Ndinomhlobo ongayithandiyo indoda yakhe.
Ijongeka ngathi le yintsapho eqhelekileyo: Umama-Day-abantwana. Umoya ophakathi, ubomi bobulingane, bantwana abanobuchule, umyeni oyenziwe kakuhle. Kodwa baninzi kakhulu abantu, banxibelelane nolu ntsapho, baqonde ukuba umfazi akayithandi indoda yakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala kum ukuba nendoda iyaqonda. Qonda yonke into.
Ukongeza kwi-heroine yam ngokwayo.
Kudala ndicinga ngale meko iminyaka eliqela. Kwaye ukuba ubuza kum, apho ndathabatha khona ukuba angamthandi, bendibiza "iminxeba" ezimbalwa. "
Ekuqaleni. Kuba amehlo akhe uyamncoma ngalo lonke ixesha, ade adumise, ngalo. Ukumamela kwakhe yindoda efezekileyo, umyeni ofezekileyo, utata omangalisayo, iqhawe lenoveli yakhe. Kwangelo xesha, kubonakala ngathi, ngokungathi uyazicenga.
Kwaye xa esekunye naye, akukho 'lulwalamano oluqinisekileyo "ukusuka koku kunye nomkhondo. Uyamcaphukisa. Amahlaya akhe akahlekisi kuye. Xa waqiqa, waphosa amehlo akhe, akaphulaphuli, ukuphazamisa. Kwaye ndifuna ukubuza: Emva, yile ... umyeni notata ogqibeleleyo! Ngaba yena, le ndoda, ewe? Kanjani?!
Ngamanye amaxesha ibizwa. Ukuba ayingengam indoda yakhe, uthi, bendiya kuhlala ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ndiza kuba yi-egogei! Bendingayinyibili eluthandweni lobomi bentsapho obonwabisayo. Hayi, hayi, ewe, bonwabile, kwaye ndandinethamsanqa, indoda yam yigolide, kodwa ... bendifuna konke. Hayi apha. Hayi ngale ndlela.
Andinalungelo lokugweba umntu ngento ahlala kuyo. Kokukhetha awakwenzayo.
Kodwa kule meko, rhoqo uqwenga phakathi kokuchasana phakathi kokutsho, kwaye ijongeka njani, ndiyaqonda ukuba lo mfazi uyazikhohlisa. Nomyeni wam. Kodwa kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba. Kuba okuninzi ngakumbi.
Yintoni ephosakeleyo ngesiqu? Ngento yokuba ungaqondi ukuba ungaphili ubomi bakho. Ubonakala ngathi uyaphila. Kwaye ubomi buyahamba. Kwaye ngaphezu koko - idlule.
Unokuzikhetha le ndoda, kuba inesidima, ifundile, unguBawo olungileyo nobomi kwiNdlu "bonke endlwini". Awuthandanga, kodwa uyaqonda ukuba kukhetho olulungileyo kwaye ukhetho lwakho. Kwaye uyaphila, ungazami ukwenza kube nzima ukugcina ubukhoboka bothando nomtshato ofanelekileyo.
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha iyenzeka ukuba uziqinisekisile: ulungile kakhulu kangangokuba ndimthanda. Kulungile, okanye uthando. Umama uthi mathi: Yiza, igama lakho lithi, ngakumbi, lo mfo ulungile. Kwaye xa yayingasebenzi, ke emva kweminyaka emininzi, kubi ukuba kujongwe kukujonga kakhulu. Yamkela into yokuba ndiphosakele, kuthetha wonke umfanekiso ofanelekileyo wokufumana iminyaka emininzi kwaye amandla amaninzi.
Kutshanje ndiqonda ukuba sincinci kangakanani.
Onjani wona umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwezinto esibonisa "ngaphakathi", yeyiphi ebonakala ngathi, kwaye injani inyani.
Kulungile kakhulu ukuba ingabonwa kwiMiboniso eyahlukileyo yokwenyani, umzekelo. Apha iqhawe lithetha nekhamera: "Andisokuze ndiphume ndinomdla kumntu, ndiyabahlonela bonke kwaye ndikhokelele umdlalo onyanisekileyo." Kwaye imizuzu emihlanu elandelayo iyasikwa, apho iqhawe lihle kakhulu 'nabahlobo bakho kwiprojekthi ", iyathandeka kwaye ikhokelele umdlalo onganyanisekanga. Kwaye emva kwayo yonke loo nto, akazami ukukhohlisa nabani na xa enika udliwanondlebe, ucinga ngaye. Ewe, le nto ingenamdla ... kakuhle, ngokuqinisekileyo, ucinga ukuba "Oku kwahlukile."
Ukunyaniseka kuye kunzima ngakumbi kunokunyaniseka kwabanye. Kodwa ukuze siphile, siyinyani kwaye sivisisanayo, kwaye ukuze singavezi umboniso wolonwabo, intlalo-ntle okanye impumelelo (kungekuphela kwinethiwekhi yentlalo, ebonwa kakhulu), ifanele yenziwe.
Apha, ndineengcinga zanamhlanje ezizezona ngokwesiko ndinoluntu njengogqirha we-psychologist, kuphela kuba # downtry.
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