Umntu ngamnye unezimvo zayo ngobomi ngokuxhomekeke kwiVidiyo yakhe yeHlabathi kunye namava obomi, kwaye azibonakalise kwimeko yobomi. Imeko yobomi yinto nganye yokunxibelelana nabanye, ulwazi lwalo eluntwini, iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokuziphatha kunye nokuphendula imeko. Ukusuka kwiseti yokhetho olukhoyo ngokukhetha okukhoyo, kwaye emva koko wakhe ubomi bayo ngokungqinelana nale modeli.
Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi imodeli oyikhethileyo? Jonga imifanekiso eboniswe kwaye ukhethe oyithandayo.
1. "Iyeza imini, kwaye ubomi benene buqale." Le modeli yokuziphatha ayiqhelekanga umntu olinde ubomi benene. Uthatha yonke into eyenzekayo kuphela ngentshayelelo, uphononongo, idrafti yobomi. "Ngoku ndiphila" Indlela Iphetsha Ngayo ", kwaye ke ndiza kuqala ukuphila ngokokwenene." Kodwa oku "ke" zinokuhlala ubomi bakhe bonke, kwaye umntu akaphili, kodwa ulungiselela kuphela ubomi. IXESHA LOKUGQIBELA, IWaboshi, Iintsuku, iminyaka, ngokungathi akukho kubo. Ndifuna ukuyenza le "ikamva eliqaqambileyo", kwaye okwangoku libonakala liqinile. Kwenziwe ntoni? Funda ukuba "ubambe amaxesha amangalisayo", uphila lonke ixesha. Yakha izicwangciso zecandelo elincinci kwaye uvuye ngokubulawa kwabo. Kwaye ukuba ayizaliseki, incokola nobomi "Enkosi" ngamava axabisekileyo. Imotto: "Yima, kwangoko! Ulungile! ".
2. "Ndihlala kuphela xa ndidala into entsha" umntu onobuyisi uhlala ngaxeshanye "apha kwaye ngoku" kunye "nexesha", eqondayo kuphela kwisiphumo soyilo. Ixesha elidlulileyo alisasebenzi kakuhle, kwaye ikamva lingaqondakali. Kwaye namhlanje eyona nto iphambili kukwazi nokuqonda. Inkqubo yohlalutyo lwangaphakathi ngayo ibaluleke ngakumbi kunehlabathi elibonakalayo kunye nolwalamano nabanye. "Ubomi bakhe bangaphakathi" bubaluleke ngakumbi kune "ngaphandle", ke, intsapho kunye nabantu endibathandayo bahlala bephosa ingqalelo nokukhathalela. Kodwa yena ngokwakhe ufuna ukuthathelwa ingqalelo, ukwamkelwa nokuvavanya ubuchule bakhe, ngenxa yoko ukhubekile kwaye ungatshintshi. Kwenziwe ntoni? Phakathi kokukhangela kunye nokufunyanwa, kubalaselisa ixesha losapho kunye nabahlobo, ukuzonwabisa kunye nezinto zokuzonwabisa. Yonke le nto iya kuba ngomnye umthombo wokuphefumlelwa.
3. "Ndiyinto endiyifezekisile." Le yimodeli yobomi ophumeleleyo osoloko efuna iinjongo eziphezulu. Ngaye, "namhlanje" lithuba elipheleleyo lokufezekisa ikamva. Lowo wenze "ngokwakhe" ngumntu ongaziva wanelisa iziphumo, kuba kuhlala kukho injongo entsha ngaphambili. "Ndiva ubomi bam ndifikelela phezulu." Kodwa le mvakalelo ihlala ihleli, kwaye ke intshabalalo kunye nokunxanelwa impumelelo entsha iza. Le modeli inokuqwalaselwa yanamhlanje, iguquguquka kwaye izaneleyo. Sifundiswa ukuseta usukelo kwaye sizenze, sivavanya umntu ngokweziphumo sayo. Kodwa kuya kufuneka ucinge: Ngaba kufanelekile ukuchitha ixesha? Zama ukonwabela inkqubo. Kunye nemizuzu yoloyiso kunye nezinto eziphunyeziweyo "zolula" kunye "nokulandela". Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, endleleni eya kwiincopho ezilungele iindawo ezifanelekileyo kunye nabahambi abamangalisayo.
