Ibhinqa eliselula kwibala lokudlala lasela i-stroller enomntwana kwaye ehambelana nokukhalaza kwintombazana elandelayo, umntwana wayo phambi kwakhe idlalwe ecaleni kwesanti
-Unyana ziinyanga ezimbini kuphela ubudala, kwaye sele ndilile. Ndabiza umama, abakhululwa emsebenzini. UNia uza kuqesha, ewe hayi imali eyongezelelweyo.
-Ngaba umyeni? Yena, kubonakala ngathi yishedyuli eguqukayo iyasebenza, inokunceda, - yaphendula intombazana yesibini.
- Ewe wena! Khange ndiqalise nasegumbini, kwada kwazaliseka unyana emashumi mane imihla emashumi mane. Kwaye ngoku andikunikezeli-utata, kwane-Dapepe ayinakutshintsha.
Kule ncoko imfutshane ibonakalise ngokupheleleyo izikhundla ezimbini. Omnye umama ukholelwa ukuba uncedo kumntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa ayisiyo imeko katata kwaye ngcono kubangele umakhulu. Kwaye okwesibini kuqinisekile ukuba ingupopu onokwazi ukuba liqabane eligcweleyo kwimfundo yoNyana.
Kwilizwe lanamhlanje, apho kunqabile ukuba bahlangane umakhulu weminyaka yomhlala-phantsi, isikhundla sesibini sisebenza ngakumbi. Ukufakelwa koluntu ngokuthe ngcembe kutshintsha kancinci. Kule mihla, okwisikhundla esinemama, ebezibandakanya ebantwaneni, ebengasekho iqhawe ngaphandle kwe-raincoat kunye nemaski (kakuhle, okanye imaski, imaski), kodwa i-phenomeno eqhelekileyo.
Kutheni utsala utata wakho ngokukuphakamisa umntwana ngokuzalwa?
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Rhoqo yeyona ndlela iphambili okanye enye indlela yokuthulula umama oselula. Kwinkqubo yokuseka ukuncancisa kunye nobomi kunye nomntwana, abafazi badiniwe kakhulu kunokubonisa.
Abasweli, bahlala bengenalo ixesha lokutya, isaqhwithi sehomoni siyagquma emzimbeni, inyani yobukho bomntwana alikafiki entlokweni. Kule veki zokuqala, utata ukufuneka nje, onokufumana ukutshintsha umntwana abe bied, uncedo xa uhlamba kwaye uthathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi kumsebenzi wasekhaya.
Oomama kule minyaka idlulileyo bengakhange bavunyelwe ukuba "bahlale kulo myalelo". Abasetyhini basebenzisa ubuqhetseba bokugqibela kwaye bahlala bengayeki ukusebenza nangomntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa ezingalweni zabo. Oko kukuthi, umthwalo kubo usonyuka ngamanye amaxesha. Nangona, kunjalo, ubukho bezixhobo ezahlukeneyo zekhaya zincedwa ikakhulu.
Kumashumi eminyaka akutshanje, amadoda atshintshile. Ngaphezu kwabo bakwinyathelo labo lokuthatha inxaxheba kubambiswano. Uninzi lulungele ukhathalela umntwana kangangexesha elikhulu kunabafazi bacinge. Ewe, indima kaMama kule nto yayiyinto kwaye ihlala ikhokelwa.
Utata, ubuncinci, akazokwazi ukondla ibele. Kodwa, umzekelo, ukutshintsha i-diaper ngumbuzo wokuba nobuchule. Oomama nawo bazalwa banolwazi, yonke into iza ngexesha lokusebenza. Ipople ngamanye amaxesha ayinalo nethuba lokufunda.
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Ke ngoko, kuya kuba kuhle ukukhulelwa ukuzilungiselela ukubambisana. Unokuxoxa ngokufanelekileyo kwimisebenzi kwangaphambili. Ndiyavuma ukuba indoda ithatha iholide emsebenzini kwaye isondele kuncedo lweqabane elizelwe.
Umzekelo, umama uya kumela ukuncancisa, ubuyiselwe emva kokuhanjiswa, ukubonelela ngoncumo olusandul 'ukuzalwa kwelona liphezulu.
Ngeli xesha, imisebenzi inokuba:
- Ukucocwa kwegumbi (ngaphandle nje kokuhlanjwa kwemihla ngemihla kuyo yonke imiphezulu ye-chlorine);
- Ukuthenga iimveliso;
- Ukulungiswa kwezitya ezilula;
- Ukulungiswa kwebhafu kwi-teningns entsha;
- Iinkqubo zempilo kunye nomama;
- Iibhotile zokupheka ngomxube ukuba umntwana ukwindawo yokondla;
- Nxibelelana nezihlobo, ngelixa umama omncinci engazinzanga ngokweemvakalelo;
- Ukuhamba ngomntwana wokulala ukuze umfazi angalala okanye ahambe wedwa.
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Le yokugqibela yenye yemisebenzi ephambili katata. Umama omncinci kufuneka afune okwethutyana. Ukuze ayonakalo ebomini, kodwa ukuphumla ekumgangatho ophezulu. Ngaphandle kokuqalisa kwakhona ngexesha elithile kukho ukudinwa ngokweemvakalelo. Lo mgodi ulula ukungaweki kunokuba uphume kuyo.
