I-Adress kubantwana abancinci luhlobo lwebhetri ..
"Kumntwana wonke omncinci, kunye nenkwenkwe, nentombazana, kukho amakhulu amabini e-uqhusping, okanye ekhuselekile ..." - khumbula amagama kwingoma yabantwana abamangalisayo? -Makhe sithethe ngendlela oku "kuqhuma" kukuziphatha kubantwana yiminyaka eli-1-3 ubudala, ebizwa ngokuba yimbonakalo yabantwana ngeli xesha.
Umntu omdala kunye nabantwana.
Ubundlongondlongo kubantwana abancinci luhlobo lwebhetri, intlawulo esenziwa ngamandla kunye nomxholo inokutshabalalisa into, kwaye iphinda isebenze ngokufanelekileyo kwaye izale iingenelo nomntwana, kunye nabazali.
Thina, sibe ngabantu abadala, sinokuthi: ndinomsindo, ndicaphukile, ndingathanda ukuyiqhekeza / itshabalalise, oko kukuthi, ukuyiqonda leliphi ilizwe. Kwaye ukukhulisa uluntu, sifumana imigangatho ethile, imigangatho kunye neendlela zokubonisa iimvakalelo, amazwe.
Imvakalelo enamava sinokuchaza ngohlobo oluthile lwentshukumo. Okanye ungaveli, kodwa hlaziya nje ngokwakho. Umzekelo, umolokazana wawunzima ukwakha ubudlelwane nonina, akunakwenzeka ukuba umfazi oqhelekileyo uya konakalisa umkhwa womzimba kumyeni kaMama. Umthetho--ngaphakathi mntu unokuthi "ukugaya" ukungoneliseki kwakhe, ukunika imeko karhulumente ngamazwi, iingxabano, ukuxelela ngale ntombi, ukhalaza nomyeni wakhe. KuBantwana abancinci, le nkqubo yengqumbo kunye nomsindo kunzima ngakumbi, abayiqondi imeko yabo, abanakubizwa ngokuba yintoni le baziva ngayo kwiminyaka eyi-1 ukuya kweli-9. Ukuba umntwana oneminyaka emibini ubudala wabetha ibhedi, ukuphendula, unokumkhwelisa kuye ngenxa yokuba emenze intlungu
I-Avress Emva konyaka iyindlela yokusabela kwezinye iimeko, iimeko, izinto, zinokuchazwa. Emva konyaka, inkqubo esebenzayo yokuphuhlisa uxolo, abantu, ukusebenzisana kunye nonxibelelwano luqala. Into esele ilungile. Ijika kufuneka yenziwe-ukuqokelela iphiramidi, ixabisa iziselo, kodwa ibhokisi othanda ukusebenzela. Kwaye ngenxa yoko - ukucaphuka, ukulahla le bhokisi engevalekileyo kunye nomsindo.
I-5 ibalulekile ukuba:- Ukuba umntwana akasebenzi into ethile (enxibe, enxibelelana netoyi, uqhuba ifolokhwe) kwaye uqalisa ukuba nomsindo, kubalulekile ukuba umxholo, kodwa unikezele nceda kwaye uyibonise ngcono kwaye ilungele ukuyenza. Veza kuphela, kodwa musa ukwenza umntwana. Nakwixa elizayo ukuhlala kufutshane nenkxaso.
- Ukuba uyayibona loo nto kwiNkqubo yoMdlalo oshukumayo, umntwana uyafakwa isitampu, ivumela ukuba ukuqhubekele kumdlalo kumdlalo, hleka, ungayihoyi isicelo, siyeke ukuba asidlali, kwaye sitshintshe Uhlobo lobuqhetseba (ukuYila, umsebenzi ngemibandela emininzi, ukukhetha iipuzzle).
- Ukuba umntwana unomsindo, udityaniswe ngezenzo zakho, zama ukungayiphenduli, musa ukuyikhuthaza kwakhona, mncede atshintshe kumdlalo. Umzekelo, umntwana oneminyaka emibini usekhitshini kwaye ufuna ikuki evela kumama. Kunye nexesha lesidlo sasemini lihlala lincinci. Ukuphendula ukwala kukaMama, uqala ukuba nomsindo. Kungcono ukubonelela ngento engalindelekanga emntwaneni ngelo xesha (ukunceda ukucoca ibhalbhu, faka izitya ezimbini kwaye ubonise ukuba ungayicima njani i-croup kunye ne-t.).
