Ukuzinikela nokunyaniseka ziimpawu ezibalulekileyo zobuntu obuqolileyo, ngokuxhomekeka ekubeni bahlakulelwa ngumntu ngokwahlukileyo, kwaye kungenjalo boyika "babanjiwe" kwi-pique pose. Oku kuyinyani nakwindoda, nakwibhinqa, ngaphandle kokungaqhelekanga kubemi bomhlaba okwesini.
Kutheni le nto abantu besoloko befuna kwabasetyhini bokuzinikela?
Indoda kufuneka iqiniseke ukuba abantwana abazalelwe kulo mfazi yinzala yakhe, umgca wakhe wemfuza. Akukho mntu wayefuna ukutyala izibonelelo eBajstorukov, i-bastarddov kunye nolunye uhlobo lwenzala "ngokungekho mthethweni" kuxhomekeka kwixesha kunye nepropathi, kodwa eyona nto iphambili kuyo).
Ngendlela, abafazi bayafana. Abantwana abazalwa ngumfazi (umyeni wayenenkosikazi, kwaye wabeka esichengeni sokugcina ukukhulelwa), akanakuze amkelwe ngumfazi osemthethweni (ukuba akanathemba).
Indoda kufuneka yazi loo nto ngokungabikho kwakhe (ukuhamba, umkhosi, ukuhlala kwiindawo zokuvalelwa, unyango lwexesha elide) umfazi uyakubona ubugqwirha obusenyongweni. Umfazi, "wasetyenziswa" ngabanye ngexesha lokungabikho komyeni, umntu oqhelekileyo ubangela ukucekiswa kunye nokwala. Ewe, kwaye unikwe "cuckold" -ikamva elingagungqiyo.
Kumnandi ukuqonda ukuba umntu obhinqileyo uthanda umntu ulungele kakhulu. Ekuqaleni, abafazi abazibingelela kwintloko yentloko yezinto zawo. Ewe, njani! Kuyinyani, ngokuhamba kwexesha kuza (kodwa malunga nayo ngezantsi).
Umfazi ozinikeleyo uyangenelela kubuthathaka bendoda. Uyathobela kwaye aqikelele. "Inkonzo yakhe ethembekileyo yendoda yakhe" (iZifundo ezininzi zanamhlanje zanamhlanje ezivela kule patoeroevievievia) ziqinisekisa ukuba zizolile, zibonisa ubomi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, oku kuya kuxolelwa kwaye kusekulo umphefumlo uyambulela umyeni wakhe ukuba akhethe njengeqabane kwaye aqhubeke nophahla olufanayo. Andizigqithi. Umsebenzi ngecala ngabafazi basemaphandleni, eneminyaka engama-40 ubudala nangaphezulu. Oku malunga nabo.
Ukuba unina womntu wayengumfazi olinyikayo, ukanti ukukhetha kweqabane elinjalo kuya kuba yinto elindelweyo kwimeko ebile generic kwimeko efana nelihlobo lonke. Kwaye oyena mntu uzolile, kwaye abazali abalupheleyo - intuthuzelo.
Ukuzinikela kuba ngumthwalo onzima njani?
Yonke into inesithukuthezi. Ngakumbi ibonakalisiwe, yamiselwa. Iziphumo zika "Amehlo kaDemia". Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ihostess inukayo ekhathazekileyo malunga nomyeni ongekazinxibi endlwini, nto leyo ebangela ukuba ibenziweyo, ibangela ukubambelela. "Ntombazana yam, musa ukukhathazeka, upheka / uhlamba / uhlambe imigangatho. Ndiyavuya".
Ke le "ntombazana" iphosakeleyo kwaye ibangela ukuba bacaphuke. "Kulungile, ungabulala malini? Kutheni engenamdla koko kundibamba? Izabelo ezingapheliyo kwizitya zokuhlambela okanye zomgqwithelo lwexabiso eliphantsi - Ngaba yiyo yonke into ahlala kuyo? "
Ewe bonke. Kodwa emva kwako konke, ukhetha le nto kwaye ngazo zonke iindlela ziyokukhuthaza ngendlela yobomi. Amadoda athetha njani kwiimeko ezinjalo: "Kukho into akhwele ngokupheleleyo." Ukukhazeka.