4. "Amaphupha, amaphupha! Buyintoni ubumnandi bakho? " Umntu onamathela kule modeli yobomi liphupha kunye ne-fantasist. Uyayazi indlela yokuyeka "kwinye indlela eyinyani, kwihlabathi lalapho kungekho ngxaki kunye nobunzima. Inokuba ziincwadi, iimovie, imidlalo yekhompyuter, imibono. Umntu uphulukana nemvakalelo yexesha, akabuboni ubomi benene onesithukuthezi. Isizathu sokukhetha imodeli yobomi efanayo kuzo zombini iimpawu zobuqu kunye nokungahambelani kweemfuno zabantu kunye neemfuno zabo. Umntu owothusayo akanakuhambelana nefom yomfanekiso kunye nomlo. Akafuni msebenzi, kwaye uxelelwe ukuba: "Kufuneka ube uphumelele." Umntu onobuthathaka nonobuthathaka "ngaphandle kolusu" uziva kakubi kwiimeko zokhuphiswano kunye nomnqweno wokufumana izibonelelo. Ukuziva "akulunganga kobu bomi", ungene kwihlabathi lenkohliso, ukuxelisa ubomi. Kulungile ukuba umntu onjalo unesibonelelo esibalulekileyo-ubuchule bokuyila kunye nokucinga okuyilayo. Cinga ukubona kwaye wenze entsha, kunye nokusebenza ngokuzenzekelayo, kunokufezekisa kakhulu ngaphandle kokutshabalalisa ubuntu bakhe.
5. "Umkhwa ongaphezulu koko unikwe, ukutshintshwa kolonwabo." Le modeli isekwe ekuthotyelweni ngokungqongqo nemithetho, imilinganiselo nemiyalelo. Banokwaziswa emntwini ovela ngaphandle (abazali, uluntu) okanye owenziwe nguye, kodwa kwixa elizayo lusisiseko sobukho. Ke kuya kuba lula ukuba uphile, kuba yonke into ilawulwa kwaye ixelwe kwangaphambili, kodwa iphile- kuthetha "yonke into entsha kwaye engaziwa. Ukwenza ukhetho kuzinzo, umntu uphulukana nethuba lokuhamba, ukufumana iimvakalelo ezintsha. Ukuphila ngokwemigaqo-kuthetha ukuba "ziqhube kwisakhelo", yenza ukuba ubomi bakho bube kukuqikeleleka. Cinga: Imithetho onamathela njani ukuze uhlangabeze iimfuno zakho? Ngaba ikhona intsingiselo kuyo? Ngaba bakwenza wonwabe, kwaye ubomi bakho bukhululekile? Ewe kunjalo, ayisiyo mithetho kaRhulumente, kodwa malunga nemithetho owakha ulwalamano nabantu kunye nehlabathi.
6. "Ubomi bukhangele intsingiselo yobomi." Le modeli ithetha ukuba ubomi bomntu bulawulwa ziintswelo eziphezulu, zezokomoya. Obu bomi - Inkonzo, inkonzo, imbono, umntu. Ukukhetha loo mkhwa yokuphila, umntu uzibeka iinjongo zabanye ngaphezu kwabo, ngoko kuhlala kuzincama izilangazelelo zakhe. Le modeli ihambelana neendima ezintathu eziphambili: umhlanguli, umkhuseli noMdali. Ngaphandle kwabo, ubukho boluntu ukuba liphela kwaye umntu ohlukileyo akanakwenzeka. Kuphela kukuqonda ukuba imeko yobomi enjalo ivumela umntu ukuba anyamezele ubunzima bomsebenzi okhethiweyo, njengoko uyaqonda ukuba obu bunzima bunzima. Ewe, ukuba kukho abantu abasondeleyo kuMoya, kwaye usapho luyayazi indlela yokuqonda nokuxhasa usapho. Ubomi bugcinwa kubantu abanjalo, kodwa bahlala bahlala lula ukuphila.
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