- Ukuba umsindo womntwana uhamba kunye nesikhalo, iheksterical, uqalisa ukuphosa iikys, kubalulekile ukuba uthi: "Ndiyaqonda, kuya kufuneka uzole, kufuneka uzolile. " Kwaye emva koko zama ukufumana unobangela. Ukuba umntwana ukhutshelwe ukuphendula, uyakhaba, kungcono ukuba ayeke umntwana okwethutyana akhuselekile kwaye aphume aye kwigumbi elilandelayo ngaphandle kokuvala iminyango kwaye aqhubeke nonxibelelwano kuphela xa sele eyokuzala. Kwaye mdumise ngalo mzuzu.
- Ukuba umntu ovela kubazali okanye othandekayo uvumela isohlwayo somzimba nxamnye nomntwana, ke ayifanelekanga ukuba imangaliswe yinkqubo yokucoca nokuphindaphinda abazali okanye abantwana. Abantwana abaphezulu abakhuliswa ngoncedo lokutohlwaya ngokwasemzimbeni, besebenzisa amandla abo abancinci, besebenzisa amandla abantwana abancinci, ngaloo ndlela beyicacisa ukuba ezo mdala zinokubetha kancinci (kuba uMama noTata banikwa umzekelo onjalo).
Ukucutha inqanaba lokukhathalela abantwana abaneminyaka emi-1 ukuya kweleminyaka, kuya kubakho iindlela zokudlala eziphantsi komzali ngamnye kwaye azifuni kuzakhono ezizodwa.
- "I-Grozny", "HMURAY" (okanye indlela yokucinga) umqamelo, ipere okanye ibhola (i-phytball, umzekelo) Sizisebenzisa ukuba siphume kwi-ardares kwaye siqokelele uxinzelelo ebantwaneni. Kodwa akukho kwimeko yokuba singanikeli ne-hammer enokubethelela ukubetha iithoyi ezithambileyo, kunye nomdlalo womntu ovela kwizalamane nabantwana. Kuphela zizifundo ezingezizo. Ngokwesiqhelo i-splash enjalo isebenza kakuhle emntwaneni kwaye iyazolile.
-Iphepha eliqhelekileyo okanye iphephandaba. Banokuzikrazula, bazenzele ezinye zazo, ziphose ezi ziqhushumbisi ebhaskithini, roll. Ifanele ichaze ukuba inokwenzeka ukuba ikhuphe, kwaye izama ukwaphula iincwadi ukuba zilumkise kwaye zichaze ukuba zenze ntoni. Iziqwenga zephepha elikratshiweyo zinokusetyenziselwa ubugcisa. Umzekelo, shicilela kumshicileli okanye uzobe umfanekiso wentaka okanye iingubo zentaka okanye iingubo, skeare intsimi ye-glue efanelekileyo, kunye neziqwenga ezincinci zephepha elinomntwana, ifafaza okanye zigxume. Kwaye emva kokudumisa umntwana ukuba abe ngumfanekiso omangalisayo.
-Ukudlala umsindo kumdlalo. Ungadlala umdlalo weedoli kunye nezinto ezinomntwana, apho "i-Bear Glo", "ikati" yekati "yekati", eyenzakalisayo, ivela kwiskripthi. Kwaye ngexesha lesenzo, chaza ukuba iyeza, njengoko ikhathaza abanye oonobumba, njengoko bengafuni ukudlala kwaye kwenzeka njani ukuba, kwaye kufanelekile, kwaye kuhle kwaye kuzisola.
-Ukuyila yindlela ephumelele kakhulu yokukhupha ubundlobongela babantwana, ukungoneliseki nokucaphukisa. Iklasitine iluncedo, inhlama yetyuwa, ubunzima bemodeli - zonke ezi zizinto ezimangalisayo zokubonisa iimvakalelo kunye namazwe, kubandakanya ne-negative. I-LIPIM, kunye nomntwana, imeko, umzekelo, i-hedgehog okanye isithintelo emva koko sinike umntwana ukuba siyihombise, songeze iinkcukacha, siguqule.
-Umanzi yinto elungileyo. Sebenzisa le ndlela, kufanelekile ukuba ujonge i-odolo endlwini kunye nokukwazi ukudlala ngamanzi ngaphandle kwemiphumo kuhlobo lweepuddle ezinkulu kunye neekhaphethi ezimanzi. Kungcono ukuba uyenze kwigumbi lokuhlambela kwi-balin elungileyo. Ungamnika umntwana ukuba abethe i-goam yesepha, aphuphuma amanzi avela kwinqanawa enye, ukusuka kwenye imbumba enye.
