphela ngenxa yokuthi ukufunda okutholakele u-4, futhi hhayi ukuthi kunesivumelwano, futhi ukufundwa kungahlehliswa, futhi kuzoba njalo Kulula okubonakalayo kunokujeziswa.
Yini ezosiza ukubhekana nokukhathazeka:
- "Shayela umngani" kuzosiza lapho, ngokwesibonelo, ingane engaphandle kwendawo yokufinyelela. Mhlawumbe uvele washaja ocingweni? Shayela emuva othile ovela kubangani, okufanele abe manje, bese ucela ukunikela ucingo.
- Xhumana nabazali babangane nothisha. Uyazi ukuthi abazali bakho bakubiza ngani ingane yakho? Futhi othisha abaqhuba ezinye zengeziwe nge-biology? Hlangana noxhumana nabo.
- Yabelana ngesibopho nomzali wesibili, ungazithathi yonke into ngokwakho. Ephendula ukukhuliswa, bobabili abazali bahlala njalo!
- Usizo lobuchwepheshe ngendlela yokubonisana nodokotela lapho kunesidingo, kuzonciphisa ukukhathazeka futhi kunikeze ukuqonda ukuthi kuhamba kanjani ngempilo yempilo yengane.
- Iqembu lokusekelwa ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ezihlahleni zabazali, eqenjini lesifunda elinomzali ofanayo lizosiza ngakolunye uhlangothi ukubona isinqumo ezimweni ezifanayo nezakho, bese uthola isinqumo esifanele, ukusekelwa.
Umzali osesimweni sokukhathazeka akusona isibonelo esihle kakhulu enganeni. Kulokhu, ngeke afunde ukucabanga ngokwanele ngezimo futhi enze izinqumo. Isimo sengqondo esinjalo sizokwazi ukuthi ingane iba umuntu omdala futhi izovela umndeni wayo.
Umukeli isimo sakho sengqondo ezimweni ezinamantongomane "wokuqinisa" futhi uphazamise, kuphela lapho ukuhlanganyela kwakho kudingeka. Yethemba eminye, futhi umphumela wokuvumelana nokuthemba ngeke uzenze ulinde isikhathi eside.
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