Ngentwasahlobo ye-2020, sonke sagcina imimangaliso yamandla omntu yokuhlangabezana nokungaqiniseki. I-phandemic ekuqaleni kwasekuqaleni kwakhokelela kwiimbono zasendle malunga nentsholongwane, oogqirha, abezopolitiko kunye namazwe abo. Abantu basabela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Abanye bakhokela i-alarm yabo ngaphandle, ngenxa yoko ulwaphulo-mthetho olukhula kabukhali, uqhankqalazo lwaphakanyiswa kwihlabathi jikelele. Abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ngaphakathi: inani lokuzibulala kunye noxinzelelo kwandiswa kakhulu. Abantu banexhala, bangcwatywa kwaye baphambana. Umntu ozamile ukuphazamiseka. Imidlalo yeVidiyo, Utywala, iziyobisi - nantoni na, ukuba "kuphela yimeko."
Kubonakala ngathi i-phandemic iphantse ilungele umzabalazo onobuthathaka obukhulu bengqondo yoluntu: uloyiko lokungaziwa.
Ngalo lonke ixesha senza into, singayiqondi kakuhle iziphumo, siya emngciphekweni. Kwaye ukusukela ebomini kukho ukungaqiniseki, kuhlala kukho umngcipheko. Kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuvavanya ngokuchanekileyo amandla akhe kunye nexabiso lakhe. Ukuba ukungaqiniseki kubonakala kulawulwa, sigcina ukuzola kunye ne-bound.
Xa singazi ngaphezu komngcipheko - xa ukungaqiniseki kubaluleke kakhulu kangangokuba akunakwenzeka ukubala iimpembelelo kunye nomngcipheko kwiintloko zethu, kwaye asazi ukuba masenze ntoni nabo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, iimvakalelo zesilwanyana zibangelwa, kwaye sicinga okona kubi. Sijonga yonke indawo yethu ebonakalayo njengesisongelo.
Uloyiko olungaziwa lunokukhokelela kwisigulo sengqondo, zibangela amava aqinileyo. Ngenxa yoko, samkela izigqibo ezingalunganga zemali, umsebenzi ohluthayo kwaye uzive ungonwabanga. Kwaye xa le nto isebenza kuyo lonke inkcubeko, oku kukhokelela ekubonakalisweni kwengqondo kunye neGohoritism. Xa uluntu lusoyika ngokudibeneyo, abantu baya kuthobela igunya, bangayi kukhululeka isikhephe.
Kodwa ukuzithemba kukukhohlisa. Ebomini, akwanele, kwaye mhlawumbi akunjalo. Ke ngoko, sizama ke ukuzama ukuhambisa ubomi bethu - senza iigrafu, imikhwa yefom kunye nemigaqo, landela imigaqo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha lo mnqweno woku-odolwa kukude kakhulu. Ke, ngexesha lobhubhane, abantu abaninzi baza ngokukhawuleza 'benentembelo' kwinto abayaziyo ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Abanye bafumana intsholongwane engabi ngaphezu kwe "umkhuhlane onzima", abanye bakholelwa ukuba umhlaba uza kutshintsha ngonaphakade, kwaye awusekho! Ithiyori yeyelenqe isasazeke ngesantya esiqaqambileyo kwaye ekugqibeleni yayekelela ngakumbi.
Kwaye inyaniso yayisisi - kwaye ihleli - kwinto yokuba singazi ukuba senzeka ntoni esihogweni.
Ukuba sempilweni kwaye wonwabe, kufuneka ufumane igolide embindini. Kufuneka yamkelwe into yokuba ukungaqiniseki kwehlabathi, kuba kusivumela ukuba sitshintshe, sifunde kwaye siziqhelanise nemiceli mngeni. Kodwa kwangaxeshanye, sifuna inqanaba elithile lokuqiniseka ukuba siziva ukhuseleko kwaye ubuncinci benza ngathi siyayazi into esiyenzayo. Umbuzo yindlela yokufumana le bhalansi.
Ungaphila njani nokungaqinisekiUkukhula kwaye kuyachuma, kufuneka okungenani ukunyamezelana ngokungaqiniseki. Ke indlela yokuhlangabezana nayo? Ungajongana njani uloyiko olungaziwayo?
