Sisoloko sithetha ngendlela abazali (kwaye ngakumbi oomama) kubalulekile ukuba ungalibali ukuzinakekela. Kwaye nangona lo mbono wokuzikhathalela uvakala uvakale kwaye usengqiqweni, umbono wale wanamhlanje ubonakala unegxuma kwaye ungamkelekanga.
Umbhali wejenali Ijenali yase-Erin Pering wabhala ikholamu enomsindo (kwaye ngakumbi abathengisi) betsala kakhulu oomama, banyanzelisa ukuba babeka phambili inkathalo yabo. Nantsi into ebhaliweyo yepeyinti:
Andazi ukuba ngubani oza kuba nomdla, kodwa ukuzikhathalela akukho nto.
Kulungile, ayiyiyo yonke into enxulumene nayo - ubungangamsha, kodwa lukhulu. Ingakumbi ukuba ungumfazi, kwaye ube ngqwabalala - umama.
Ingcinga yokuzikhathalela, iyaqondakala, ilungile kakhulu. Ingqondo, ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo, ngokweemvakalelo, ngokomoya - ngamnye wethu uneemfuno, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba sizinyamekele ezi ndawo zobomi bakho.
Xa abantu besithi "kwikomityi engenanto ayiyi kuphuma" okanye "Beka iMaski kuqala", siyaqonda ukuba kuyinyani oko. Asinakukhathalela abantwana bethu ukuba sifumene amanqaku. Kodwa amaxesha amaninzi kubonakala ngathi akukho ngqiqweni.
Umxholo we "ukuzikhathalela" (ukuzikhathalela) kwavela ngokunxulumene nomzabalazo wamalungelo oluntu kunye namalungelo abantu kwi-60-70s.
Kukho ikowuteshini ethandwayo yombhali waseMelika kunye ne-Adrey i-Audrey Nkosi:
"Ukuzikhathalela ayisiyonto emhlophe, kukuzikhusela kunye nezenzo zopolitiko."
Kodwa ngoku le nto ibiyinto ebonakalayo, esetyenziswa njengesixhobo sokuthengisa ukoyikisa oomama abatshatileyo njengam ukuba uxinzelelo lwethu luphele okanye imaski ye-sual ngobuso.
Wahamba waya kwinqanaba le-hashtegov phantsi kwePhepha leZibhengelezo.Waba yikhowudi yekhowudi ebonisa ukuba i-maicure kunye neempelaveki kwi-SPA. I-Green Mothie emva kweyoga. Iglasi ye wayini emva kosuku olude.
Ukunyaniseka, uninzi lwezi zinto zintle. Ndithanda i-maticure kunye nam ekhaya ngokwaneleyo ulusu luvule ivenkile yakho. Ndiyayithanda iwayini kwaye ndichithe i-yoga amaxesha ngamaxesha. Anditsho ukuba masingazenzi nantoni na evela kuluhlu - enkulu, ndifuna ukuyenza rhoqo.
Kodwa le yinkcazo entsha yokuzikhathalela - i-sucks.Inika into yethutyana kwaye inyani, ngelixa i-goription yethu ingahambi ndawo.
Akukho uqeqesho olunjalo okanye ipericure, elinokugcina ekusweleni okungapheliyo lokulala, ukongeza imali kwi-akhawunti yakho yebhanki okanye isibini sobuyilo ongezelelweyo kusuku lwakho olugqwesileyo.
Kwenye indawo apho (ewe, ngokubanzi, kuyo yonke indawo) kukho umama, ongakhange ubhalele yedwa kwiinyanga ezininzi zodwa.
Ulibale ngeholide yokunethako - ufuna ukulala ixesha elide kuneyure ezintathu ngexesha kwaye ulungele ukubulala ngoxa wayenayo umntu oza kuyitsalela emphefumlweni, okanye ekuseni ekhitshini yekofu kwaye ngaphandle kwezicelo eziqhubekayo kubantwana.
Ndicinga ukuba akukho nto imbiyo ekuvumeni ukuba izicelo zethu zokhathalelo ziphantsi kakhulu. Umama wosana olusanda kuzalwa uya kunceda ukuba umntu athabathe umntwana wakhe ngemizuzu elishumi (ishumi!) Ukuze atye isidlo sakhe sangokuhlwa ngelixa wayepholile.
Mhlawumbi ukuthembeka kude kube sekupheleni, sifuna nje ixesha elincinci ukuba siye kucoceko lwamazinyo, ekufumaneni kwagqirha, kwindawo yemidlalo yeqonga, ngaphandle kokuphazamisa.
