Kukula kwanu sikuti ndi chinthu cha lero. Ngakhale m'nthawi yovuta kwambiri ya mbiriyakale (zaka zapakati, mibadwo ya Stalin, Stalc.), gawo la anthu silinakhutire kwambiri kuti akwaniritse tanthauzo la kukhala, kuti Dzidziwe okha ndi malire awo.
Anthu amakono amamvetsetsa bwino kuti kudzipanga kumafunikira. Komabe, gawo laling'ono chabe lazokhazikika pamwamba pamiyendo limafikira.
Zopinga zazikulu za chitukuko cha umwini:1. Zowonongeka zowonongeka zomwe sizikuthandizani pakukhazikitsidwa kwa umunthu waumwini (banja la makolo la makolo ndi mikangano yayikulu, mawonekedwe apamwamba, okhazikika, wamkulu, hypook- komanso hypook. "Anaphunzira kusasamala", hyperococaliality, neurotic "kuthawa ufulu" ukhoza kupangidwa, kukhazikitsa kuti mukhalepo ndi mantha.
2. Kupitilizabe ndime 1 - Kudzigulitsa nokha muukalamba kumapitilira "kuloledwa kwa zololedwa", kuopa ziwonetsero zamphamvu za makolo kwambiri (ngakhale kulibenso), kukana kwa wapamtima wamoyo: " Si za ine - ndifunika kudyetsa pansi, kutsuka pansi, kuchapa amuna anu. " Mwamunayo ndi wachisoni poyandama poyenda, kapangidwe kake kamunthu kamatsimikiziridwa ndi zochitika mwachisandudera, alibe mapulani, ziyembekezo, zomwe zimafuna (kupatula zolemba zokhudzana ndi Maphikidwe). Zikuonekeratu kuti munthu wotereyu amalamulidwa kwathunthu kuchokera kunja.
3. Kukopeka kowononga usiku, zaka. Ngakhale kusiya banja losangalala, lolemera, kulowa mkati mwa ukwati, kutaya mphamvu yamkati, kudzoza, pang'onopang'ono osasinthika. Zitsanzo za zitsanzo za atsikana a ku Russia omwe adadzimanga okha ndi ukwati ndi Asilamu ochokera ku Republic. Zili ngati kuyika mkate wonunkhira watsopano. Zomwe zimachitika? Chomveka bwino.
Ndi anthu chimodzimodzi. Ngati pali ena otayika, ophwanyidwa ndi zipembedzo, omwe ataya nawo ali mwana, amakayikira kwambiri kuti mudzakweza mutu wanu. Ndipo palibe chithandizo. Izi zimaphatikizaponso kumangidwa pomwe, luntha lanzeru limalowa m'malo omaliza chifukwa cha kupusa, kufooka, kusazindikira moyo. Nthawi zambiri amabwera.
4. Kuopa kusasangalala. Kuopa mbiri, osadziwika. "Kodi ndingathe?" Clall? Ndipo ngati sichoncho? .. "Gawo lirilonse la chitukuko ndi kukula kwake ndi gawo lodziwika. Ndipo kenako ine ndimawopa ine, chopondera kuchokera pa chipangono cha zoopsa, kung'ung'udza kwanthawi: "Kapena mwina? Ndipo chilichonse sichoyipa. "
5. Palibe kulangidwa kwamkati. Kukwiya. Atagona.
6. Thandirani kudzipanga ngati kusiyana kwa njira ya moyo. Yofotokozedwa ndi Abilkhanova-Slavskaya. Mavuto oyamba kapena kukana kwa sing'anga kutaya munthu kumbuyo, mu moyo wa "moyo womaliza", wopanda kanthu, komanso wolosera, koma osafuna changu.
7. Misangano ndikusonkhana kwa zaka zonse zakale za chipongwe kwa anthu. Kuponya masewera olimbitsa thupi, kugwetsa pansi, mu chithaphwi chosasangalatsa "kutafuna kwamalingaliro." Palibe mphamvu yaulere pakukula.
8. Kukhalapo kwa chitetezo chamkati chamkati, ntchito zomwe zimapangitsa kuwoneka kwa mawonekedwe a chiyero ndi mawonekedwe a munthu woyandikana.
9. Kuperewera kwa zolinga zolimbitsa thupi komanso kusowa kwa chisankho kusamutsa maloto ku cholinga. Pali loto, koma munthuyo sangamupangitse: palibe luso lotchula dongosolo, ndikukonzekera njira yogonera.
10. Kuchepetsa.
Kuthana ndi Zotchinga- Pangani kukonzekera kugawana ndi chizindikiritso chapano, ndi kale ndipo sioyenera kudzakhala moyo wamtsogolo.
- Onaninso zofooka zanu (zitha kudzutsa ndikukakamiza kuti muteteze).
- Vomerezani mtengo wanu ("ine ndekha ndekha," "Palibe amene angandisamalire koposa ine ndekha").
- Chikhalidwe cha ecom. Ndikofunikira kuyesetsa kumanga mzere wa moyo wa munthu kuti chidwi chanu cha ungwiro sichingaganize zofuna za ena, sizinakondweretseko za ena, sizinakondweretse zoyipa ndi kaduka. Makamaka poyamba. Osalengeza mapulani anu.
- Lankhulanani ndi omwe sitepe imodzi mwakukula pamwambapa. Izi zimalimbikitsa, zimaperekanso anthu am'mudzi, pali wina wofunsa khonsolo.
- Molimba mtima nyamulani zisankho ndi zisankho zopangidwa. Izi zikutanthauza - kukhala mwini wake wamoyo wake.
- Dziwani kuti anzanu ena komanso abale anu amachotsedwa okha. Ali ndi inu - osati m'njira. Wokongola.
- Khalani okonzekera kuti padzakhala "kubwerera m'mbuyomu", kutaya mtima ndi kuwawa. Nthawi ngati izi, bweretsani m'maganizo kwakanthawi zabwino zonse zikasangalala ndi chisangalalo. Lumikizanani ndi Chithandizo cha Anthu Anzeru. Mupange nokha ndikutenga mfundo (nokha). Nthawi zina zimakhala zothandiza.
Zopinga za njira yodzipangira nokha - gawo limodzi la mayendedwe am'tsogolo. Phirolophereya amafunika kuthana nawo ndipo amakhala bwino, amphamvu, osangalatsa.
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