Ukujwayelana okubalulekile: Kanjani futhi nini ukwethula ingane endodeni yakho entsha?

Ubaba noma cha ubaba

Ngezindlela eziningi, ubudlelwano besikhathi esizayo salowo okhethiwe omusha nengane buxhomeke endimeni kaYise empilweni yengane. Uma ubaba ekhona empilweni yengane, enza imisebenzi yakhe, yize engahlali nawe, khona-ke konke kulula kakhulu. Okhethiwe omusha uzokwazi ukuba ngumngane opholile, umlingani ophezulu wokulwa. Uzokwazi ukuchitha isikhathi nengane, kepha zonke izingqinamba zokukhuliswa, impilo namanye amaphuzu abalulekile zizoxazulula abazali. Uma uBaba engenaye uBaba, indoda entsha ye-hypothetial ingathatha le ndawo. Kepha kubalulekile ekuqaleni ukuthi akubekeli ukuthi lokhu okulindelwe, hhayi ukubheka ubaba onenjongo enganeni, kodwa ukugxila ebuhlotsheni bakho nendoda. Noma ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ngokuzayo indoda yakho izokwazi ukuthatha indawo kaYise emndenini wakho, ungakhohlwa ukuthi okokuqala ungumlingani wakho. Kuyadingeka ukudlulisela ingane futhi yazana nobaba omusha, kodwa nomngane kamama.

Imithetho Yokwazi

Akukho okuqhubekayo okuqhubekayo okusungulwa kwemingcele ecacile echaza usuku nehora lokuthandana nengane yakho ekhethiwe. Kepha imithetho ethile isekhona:

1. Ingane yakho kufanele ihlale ibona futhi yazi ukuthi umama awunawo kuphela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngaphezu kukamama, ungowesifazane futhi. Ukuthi angaba nezinye, azikho izintshisekelo ezibaluleke kakhulu, izindaba, ubudlelwano nabanye abantu nabesilisa nabo.
2. Ukwaneli ingane ngendoda ngayinye entsha eyavela empilweni akufanele. Okokuqala, awudingi ukuletha ekhaya futhi ubonise ubudlelwano bakho obusondelene phambi kwengane. Kungadala umhawu nomuzwa wokwenqatshwa enganeni.
3. Musa ukufuna enganeni ukuze abize okhethiweyo wakho, awaphikisi uYise wengane nendoda entsha emehlweni endodana noma endodakazini. Izingane ngokwazo zizoqonda ukuthi ngubani nokuthi aphathe kanjani umyeni omusha kanina.
4. Ukwenza kahle kufanele kudlule kahle, ngaphandle kwezitatimende zesigaba ezifana nokuthi: "Hlangana, lo ubaba wakho omusha, uzophila nathi." Kuhle ukuhlela imihlangano eminingana ejwayelekile futhi uchithe isikhathi ndawonye epaki, ngokwemvelo, ukuze uhambe. Qamba imidlalo ejwayelekile, ukuzijabulisa futhi ngaleyo ndlela yehlisa izinga lokukhathazeka enganeni futhi wenze abangane. Kuphela ngemuva kwalokho kungenzeka ukwethulwa kancane kancane ekhaya lakho.

Akunconywa ukuthi le ndoda yanikeza izipho ezibizayo futhi yenze zonke izifiso zengane yakho emzameni wokuyithenga kuye.

Akunakwenzeka ukuguqula umthwalo wemfanelo wesinqumo sabadala ukudala umndeni. Kumele ixazululwe ngumama nokhethwe yena, kepha ingane idinga ukuchazwa ngolimi oluqondakalayo futhi olungabizi kuye ukuthi manje kukhona umuntu omusha emndenini wazo.

Akunakwenzeka ukwaba izintshisekelo zengane noma umyeni omusha futhi uzenze zibe yinto ebaluleke kakhulu komunye. Kuzoba okulungile ukuthatha izixazululo ezihlanganyelwe ezingcupheni ezihlobene nezimpilo zezingane, futhi zibhekisele ngokucophelela imizwa yawo wonke amalungu omndeni.

Umfana noma intombazane?

Ngokuvamile, lezi zincomo zisendaweni yonke maqondana nengane yanoma yimuphi ubulili. Kepha amanye ama-nuances asenawo.

Abafana baboshelwe kakhulu komama ngemuva kwesehlukaniso. Kwenzeka ukuthi umfana aze aze athathe isikhundla sokuthatha isikhundla somyeni kamama (abizwa ngokuthi ukufuzwa, futhi lesi yinto eyingozi kakhulu). Kulokhu, ingane ingaba nomhawu, ulaka, kuyobonwa indoda entsha njengomuntu oncintisana naye, indoda izama ukweba uMamu kuye.

Kubalulekile ukuthi ungathuki ingane ngokubonakaliswa kobutha, kepha ungazami ukufundisa, kepha akukuguquli ngawe, akukuguquli wena, ngoba uzohlala umama wakho kuze kube phakade, futhi uzohlala umama waphakade, futhi uzohlala umama waphakade, futhi yindodana yakho kuze kube phakade. Kubaluleke kakhulu enganeni ukuthi indoda esondelene nayo iseduze naye. Kuzoba kuhle uma umuntu wakho ethola ubuhlobo obuyimfihlo nendodana yakho.

Namantombazane ngasikhathi sinye futhi kulula, futhi kube nzima ngokwengeziwe. Kungenzeka ukuthi indodakazi izoncintisana nendoda ngokunaka omama, ngaphansi. Esondela ebusheni, le ntombazane ingase kube lula ukuqonda imizwa kamama futhi ifise ngobuqotho injabulo yakhe.

Kodwa-ke, umuntu akufanele akhohlwe ukuthi le ndoda esendlini ihlala iyingozi engaba khona yentombazane (nokho, kumfana). Noma yikuphi okufudumele futhi okuthembela ebuhlotsheni bakho nothandekayo, zama ukungalahli amandla futhi uzwe njalo izingane zakho futhi uzikholwe.

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