1. Ukuzizama ukuzama iimvakalelo ezimbiEyona nto iphambili kwintanda-bulumko yam kukuba kokukhona siyaziphepha iimvakalelo ezingalunganga, kokukhona ngandlel 'ithile bankqonkqoza e-Rut.
Xa ungawuhoyi umsindo wakho, uyaqokelela, kwaye emva koko uqhume kwelona xesha lingeyomfuneko.
Xa ungayihoyi into yokuba unolwaphulo-mthetho ohlangabezana nabazali, kwaye wenze ngathi yiyo yonke into ngolungelelwano phakathi kwakho, le nxeba iqhubeka isondliwe kwaye idala iminyaka, ukuba ayingabo bonke ubomi.
Kwaye ukutyeshela ixhala kunye nokungonwabi kangangokuba ufumana ubuso bokungaqiniseki, kuyaphazamisa kuphela.
Kukho izifundo ezininzi ezinomdla ezinxibelelanisa ukusetyenziswa kweefowuni eziphathwayo ngokuxhalabisa ngokungamathemba. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, akunakwenzeka ukuthetha ngolwalamano lwengozi, kodwa kukho into enokubakho kuyo. Izazinzulu zikholelwa ukuba xa ubaleka inyani, ukufihla efowunini, ukuvela kwakho kwemihla ngemihla ukungaqiniseki kuyancipha. Kodwa xa unamava amancinci ekoyiseni ukungcungcuthekiswa kwemihla ngemihla, kunye nemeko nganye elandelayo ukuze ukwazi ukujongana nzima ngakumbi.
Ungazoba umlinganiso ngobugomi. Ukuba awuzange ujamelene nosulelo ebomini, amajoni omzimba akho awazange alwe nabo, kuba wayengenakuyenza. Ke ngoko, kunokwenzeka ukwandisa ukumelana nokungaqiniseki ukuba uyayivavanya rhoqo.
2. Veza imikhwa ecokisekileyo kunye nezithetheUkujamelana nokungaqiniseki kube lula kakhulu ukuba ubonakalisa ukuthanda kwabo malungu obomi bakho onokuthi ulawule. Umzekelo, ukwenziwa kwemikhwa nemigaqo kwezi ndawo zibalulekileyo zobomi zinokunika uzinzo nokulinganisa ukungaqiniseki esivakalelwa kukuba siziva.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuzinza akufani nokuzithemba. Indoda, iqela okanye uluntu lunokujamelana nokungaqiniseki okukhulu, nto leyo ekugqibeleni iya kubanza izinzile ngakumbi kwaye zizinzile. Kodwa uzinzo nozinzo aluqinisekisi ukuzithemba kolu iketion kunye nozinzo.
Ndingathi isibonelelo sokwenyani kwimikhwa esempilweni kukuba bakuvumela ukuba ubone ukuba yintoni onokuyilawula kwaye ungakwazi ukulawula ebomini bakho. Kwaye oku, kukuvumela ukuba uzive ukhululekile kakhulu kwiimeko zokungaqiniseki.
Umzekelo, phantse zonke izifundo zibonisa ukuba xa kusenziwa imikhwa esempilweni, amandla omntu akabalulekanga kangako kunemeko ejikelezileyo.
Awunakho ukulawula into oyifunayo ikhekhe kunye ne-ice cream, kodwa ungalawula ukuthenga kwakho kwivenkile yevenkile. Ukuba awuthethi ukutya okungalunganga kwaye ugcwalise ifriji ngokutya okunempilo, uya kuba nethuba elincinci lokutya ikhekhe kunye ne-ice cream kwimizuzu engafezekanga.
Olu tshintsho olungagungqiyo lokucinga lunempembelelo enkulu: Silawula ngokungakhathali iimvakalelo zethu, kodwa sinokulawula imeko abaphuma kuyo. Ke zama ukudala imeko efanelekileyo. Nje ukuba uphinda wakha kwakhona ukucinga kolu lwalathiso, uya kuqala ukuthetha ngokwakho: "Kulungile, andikwazi ukulawula x, kodwa ndingenza ntoni ukufezekisa okona kulungileyo?"