Ukunyaniseka kwaba bafazi baqondwa njengento enokuthi banikenwe, akukho nto ibalulekileyo okanye ukulandela ikhowudi yangaphakathi yembeko, kodwa ngokulula - umgangatho oqhelekileyo womfazi otshatileyo.
Ukuba imeko ayinakwenzeka ngokupheleleyo, kwaye umlanjana onjalo obophayo uyakuvumela ukuba 'nenoveli ecaleni ", emva koko ukuphendula, akabonakali ngokwakho kwendoda yakhe, ukuba" Inkukhu yasekhaya "Omnye umntu unomdla kwaye" waphila njani ???).
Akukho nomonde okanye isabelo sakhe sincinci. Umona-xa ixabiso, basoyika ukuphulukana, babandezeleka. Kwaye apha - ukucaphuka, ingqumbo, umnqweno wokuba "ubuyisele" i-kitchen Dimariya "endaweni. Njengomnye wabathengi besitsho kwi-pschologistry enengqondo, "ndingathanda ukukholelwa ukuba umatshini wam wokuhlamba uza kubaleka-umlinganiso omtsha, obiza kakhulu, kwaye unomfazi wam ... izixhobo zombane. "
Kunini apho ukunyaniseka kubaluleke kakhulu?
Andifuni ukubhala igama elithi "ukuzinikezela", kuba Ilele kancinci ngomfanekiso womfazi ophumeleleyo, onamandla, onekratshi. Bacinga ngezilwanyana ezifuywayo, ngamanye amaxesha isicaka sisebenza endlwini amashumi eminyaka. Kodwa akukhona. Ukunyaniseka kuvakala kungcono.
Ke:
1. Ukunyaniseka awenzelwanga ngokwaso, njengesiqinisekiso esikhutshwa kunye nesiqinisekiso somtshato. Olu lukhetho lomfazi ongachaphazeli uluvo lwabanye okanye ezinye iimbambo ezongeziweyo. Umthombo wokunyaniseka onjalo yimvakalelo yokuzithemba, imbeko ngokwayo nakunyuliweyo. Ukhuni ukuya "Kukharkoy Jas" kwindawo ethile esemva kwesitovu. Usapho lwam. Myeni wam. Ukucoceka nokucaca elubala ubudlelwane emtshatweni.
2. Akukho siqinisekiso sokuba umfazi uya kuhlala kufutshane. Akanamathela "kwindoda yakhe, akafungi uthando olungonaphakade, akaboni nto. Ngandlel 'ithile ihlala ihlala ingaziwa, engalindelekanga, ubukho bemfihlakalo buvakala. Khumbula "i-stranger" ngo-A. Kwaye, ayifundanga konke ... kakuhle, kucacile. Abafazi abagunyazisiweyo bayafunda. Le yiklasi, ngamaxesha onke.
3. Ukunyaniseka komfazi kubandakanya ukunyaniseka kwendoda. Akukho zithandwa malunga "nesithembu", "impembelelo yomntu wokwabelana ngesondo", "andikhumbuli ukuba kwenzeka njani." Ngomfazi wokwenene, imvukelo yendoda yakhe ilingana nokungcatsha. Ukunqunyulwa ngokuzenzekelayo kobudlelwane.
4. Ukujikeleza umfazi omuhle, okrelekrele, onomtsalane uhlala egcwele amadoda. Ayiyi kuba yintsomi kwaye ilahlekiswe kwamehlo ukuba umntu uyamcela ukuba adanise, anike iintyatyambo ngokunxulumene neholide yobungcali, yenza ukuncoma. Akanamda wokunqongophala kwabalandeli. Uyakonwabela ingqalelo yabo, kuyothusa ngokweemvakalelo, inika imvakalelo yeholide ejikeleze umntu. Kukunyaniseka komfazi onjalo owayexatyiswa kakhulu.
Kwaye enye imfihlo encinci ngakumbi: Ukujonga ukuthembeka kwindoda yakhe, khumbula ukuthembeka kum. Ungaze uzingcatsha, ungamphazamisi umntu wakho emehlweni akhe, ubeke kwindawo yokuqala ngokwam nobomi bakhe.
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