Ibali likaMaryman Darmir aliqhelekanga, kuba ayingabo bonke mna magogo omele siliva kumzukulwana wabantu abadala owukhululekileyo. Kodwa yayiziintshaba ezichanekileyo ezinjalo zokuphulaphula i-American Martor. Wayesondele kakhulu kumzukulwana wakhe, kodwa wonke iminyaka engama-22 akazange aqaphele nantoni na engaqhelekanga.
Imfundo kaMabhinqa
UMariya Darmer wazalelwa kwi-50s. kwi-NYC. Ukhulele kwintsapho yegunya kwaye wafunda kwiSikolo samaKatolika eBronx, apho abafundi bacacisa ngokucacileyo ukuba abantu banobulungisa, kwaye boni.
Emva kokuba iMarieland yafudukela eTexas, abasebenzi banembono yolondolozo. Isibakala sokuba kukho into eyahlukileyo yabantu, uSodolophu ngelo xesha kwaye akakwazanga ukucinga. Okokuqala ngqa kubunzima bokwabelana ngesondo nomntu, wafunda xa wangena kwisikolo se-palatical. Kwimeko yobuchule bekukho abantu "bengafani nabantu bonke."
Iphupha lomzukulwana
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Xa uMariya wayesele eneminyaka engama-50, kwavela umzukulwana wakhe wokuqala. Eli bhinqa lalinentombi kuphela, ke yayihlala iphupha inkwenkwe. Ukuze ube kufutshane nabazukulwana, wabuyela eNew York.
Intombi isebenza kakhulu, ke umakhulu wam wayebandakanyeka kwimfundo yenkwenkwe phantse lonke ixesha. UMarieland watshintsha umsebenzi wakhe, wabhalwa kwaye wavuma ukuba amalungelo abantu basetyhini. Ngubani owaziyo ukuba kungekudala uza kufuneka akwazi ukujongana namalungelo omzukulwana wakhe.
Umakhulu oqhelekileyo kunye nomzukulwana ongaqhelekanga
UMarieland wayefuna ukukhulisa inkwenkwe ukuba ayizange iqaphele ukuba intombi yentombazana iphela. Uyibeka kwiifutshane kwaye ihempe, ethengiwe iimoto, iirobhothi kunye neepistols. Kwaye inkwenkwe yayingenamdla kwaphela. UMariyaan wade wajonga kumzukulwana wesikolo, apho wafunda khona amakhwenkwe akhe kuphela. Kodwa akakwazanga ukumelana ixesha elide. Kwakufuneka nditshintshe iziko lemfundo ngesikolo esiqhelekileyo. Emva koko uMartan emva koko akazange asinike le nto, ethatha isigqibo sokuba iGrases yayingenalo ubudlelwane kwiqela.
@Mdurmer
Okulandelayo yayikholejini neyunivesithi. Kulo lonke eli xesha, uMaryan akazange abone izinto ezingaqhelekanga kwinkwenkwe yakhe. Ucinge nzulu ngomtshakazi kumzukulwana. Umntu ukhule, wankqonkqozwa 22, kwaye kwakungekho ntombazana ikufuphi. UMaryan waphupha ngabakhulu abakhulu.
Ukuvuma i-Frank
Xa iMarieland yaqala ukuyithintela lo mfo kwinto yokuba lixesha lokufumana intombi, wamnduluka ngokuqonda ngokungagungqiyo. Kwavela ukuba yonke le minyaka ingama-22 umntu oza kuba ngumfazi. Uvumile umakhulu wakhe, ongathanda ukutshintsha umgangatho.
@Mdurmer
UMariya wothuka. Wayengayiqondi indlela angakwaziyo ukuwabona ngayo utshintsho olukhulu kumzukulwana. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, babesondele kakhulu, inkwenkwe yabelana nogogo wakhe ngazo zonke izinto ezifihlakeleyo, ezithembele kuye. Ke uMariya wacinga lonke eli xesha. Kodwa akuvunyelwanga njalo. Utata wayesazi malunga nomzukulwana hayi.
Thatha inyani yayingekho lula
Ngelixa le ndoda ilungiselela intsebenzo yesondo, uMariyas uza kuba ngumakhulu kwakhona - ngoku umzukulwana. Umfazi uyavuma ukuba ekuqaleni ebenzima kuye ukuba athathe ubunyani, kuba waphule yonke indawo yobomi bakhe. Waziswa ngokwahlukileyo. Kwaye nangona kwindawo yengcali yabadlali, wajonga kakhulu, kodwa wayengalindelanga ukuba i-trygender iyonke kwintsapho yakhe.
Emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa zothusayo, uthando lomzukulwana uphumelele. UMariya wabhalela inkwenkwe yakhe, exhasa i-100% kwaye ilungele ukuvela umzukulwana. Waqala ukufunda uncwadi kwaye ubukele iimovie malunga nokuba kudluliselwa njani phantsi, indlela abantu abavakalelwa ngayo komnye umzimba. Kwancedwa kakhulu kuko-I-Autes yabadlali abadumileyo, ngenxa yengxaki ye-transgender eyeka ukuba yinto engavumelekanga.
Ngoku uMartan ufumana kuphela oko umzukulwana wakhe akhutyekiswe yinto ethile. Umzekelo, yibize igama elifanayo okanye umxelele ". Isibakala sokuba abantu abaninzi babonakala ngathi bathabathile, iTransgender ibonwa kakhulu.
UMaryAn uyazisola kuphela ukuba kukho iinkumbulo ezininzi kakhulu kunye neefoto ngomzukulwana. Kodwa ukuba umntu angakhululekanga emzimbeni wakhe, udinga uncedo, angahambi. Ibali likaMaryAN Umzukulwana wakhe wafundisa ukubuxabisa ubomi bokwenene.