Ixesha elingaphezulu, uya kuqalisa ukuqalisa ngokungaqiniseki njengelinye icandelo lobomi, kuba uya kubona ukuba "ukungazi" ayisiyonto ifileyo ukuba ulawula into, nokuba awuyikwazi ukulawula enye into.
Omnye umzekelo: Andisoze ndiqiniseke ukuba ndiza kuba semngciphekweni wokuyila xa ndihlala ndibhala into.
Kodwa ndiyakwazi ukulawula ukuba ndiza kuhlala ndiqale ukubhala. Imyuziyam inokundwendwela okanye ungandwendweli, kwaye ingaphandle kolawulo lwam.
Mhlawumbi nge-30-40% yethuba lokwenza into exabisekileyo, kodwa oku kuya kuwa kwi-0%, ukuba andiyithathi kwaphela (ndicinga ukuba le nto ayinakuthandabuza).
Ke ngoko, xa ndinosuku lwe-shit, andikhathazeki kakhulu ngokungaqinisekanga- ukuba ndingaze ndibhale into exabisekileyo, kuba ndiyazi ukuba ndiza kuzama ukwenza umsebenzi wam, Ngokulungileyo.
Ngendlela, malunga nokubhala ...
3. Ukwenza imicimbi yokuyilaIsimo sengqondo sokunganyamezeli ngakumbi ukungaqiniseki kunxulunyaniswa nendlela yokuyila ngakumbi. Akucaci ukuba unyango lwenza ukungaqiniseki kwabantu ukungaqiniseki ngakumbi okanye ubuchule bokuyila kuyanceda ukujongana nokungaqiniseki, kodwa ndicinga ukuba iphantse iphantse ibe sisitalato i-Bilatoral.
Xa usenza into entsha - nokuba intsha yeyakho, uyanyanzelwa ukuba udibane nokungaqiniseki, njengoko ungayazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ukuba isiqalo siya kuphumelela okanye hayi.
Ke, kuyabonakala ngakumbi abantu abanobuchule bagxininisa nokungaqiniseki; Kodwa ndingatsho ukuba isebenza kwelinye icala: inyani yokuba bazibhengezela ukungaqiniseki ngakumbi kubenza badale ngakumbi.
Ndifumana ukungaziwa rhoqo xa ndihlala phantsi. Oku kundinika ithuba lokufumana ukungaqiniseki mihla le.
Ke, xa i-esile lam liqala ukuba lisitulo kwaye ndibhala, ndintywila nzulu kum ongaziwayo. Ndithi: "Hmm, kukho into endingazange ndiyibone, ayizivanga, ayizange ivakale. Ndiyazibuza ukuba yintoni ... ", kwaye ndiyangenelwa kuyo.
Kwakule ndawo engaziwayo yenkungu exutywe kwindawo yethu kwaye ixutywe, kukho unxibelelwano phakathi kweengcinga ezikude kunye nobuchule bokwenyani.
Umsebenzi ngamnye wokudala uqala ngombuzo wokuzama okungaziwayo ukufumana impendulo.
Ubuchule obunxulumene nokungaziwaSiphila kwixesha elingaqhelekanga: Ngoku sinolwazi oluthe kratya kunangaphambili, nangona kunjalo, le nkcazelo ididekile kwaye ihlala ibangela ukungaqiniseki ngakumbi nangakumbi.
Unokucinga ukuba ithuba lokufumanisa, nantoni na, luzisa ukuzithemba. Kodwa ingxaki kukuba nantoni na oyaziyo, kuya kuhlala kukho abantu abaya kuthi abayinyani le nto. Ke ngoko, ukungasebenzi kakuhle ukufumana ukungaqiniseki, ngokungaqhelekanga ngokwaneleyo, iba yingxaki ye-XXI yenkulungwane. Amathuba amaninzi kunye nokuphakama kwesantya sotshintsho lwentlalo, kokukhona udideko kunye nokungaqiniseki kuvela.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke ngakumbi ukufunda ukujamelana noloyiko olungaziwayo kwaye ufunde ukuba lunyamezele kulo.