Kanganje njengomntwana, seva amabinzana aqhelekileyo 'ngathi "phupha engenabungozi", "Ufuna kakhulu - uya kufumana kancinci" kwaye njalo. Kodwa ukusilela okufanayo, ukungaphumeleli kunika abantwana babantwana ababeke umda kwixesha elizayo. Ke sicebisa ukuba sithathe amabinzana aqhelekileyo, akukho mpendulo kumandla kwaye asicacise oku emntwaneni ukuze babe kubomi babantu abadala akufuneki bajamelane nezithintelo.
Isizathu sokuba abazali baphendule ngale ndlela
Itemplate ye template izandi kunokuba ibukhali kwaye idla ngokuqina. Ngokwesiqhelo, amabinzana anjalo abhabha ngaphandle ngemilomo yabo xa umjelo weminqweno yomntwana ugqithisela amandla abo. Ewe, impendulo ebukhali ibangelwa kukungakwazi ukwanelisa i-whims yomntwana kunye nokufihla imvakalelo 'yomzali ombi ", iphupha elivayo" aliyithandi. "
Mhlawumbi le modeli yokuziphatha yamkelwa kubomi babo buqu xa abazali babo bengazange babuze.
Esinye isizathu sokusilela komgangatho kukusoyika okuqingqi ukuba kuthekani ukuba ngoku ukuqhubeka nomntwana, amabango omntwana aya konyuka. Ngamanye amagama, abazali boyika ukugqobhoza umntwana wabo ukuba bakulungele ukupholisa amaphupha abantwana ngempendulo nangexesha le-coarse.
Ukuba ushwankathela, emva koko iimpendulo ezinjalo kukungancedisi bomzali, osebenze ngendlela okhuselayo. Kodwa kula mabinzana angentla, ayisiyo impendulo kuphela emntwaneni ilele, kodwa wabeka ubuqhetseba kunye nokufakwa kwezinto.
Yifunde: "Lala umntwana okanye hayi" - ibali likamama, awayekazwayo wonke umntu ogwetyiweyo, engenahlukileyo ngokwahlukileyo
Imfuno ayinabungozi
Amaphupha kunye neminqweno iqhelekile, ngakumbi kumntwana ongaliqondi izwi njengokungasebenzi kakuhle kwemali. Kodwa ukuva ibinzana elinje ukuba umntwana acinge ukuba "Ndifuna into embi. Ixesha elingaphezulu, unokwakha ityala letyala ngaphambi komnqweno, kunye nokufakwa okugqwethekileyo ngokunxulumene namaphupha, kunye neemfuno.
Umntwana ova amabinzana anjalo abuthathaka kakhulu, kuba ngokuxhaswe yinto esondeleyo. Ngakumbi ukuba iminqweno yakhe okanye amaphupha akhathazeke kuphela kwezinto, kodwa nceda, ingqalelo okanye incoko. Ixesha elingaphezulu, ukungafumani mpendulo, umntwana uqalisa ukufihla izicelo zakhe.
Khawufane ucinge ngomntwana ongaziceli nto. Inzima? Ngokuchanekileyo! Kweli nqanaba, umntwana usenokuba usondele ngokwawo ngenxa yeemvakalelo zetyala, ezinokuwela kwixinzelelo.
Abazali kufuneka bacinge ngokuphendula kwabo
Vumelana, lixesha lokuba ucinge ngokususa amabinzana anjalo. Ukuba 'baphange' ngenxa yeemvakalelo zokuziva unetyala, sukuzama ukuba ngumzali ofanelekileyo, awunjalo.
Abo bazali basoyikayo ukwaphula umntwana wabo, kufanelekile ukuba bakhumbule ukuba umntwana ufuna lowo uphendula aze azive izicelo zabo. Kodwa kwangaxeshanye, bafuna umntu omdala osisilumko oya kuba nakho ukugxotha, kodwa aza kubeka izinto eziza kuqala, aza kuchaza ngeminqweno kunye nokunokwenzeka, kwaye uya kufumana enye indlela.
Ukongeza, akuyomfuneko ukufezekisa yonke into eyenziwa ngumntwana ngokuvakalayo.Mhlawumbi ufuna incoko yababini kwinkqubo aya kuyiqonda ukuba esi sicelo asikho konke konke kwaye ayinjalo.
Jonga kwakhona: kwaye ukuphendula, ukuthula ... Kutheni ukutyeshela eyona nto ikhathazayo emntwaneni
Ungaphendula njani "Hayi"
Khumbula enye ifomula elula, ilandela oko unokwala, kodwa kwangaxeshanye, ngaphandle kokulimaza i-psyche yomntwana. Ukuba kwesi sihlandlo sesibini ngenxa yesi sizathu asinakonelisa imfuneko yomntwana, emva koko ke kwaseka umda kwixesha lokwenza. Kwimizekelo ijongeka ngolu hlobo: "Ndiyabona ukuba uyithandile ngokwenyani le thoy, kodwa okwangoku andikulungelanga ukuba ndihlawule."
Unokucebisa ukuba ucoce amagama ukusombulula ingxaki kunye (ukwenzela ukhetho lokuqulunqwa kwemali) okanye unike enye, umzekelo, yiya nge-hit kunye neetapile.
Ngenxa yoko, awukhange ulale umntwana, kwaye unengcinga echanekileyo yokuba izicelo zakhe zivayo, kwaye iminqweno iphunyezwa kwenye okanye ngenye indlela.