Umntwana okwangoku ubudala uhlala ebangela ukuba iintlungu zingazi. Ungumntu owenza umzimba wakhe, umzimba osondeleyo kunye nabantu abangqongileyo. Kwaye ube nowokubonwa ngobuntu ngumdala "Ukuluma kwe-cuckoo" kuye kunokuba yi-akin kumdlalo ngebhola, xa ikhutshiwe iguqukile, isuswe kwaye ikhutshiwe. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ukuzama okunjalo ukwenza ukuba umntwana anganxibelelani ngentlungu.
Inyathelo 1. Musa ukuphinda inyathelo lomntwana kwimpendulo, zama ukungahleki kwaye ungancumi ukuphendula;
Inyathelo 2. Ukuthetha ngalo lonke ixesha umntwana ngokuzithemba, ngokuzolileyo- "Yenza kakubi", "Mama / Utata / utata)";
Inyathelo 3. Ukuphendula ukunikezela "Masime ngcono Pope / Mama" kwaye ubonise ukuba ungabetha njani kwisandla esithandwayo, hug;
Inyathelo 4. Sebenzisa ubugqwirha olunye lokuziphatha nabo bonke abo basondeleyo nomntwana, ukuba uyagcinwa, ukuluma kwaye t. Utata wathi "Ngombindi", ootat'omkhulu "bayayibona loo nto indlela yokuziphatha.
Xa ndandineminyaka emibini, ukucaphuka kwabantwana kunye nomsindo kudla ngokunxulumana nezithintelo. Akufanelanga ukuba kungabikho bans 20, 40 okanye nangaphezulu. Kufuneka kubekho inani eliqingqiweyo: Akunakwenzeka, kuba "kubuhlungu" okanye "kuyingozi". Unokongeza amabinzana athi "Ay-Ah", "Chi chi", oza kulumkisa umntwana kwangaphambili ukuba wenza into engalunganga. Kubantwana emva kweminyaka eyi-1.5, kubalulekile ukuba sithumele iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye unomsindo "," Awuthandi "," aniyithandi into oyivinjelayo "kunye nengxelo ngohlobo" Ndiyakuqonda "," masizame ukulungisa kunye, "Ukuba wenjenjalo, iya kuba ...". Kwaye kuyayimfuneko ukwenza indlela ecacileyo yemida yemvume: Ukuba umama / uTata uthe "Hayi", emva koko ukhwaze, umsindo ukufezekisa oko kunqwenelekayo.
Inyathelo 1. Okwangoku xa umntwana ephosa itoyitha elandelayo ejimeni lomsindo, kufanelekile ukuba asondele kuye, athabathele ezantsi esiya kuthi ga ngoku, wenze kakubi. Asidlali ngeethoyi. Kwaye ke zama ukutshintsha, kwaye kwikamva kubalulekile ukuba ucebise ukugoba iithoyi ezisasazekileyo. Ukuba umntwana uyala ukwenza le nto, sebenzisa ubugcisa bomdlalo, njengokunxiba unodoli wokudlala esandleni kwaye ucele into yokudlala ukunceda umama aze emva koko adumise. Okanye unike enye yeento zokudlala ezisasazekileyo kumntwana ngesandla nakwindlela yomdlalo wembambano ebonisa ukuza ngokukhawuleza kwibhasikithi eneithoyi. Kwimeko enjalo, isiphumo sibalulekile: ukuze okungenani ithole elincinci losana ngokwakhe abeke endaweni.
Inyathelo 2. Ukuba umntwana akasebenzi into, ukuba anike uncedo lwakhe kwaye abonise indlela yokulungisa imeko, emva koko ahambe kuphela nomntwana xa esenza inyathelo, kwaye akhuthaze.
Inyathelo 3. Xa umntwana etyhala, uyatsala - yema kwaye ecacisa ukuba kutheni ungakwenzi oko. Ukuba ukuphendula, umntwana uyandihleka, uqhubeka ukulwa, uye kwelinye igumbi kwaye xa ethoba ihlathi, ukucacisa ukuba, uya kudlala yedwa.
Imfazwe yabantwana yaselokuqala ikwimeko yasebutsheni yinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye akunyanzelekanga ukuba yoyike. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukunikela ingqalelo kumntwana wakho kwaye uzame ukukhetha "amaqhosha" kuye ngexesha.