Isibakala sokuba uBawo Amele ukuba abandakanyeke kubomi bomntwana onxunguphalo kunye noMama, batsho ngakumbi nangakumbi. Kuyinyani, ayingawo onke ama-moms okulungele ukwabelana ngononophelo kubantwana kunye noxanduva lwasekhaya kunye namaqabane abo (nokuba bafuna uncedo kunye nenkxaso). Kutheni le nto yenzeka kwaye indlela yokutshintsha, irina Zhigillilli itsho kwibhlog yokuzingca.
Uye wabona ukuba njani kwinkampani yoomama abancinci incoko kwingxoxo yothuli lokuqala kunye nezibonelelo zomntwana ukuqubha ziye "Ngaba umyeni wakho uyakunceda nomntwana?" Ubhala URebenok.by.
Isihloko, njengoko sivela, kwezinye iintsapho, umyeni usebenza kakhulu, intsapho ibona iveki nganye (kwaye emva kwesofa), kubantwana abanakuzithemba ngokubanzi, kuba " Yonke into iza kwenza okuphosakeleyo. " Kwindawo apho umyeni anganceda kuphela kuphela esele sele ekhule: "Ufuna ntoni ezi bantwana?". Kwaye ukuba indima kaMama ebomini bomntwana ayixoxwa (kukholelwa ukuba inkqubo yemfundo yabantwana ifakwe emfazini kwinqanaba lemvelo), ootata bathi akukho nkqubo yemfuza, kunye nokubandakanywa kwimfundo yabantwana ixhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo.
Kwenzeka loo nto kwiMfazwe Yasemva kweMfazwe, zonke izinto ezixhalabisayo malunga nosapho kwakufuneka zithathe abafazi. Isiphumo selusizi: izizukulwana zabantwana zaphakama ngaphandle komfanekiso kaBawo, abanakuqonda ukuba kufanele, ukuba uthini. I-90s yongezwe ioyile emlilweni, inyanzela bonke abantu abadala ukuba baphile kwimodi "yokusinda". Akusekho kwangaphambi kokuncokola kwaye baquka abazali, kwakuyimfuneko ukuba basebenze, bafumane, yima emgceni. Ke ngoko, esinye isizukulwana sabantwana abangabonanga oobawo xa besebudeni babo kwaye bengazi ukuba yintoni intsebenziswano yosapho.
Kutshanje siye saqhuba uhlolo oluncinci kwijelo le-telegraph ye-telegraph ye-telegraph kwaye icele ababhalisile: "Ngaba umama angawuchaphazela inqanaba lokubandakanyeka kukatata kwimfundo yomntwana?" Iipesenti ezingama-27 zabathathi-nxaxheba baphendula ngelithi umyeni wabo "ubandakanywa xa bexhasa isenzo sakhe ekukhuliseni abantwana esithi:" Ndicinga ukuba yonke into ifuna, ithathe inxaxheba kwi Ukukhuliswa kwabantwana " Kodwa ukufundisisa kukaSara-Sullivan noElizabhete, uElizabhete ungoobawo abalulekileyo. Wabonisa ukuba imvume yezenzo zooyihlo ngokunxulumene nomntwana wabo oqhelekileyo zidlala indima enkulu kwaye ichaphazela ukuthatha inxaxheba kootata kwixa elizayo.
Impendulo
Inkxaso yabathandekayo ibalulekile kuye wonke umntu. Ingakumbi ngalo mzuzu xa usenza into okokuqala, zama, funda, woyika ukwenza impazamo. Ingxelo enyanisekileyo nechanekileyo ibaluleke ngokulinganayo.Inyathelo lenkxaso
Ukubuya esibhedlele kunye nosana, oomakhulu nootatoseni, njengokujikeleza umntwana ngononophelo "," akuyi kuhlangabezana ", njl njl. Okanye ukuthembana a Isangqa esilinganiselweyo seminye yemihla ngemihla, uxanduva olulula: Ukuhamba ngomntwana, ngelixa umntwana elala, uhleli esitolo, ulungiselela ukuhlamba ukuhlamba. Ngenxa yoko, ootata bangenzi ithuba lokuthatha inyathelo lokuqala lokunxibelelana nomntwana, ukwakha umgca wabo wokuphakamisa. Ke ngoko, inyathelo lokuqala kule meko akufuneki luphumelele.
ITHENDA UMDLALO OBUNGILEYO
Oomama abaphethe umthwalo omkhulu woxanduva lokukhuliswa kwabantwana, bafumana umthwalo omkhulu wemihla ngemihla obambisa izigqibo ezahlukeneyo, ngamanye amaxesha, akakulungelanga ukuhambisa inkxalabo kumaqabane abo. Bakulungele ukushiya umntwana nge-nanny okanye umakhulu, kodwa hayi noYise, kuba "akanakukwazi ukumelana."Ulungelelwaniso lwemikhosi kwintsapho luye luqhele, ootata basuka kubantwana kwaye bamkele imigaqo apho bengafakwa khona kwisisombululo seengxaki zabazali ezikhoyo ngoku. Xa indoda, ekugqibeleni, ihlala inomntwana omnye, ngaphandle kokuba nezakhono zokhathalelo lwabantwana, engakhange ifakwe ngaphambili, ayithandi kakhulu oomama. Ewe kona, oomama abanakubuphelisa amagqabaza amahle: "Ndathi ukuyondla ezimbini!".
Ilungelo lempazamo
Sonke sinako ukuphoxeka. Ewe kunjalo, iikhosi ezininzi zabazali sele zibonakale, kwaye ootata babhalwa ngokukhulayo. Kodwa yonke ithiyori efanayo. Ukuziqhelanisa kuqala ngokuzalwa komntwana, akunakwenzeka ukulungiselela kwangaphambili. Rhoqo, oomama bale mihla abafuna ukuba ngabazali beencwadi, bezamkela zonke izimvo, ingcebiso yeengcali zengqondo, ukuba kukho into engahambanga kakuhle. Oku kuphelela zonke iindleko eziqhelekileyo. Kodwa le yindlela engaqhelekanga. Vumela into engalunganga!
Kubonakala ngathi ingxelo entle, inkxaso kumanyathelo, ukuzithemba kunye nelungelo lokwenza impazamo kwaye enze isiseko sobudlelwane kosapho, ovumela oomama, abavumela ukuba bakhulise abantwana ngamaqabane abo, kunye nophuhliso , kwaye amadoda afumana indima yawo katata, ukuba enze izakhono zabazali kwaye akhe unxibelelwano oluqinileyo nolonwabisayo nabantwana bakho.