Umama ongatshatanga okanye umama omkhulu - ngelishwa, rhoqo kwaye uqhelene noqhelekile. Isizathu solo qhawulo mtshato rhoqo, emva koko, njengomgaqo, umntwana uhlala ehlala noMama. Kwaye ukuba umnyango utata uyamkhumbula umntwana kube kanye kwiinyanga ezintandathu, kwaye kulungile.
Nokuba yayikwixesha laseSoviet, nini umama ongatshatanga wayethathwa njengehlazo elikhulu. Konke ngenxa yelizwe kwakukho ihlelo losapho, kwaye umatshini woqhawulo mtshato nkqu nakwezona zizathu ziphumeleleyo zagwetywa luluntu.
Indima ebonakalayo yayidlalwa ngoluvo oluxelela umntwana ngaloo mihla - umntwana ufuna utata. Ngokunxulumene nolu nyango, abasetyhini babezama ukutshata emva kokuba uqhawulo-mtshato ukutshata kwakhona.
Ngoku yonke into ilula kakhulu-akukho kugwetywa! Ukongeza, inani labanye oomama abangatshatanga unyaka ukuya kunyaka wonke bayakhula ngokukhawuleza.
Imbali iMikhalaila
Ukuba sithetha ngotata ongatshatanga, emva koko kwilizwe lethu yinto yokwenene, ngakumbi ukuba inkulu. Baziba baba yi-mikhail eneminyaka engama-36 ngokupheleleyo kwiminyaka emihlanu eyadlulayo.
Njengommiselo, abantu abangamadoda abakwimeko enjalo, kodwa i-mikhail inetyala elahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Kusapho lwakhe kwabakho imeko yeklasi kunye nentle - umfazi emva kweminyaka eli-13 umtshato wawuthanda omnye umntu washiya usapho.
Kodwa njengokuba ehamba-indlela yokuziphatha kwakhe engenanto ayifanelanga umfazi onabantwana. Wabashiya bonke abantwana kumyeni wakhe wangaphambili owayesixhenxe!
UMikhail wayeqhelene nenkosikazi yakhe iKsenia kuba amaxesha abafundi. Badlalela umtshato xa wayeneminyaka engama-22, kwaye wayengama-23.
Amaqabane akazange acwangcise ukuba yintsapho enkulu. Kwangoko emva kokuzalwa kwamazibulo iKenia yayiza kuya emsebenzini. Nangona kunjalo, yonke into yayihlukile: emva kokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala, owesibini wavela ngonyaka, emva kweminyaka emi-2, elesithathu, njalo njalo. Sele iminyaka engama-35, uKsenia wayengumama wabantwana abayi-7.
Akazange asebenze, ke zonke iimbophelelo zezezimali zabelwa amagxamesi. Intsapho enkulu ihlala ngokuthozama, kodwa ayizange incede. Kwaye ngequbuliso kwiminyaka engama-35, iKseniia yonyula i-mikhail illimatum kangangokuba wayefuna ukuqhawula umtshato. Inyani yile yokuba wadibana nomhlobo wexesha elide owaziyo ukuba ibhentshi yesikolo. Ngapha koko, sele ekwazile ukuba nenoveli eyimfihlo emva kwakhe.
UKseni wayenqwenela ukuqalisa ubomi obutsha ngaphandle kwenkxalabo kunye nokuhamba nzima, eshiya bonke abantwana kuYise.
Kwakungathethi ukuba umama wamphosa abantwana bakhe ngonaphakade. Kukusuka nje ukudinwa okhutywayo kubomi bemihla ngemihla, bendifuna ukuphila ubomi basimahla, ngelixa ndityelela abantwana, kodwa ndingahlala nabo kunye.
Ngenxa yoko, uMikhail waba nguBawo ongatshatanga, waqhelana ngakumbi. Wavuma ukuba ekuqaleni kwakunzima kakhulu, kodwa hayi kwicebo lokuphatha. Ngapha koko, iqhele ukusindisa nakubantwana. Kwakunzima ngakumbi ngokuziphatha, kwaye hayi kangako ukuba bangaphi abantwana.
Ukuba abantwana abadala, abathi, ngelo xesha loqhawulo-mtshato, babeneminyaka eli-1, beneminyaka eli-12 ubudala, bekungafuneki baxele, kuba bona baqonda yonke into, kwakunzima kakhulu ukuyichaza. Ngapha koko, indlela umntwana eqonda ngayo ukuba umama akasenakuphila naye, kodwa kuphela ukuba uza kumtyelela.
Ngaphandle kwamava aqinileyo kubantwana, kunye nexesha, ubomi buyekile. Ngoku i-mikhail sele ineminyaka engama-41 engama-41. Uvumela ukuba kule minyaka i-5 idlulileyo ikwazile ukuxolela umfazi wayo, nangona ekuqaleni kwakunomsindo omkhulu kuye.
Ekuphela kwento ekhathazayo kukuba isayinto yesibini. Nje ukuba abafazi bafumanisa ukuba unabantwana abayi-7, efihla intlalo. Ngokungafaniyo ne-mikhail, iKsenia ihlala ngokugqibeleleyo - itshatile oyena mntu umaziyo kwaye wamzalela abantwana aba-2. Ukuba ngumdala weminyaka engama-40, ngunina we-9 wabantwana.
Okothusayo kukuba, bonke abantwana abasuka emtshatweni wokuqala baxolela ngomoya, banxibelelana ngokugqibeleleyo kuye, nangona bahlala notata.
UMichael, akaphazamisi unxibelelwano lukaKsenia nabantwana, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kusekunina, ngaphandle kwento yokuba uphume usapho entsha.
Ngaphambili, saxelela elinye ibali malunga nokuba umkhulu aqwalasele umntwana ukuba abe yeyakhe. Imbali yomama oselula. Elinye ibali linomdla. "Lala umntwana okanye hayi" - ibali likamama, lowo wawugwebe wonke umntu, kwaye wayengenakubahlukileyo. Kodwa ibali lomfazi elalishiya usapho laza lashiya intombi ngotata ongenasifo, ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyi kumshiya umntu ongathandekiyo.