UCinderella oyinkimbinkimbi akuyona indaba ekhuluma ngempilo ejabulisayo, kepha inkinga yangempela engaphanga ikusasa.
Yini iCinderella Complex?
Lesi simo umuntu wesifazane ebunzweni ngeke avumele izinganekwane zezingane ngezikhulu ezinhle futhi zilinde uMsindisi wazo. Uyaqiniseka ukuthi ngolunye usuku kunomuntu ophelele ozomthatha ehhashini elimhlophe empilweni ejabulisayo.I-Psychologist Villay Village Dialing, yaqala ukwethula leli gama futhi labhala ngaye incwadi ethi "Cinderella Complex", ikholelwa ukuthi inkinga yenkinga isifiso sezimpilo zabo eMsindisini, okungahlali kutholakala kwangempela Umhlaba.
Yini eyingozi lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi?
• Intombazane idonsela cishe bonke abafana ngenxa yokuthi abahambelani nengqondo enakho ekhanda lakhe. Kwesinye isikhathi kuhlala impilo yonke. Kwenzeka ngokuphambene nalokho: Intombazane ikhetha noma yimuphi umfana ojwayelekile noma omncane, olungiselelwe ukushada ngokushesha ukuze angahlali yedwa.
• UCinderella uthanda ukuguqula umthwalo kwabanye, ngakho-ke akudingekile ukusola yonke inkinga, kepha umhlaba onzima.
• I-Complex iguqula intombazane yomuntu othile ethatha noma iyiphi inkinga njengokuhlupheka lapho kudingeka udlule khona ukuze uthole injabulo. Akakwazi ukwenqaba noma ngubani futhi enze noma yimuphi umsebenzi ongcolile, ngoba akholelwa lokho ngokubekezela kuyobekwa impilo ejabulisayo ngokuzayo.
Ngabe uCinderella uyinkimbinkimbi kangakanani?
Kunezizathu eziningana:• Ingane. Abanye abazali baqhutshwa ngamadodakazi ukuthi yiyona kuphela amakhosazana futhi ahlukile kuphela abantu abahle kakhulu abakufanele. Ngokwengxenye lokhu kuyaqondakala, ngoba kubazali izingane zabo zikhethekile impela, kepha akukufanele ukukhulisa ingane ngesimo esinjalo.
Kwesinye isikhathi okuyinkimbinkimbi kuyathuthuka ngenxa yenye indlela yokukhuliswa. Lapho amantombazane ethi kufanele usebenze njalo, hlangana futhi uhlupheke, ukuze uthole injabulo.
• Ukwesaba Impumelelo. Abanye besaba ukuzimela nokuthatha impilo ezandleni zabo, ngakho-ke baqala ukufuna ukusindiswa komunye umuntu ozothatha isikhundla sabazali abakhathalelayo.
• Ukwesaba isizungu. Le nto ilandela kusukela kwangaphambilini: Owesifazane wesaba isizungu, ngakho-ke ufuna okungenani "inkosana" ethile.
Izimpawu zeCinderella Complex
• Izidingo ezeqile
• Ukuntuleka kwemibono yomuntu
• Namandla
• Ukuqonda
Ungayinqoba kanjani iCinderella Complex?
Amantombazane anesidingo esiyinkimbinkimbi sokufunda ukusho ukuthi "Cha," awesabi ukuveza umbono wakho, yeka ngethemba lokusindiswa bese uqala ukuhlala empilweni yangempela, ukuze uphile ngolunye usuku.