Andifuni kukhathalelo ndijongeka njengoxanduva - masitshintshe.Ndifuna ukhathalelo lwam oludala: ukubandakanywa, kuyafikeleleka kwaye kuluntu. Le yi-Cliché ivuma malunga nenyaniso yokuba ukuze sikhule umntwana, ufuna ilali yonke edibanisa abafazi kwaye inceda iintsapho zisinda.
Cela ukuthatha umntwana ongumfazi ukuba atyelele kwaye athathe ukusuka apho, kwaye amkele isicelo sokukunceda kwiveki ezayo.
Nceda kwaye uvumele ukuba uncede.
Xhasa ilali yakho ngayo nayiphi na indlela ekhoyo, kodwa ungalibali ukuba ungathi hayi, xa ungakwazi ukuyenza. Sizalwe nzima, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka sithwale umthwalo wethu ude ufile. Singacothisa i-tempo kwaye siphumle.
Ngaphandle kwento yokuba i-perdechae ichazwe ngokweenkcukacha ngokweenkcukacha ukuba yayingeyiyo le nto yayingeyongxaki yokuzikhathalela, wenza isisombululo esinye kuphela sokusombulula ingxaki - ukubhenela kuluntu lwayo lwasekhaya kunye neyona ndawo ijikelezileyo.
Kwaye nangona ngamazwi kuvakala ngokulandelelana kwaye nothando oluncinci, enyanisweni (ngakumbi kwinyani yaseRussia), olu khetho alufumaneki kuwo wonke umntu.Sizamile ukufumana ezinye izimvo zokhathalelo lwezinambuso ezingafuneki ukuba zibhukishe usuku kwi-SPA okanye ibhalile i-yoga kunye ne-pilates, kwaye sajika isithuba esikhulu kuMama sazi yonke ibhlog. Umbhali weBrandy Jieter wabhala indlela yonke yokubonisa ukuba uzithanda phakathi kwendlela yemihla ngemihla, kwaye sazikhethela ezi ndlela zikhethileyo.
Yiloo nto eyenzekileyo:Bhalisela ugqirha wakho (uye kwindawo yokwamkela).
Faka ixesha elingqongqo le-penny yabantwana ukuze ube nexesha lokuphumla kwaye uphumle.
Yiya kulala ngexesha eliqhelekileyo.Cela umntu ukuba akulungiselele kabini ngeveki. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba utsala yonke into kuwe (ngendlela, ngexesha le-pinemic kukho iinkonzo ezinokufikelelwa ekhaya.
Fumana izinto zokuzonwabisa. Inokuba yinto onokuthi uyenze ekhaya - umzekelo, ukunqunyulwa okanye umzobo.
Yenza isondo esihle. Ukuba ngoku ayifani noko, ukusasazeka, iyintoni ingxaki, kwaye uthathe isigqibo.
Nxiba yonke intsasa, nokuba awudingi ukuya naphi na. Unokuthatha iimpahla ezintle apho uya kukhululeka khona.
Ukuba uhlobo oluthile lwasekhaya lukwenza ufumane ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha seyure, cela uncedo.
Sela amanzi.Yitya kuphela ngohlobo lweedessert ezinobuchule, ezimnandi.
Xhasa unxibelelwano nabahlobo bakho.
Phila ingubo yakho yangaphantsi. Thatha ingqalelo into oyiyo ubukhulu, ijongeka ilungile kwaye ihleli ngokuchanekileyo.
Thetha "hayi" rhoqo njengoko ufuna.Xa abantu bebuza ukuba benza njani, baxelele yonke into ngokweenkcukacha, ngakumbi ukuba uqhuba kakuhle.
Zixolele ngento oyenzileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Baleka isimo sengqondo kubantu abalandelayo oziva kakubi.
Sukulinda abantu ukuba babone ukuba ufuna ntoni. Baxelele.Mhlawumbi eyona ngcinga iphambili apha kukuba inkxalabo yakho ayifanelanga ukuba yinto yexesha elinye, i-sporadic, ngequbuliso, ichithwe ngabahlobo, akunakwenzeka ukuba uphumle kulo lonke unyaka wonke wommiselo.
Ukuzikhathalela kufanele ukuba ibe yinto eqhelekileyo, ezincinci zemihla ngemihla yokuthanda kwabo ukuba ngubani okunceda uzive bhetele yonke imihla - kwaye oku akunyanzelekanga ukuba uchithe izigidi ngezixhobo ezixabisa kakhulu okanye iinkqubo. Ewe kunjalo, kuba ngamnye umntu oxhalabisa ngokwabo ngumntu, eyona nto iphambili apha kukufumana iindlela ezinokwenyani zokugcwalisa ubutyebi bakho kwaye uzifake kwimpilo yethu eqhelekileyo ngokusisigxina.