Unganqoba kanjani izithiyo entuthukweni yomuntu siqu?

Unganqoba kanjani izithiyo entuthukweni yomuntu siqu? Photo: Depositphotos.

Ukuthuthuka komuntu akuwona umkhiqizo wanamuhla. Ngisho nasezikhathini ezigqamile kakhulu zomlando (ubudala obuphakathi nendawo, ama-stalin wonazotha, njll.), Ingxenye yabantu ayizange yaneliswe yimiphumela eyamukelekayo emukeleke ngokuvamile nokuphoqelelwa ukufeza umnyombo wokuba njalo, ukuze Yazi ngokwazo nemikhawulo yabo.

Abantu abaningi banamuhla baqonda kahle ukuthi ukuzithuthukisa kuyadingeka. Kodwa-ke, ingxenye encane kuphela yokuhleliwe eziqongweni zokuvumelana ifinyelela.

Izithiyo eziphambili zokuthuthuka komuntu siqu:

1. I-Advestitive medium enganikeli ekusungulweni kobuntu obuzimele (umndeni wabazali be-pathological enezingxabano eziphakeme, supercontolle, isimo esiqinile; umlutha, i-hype- ne-hyperopka). "Okufundile ukungasizi", i-hypersesciality, ukuphunyuka kwe-neurotic kusuka kwinkululeko "kungakhiwa, ukufakwa kobukhona bokuqala ngovalo oluvelele.

2. Ukuqhubeka kwesigaba 1 - Ukuzifushanisa ebudaleni kuyadlula "uhlaka lokuvunyelwa", ukwesaba izibalo ezinamandla zabazali obukhulu (noma ngabe kungasekho), ukuphikwa kwempilo engokomoya: " Akukona kimi - ngidinga ukondla phansi phansi, phansi geza, ugeze umyeni wakho. " Le ndoda iya ngokudabukisayo ngokugeleza, ukwakhiwa kobuntu bakhe kunqunywa yimicimbi engahleliwe, ayinazo izinhlelo, amathemba, izintshisekelo (ngaphandle kochungechunge mayelana nothando olungesihle nencwajana enezindlela zokupheka). Kuyacaca ukuthi umuntu onjalo ulawulwa ngokuphelele ngaphandle.

3. Inkambiso ebhubhisayo ebusheni, eminyakeni emisha. Ngisho nokuhamba komndeni ojabulayo nochumile, ukungena e-Alien, kuthathwe ngodaka ngoLwesithathu, kulahlekelwa amandla angaphakathi, ugqozi, kancane kancane. Iningi lezibonelo ezivela empilweni yamantombazane aseRussia ezibophele ngomshado namaSulumane avela emazweni aseningizimu. Kufana nokubeka isinkwa esimnandi esimnandi esiseduze kwesikhutha. Kwenzakalani? Kucace ngakho.

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Nabantu ngendlela efanayo. Uma kukhona abanye abalahlekile, okuchotshozwa ubandlululo lwenkolo, abazilahlekelwe ebuntwaneni, kungabaza kakhulu ukuthi uzophakamisa ikhanda lakho. Futhi akukho ukwesekwa. Lokhu kufaka futhi amacala okuboshwa lapho esemncane, ongenamqondo engena ezinhlangothini angena endaweni yokuphetha ngobuwula, ukuba khona, ukungazi kwempilo. Kuvame ukwephulwa.

4. Ukwesaba ukungakhululeki. Ukwesaba okusha, okungaziwa. "Nginga?" Ungigobile? Futhi uma kungenjalo? .. "isigaba ngasinye sentuthuko nokukhula komuntu siqu kuyisinyathelo esingaziwa. Futhi-ke owayengethule, ecindezela kusukela ekuphambukeni kwezingozi, amahloni ahlebeza: "Noma mhlawumbe? Ngakho konke akukubi. "

5. Akunasiyalo sangaphakathi. Ukuzitika. Ukulala.

6. Ukunakekela kusuka ekuzithuthukisweni njengokuhlukahluka kwecebo lokuphila. Kuchazwe yi-Abulkhanova-Slavskaya. Ubunzima bokuqala noma ukumelana nomphakathi olahliwe umuntu emuva, "empilweni yokugcina", okungenalutho, okunengqondo, kungabikezeli, kungafuni ukushibilika kwentshiseko nangendlela enhle.

7. Izingxabano futhi zanqwabelana kuyo yonke iminyaka edlule zokuhlanjalazwa kubantu. Ukuphonsa uGyry, ukudonsa phansi, esigangeni esingakhululeki "ukuhlafuna kwengqondo." Awekho amandla wamahhala entuthukweni.

8. Ukuba khona kohlelo lokuvikela kwangaphakathi, ukusebenza kwalo okudala ukubonakala kwenhlala-kahle kanye nokuzivumelanisa nomuntu engokoqobo ezungezile.

9. Ukuntuleka kwezinhloso ezikhuthazayo nokuntuleka kwesinqumo sokudlulisela amaphupho emgomweni. Kukhona iphupho, kepha umuntu akakwazi ukuhlanganisa: Awekho amakhono okudonsela uhlelo, ejikeleza indlela eya emgomweni nokunye.

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10. Ukuthambisa ukuze kufinyelelwe.

Ukunqoba izithiyo

1. Yakha ukulungela engxenyeni nobunikazi obukhona njengamanje, iphelelwe yisikhathi futhi ayifanele impilo yesikhathi esizayo.
2. Hlola ubuthakathaka bakho (bangadonsa phansi baphoqe ukuthi basebenzise izivikelo).
3. Vuma inani lakho ("Mina ngingowami okubaluleke kakhulu," "Akekho ozonginakekela kangcono kunami").
4. Isimo sokuziphatha kwemvelo. Kuyadingeka ukulwela ukwakha umugqa wempilo yakhe uqobo ukuze isifiso sakho sokuphelela ngeke sikhumbule, awuzange wephule ububi babanye, awuzange uvuselele ububi nomona. Ikakhulukazi ekuqaleni. Ungakhangisi izinhlelo zakho.
5. Xhumana nalabo okungenani isinyathelo esisodwa ekuthuthukisweni kwalokhu okungenhla. Lokhu kuyashukumisa, kuvusa umphakathi ongokomoya, kukhona umuntu okufanele abuze uMkhandlu.
6. Ngesibindi uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo ngezinqumo nokhetho owenziwe. Lokhu kusho - ukuba ngumnikazi wempilo yakhe.
7. Thatha iqiniso lokuthi abanye babangane bakho ngisho nezihlobo ziqedwa ngokwazo. Banawe - hhayi endleleni. Isisulu esihle.
8. Zilungiselele iqiniso lokuthi kuzoba khona "ukubuyela esikhathini esidlule", ukuphelelwa yithemba nobuhlungu. Ngalezo zikhathi ezinjalo, buyela engqondweni ngezikhathi ezithile zenhlanhla lapho yonke into ingaphakathi ijabule ngenjabulo. Ukusekelwa kokuxhumana kwabantu abahlakaniphile. Yakha ngokwakho futhi uthathe ifindo (ngokwakho). Kwesinye isikhathi kuyasiza.

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