Elinye isizathu esibalulekileyo sokuthatha inxaxheba kukaPopu ekukhuliseni umntwana kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi kukuqinisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo.
U-Bambeng Captations wahlukile kuMama. Umama ubetha umntwana kwiinyanga ezisithoba, ekuzaleni, ukwenzela ingqalelo, zonke iimvakalelo kwinqanaba elinzulu sele libekwe. Iphepha lothando kufuneka ukuba luhlakulele. Akuyi kuba nzima, kuza nje kamva.Ngaphambili indoda iqala ukuba nomdla emntwaneni kwaye uyenze, ngokukhawuleza uya kumthanda. Kwaye oku kusebenza kungekuphela kwabantwana bomthonyama.
Umoyike kangakanani uyoyika umntwana obuthathaka
Rhoqo, amadoda ayala ukunceda oomama abanabantwana, kuba boyika ukuthabatha indalo ebunjiweyo nelula.
- Ngequbuliso ndiya kuyinikela! -Utata oselula wayenzulu, xa iZiko lePersinali yasePrinatal lalizama ukunika intombi esandul 'ukuzalwa.
Wayekwazi ukoyisa uloyiko malunga neenyanga ezintathu kuphela zentombazana. Ngaphambi koko, wazama phantsi naliphi na i-terittix ukuba angahambi kakuhle kwi-cradle nge-crumb. Kulwakhiwo lokufakelwa lulolu hlobo, olona ncedo luxhaswa ngumfazi ngokwalo. Akukho mntu unokuqinisa amandla kunye nokuzimisela kwesiqingatha esiqinileyo soluntu, njengabafazi abanothando.
Oomama abaninzi basebenza imimangaliso, ngokunyaniseka bacela ootata malunga noncedo kwaye bongeze:
-Ndiyazi, akukho mntu uya kujamelana nomntwana wethu! Ukuyidlulisa, ndicela ndiye kwishawa!
Mama ngamaxesha anjalo kufuneka akhunjulwe ukuba nokuba iinkqubo zempilo azifezekanga, ukugxekwa kungafanelekanga. Utata unelungelo lokufunda. Kodwa umbulelo ongazenzisiyo unqweneleka kakhulu.Ngokuthe ngcembe, uloyiko lwesiqu luyamshiya, lunika uvuyo lokunxibelelana nonyana okanye intombi yakhe.
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Ngokuthe ngcembe, umntwana uya kukhula kwaye utata uya kuba nakho ukunxibelelana nento ebangcono. Sithetha ngemidlalo ebonakalayo ebonakalayo. Amadoda ngabona bodwa babalaseleyo kubantwana babo.
Oomama baphantse bayenza into ngokuhambelana nabo, kwaye ootata banokuchitha ixesha nabantwana abaphezulu kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Abantu kwaye emva kwamashumi eminyaka bakhumbula la maxesha emidlalo nabazali, nokuba babengahlali rhoqo.
Indima enkulu katata ngokusekwa kobuntu
Ukongeza kuwo onke la maxesha, isivakalisi nje esimbalwa, kukho izizathu ezinzulu zokuthatha inxaxheba kootata ekukhuliseni abantwana.
Utata, ongaphantsi konina uxakekile ukuze umntwana abe ulungile kwaye ukhululekile, ngokungathi uthi kuye:
-Ubalulekile kum. Ndinomdla kuwe. Ndidinga ubudlelwane kunye nawe.
Umntwana akawaqondi amagama, kodwa uziva ngokugqibeleleyo iimvakalelo zaba bantu babini babaluleke kakhulu kuye - oomfumba kunye nopopu. Xa uziva enothando kwaye ekhathalela zombini, ukhusela intembelo yakhe kwihlabathi.
Kwixesha elizayo, umntu uya kuzolile kakhulu ukubona ubunzima. Sele eqinisekile ngokubaluleka kwakhe. Ukuba ubudlelwane noBawo abusovali, ke ngokobungozi bakho umngcipheko wokungenela impikiswano kunye nawo onke amanani afanayo kwinqanaba leGunya: Abaphathi, amandla, njl.
Kuba uTata uTata ngumzekelo wendoda aza kukhula ngokwakhe. Ukubukela ubudlelwane babazali, ufumana imodeli oya kwenziwa yintsapho yakhe.
Ke ngoko, ukujongana nonyana wakho, uTata wenza igalelo elihle kungekuphela ebomini bakhe, kodwa nakwindawo yokuphakanyiswa kwabazukulwana bakho. Inkwenkwe iyakuzama ukuba nguBawo Olungileyo, nto leyo yayiyeyakhe.
Kuba intombazana ibaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba umama luthando kwaye uyakhathalela, ke utata uyinkxaso kunye nokukhuselwa. Ivela kuBawo oxhomekeke ekuzithembeni komfazi nokuba uza kukhetha njani iqabane.
Lowo ufuna ukuba uMkhwenyana ofezekileyo kufuneka kuqala abe ngumzali ofanelekileyo wentombazana. Ngapha koko, iintombi zibaluleke kakhulu ekuzalweni ukuze ziphantsi kokhuseleko lukaYise. Emva koko uya kuzithemba nakweliphi na iqela.
Indoda ayisoloko ifanekisela loo nto, ilinganisa ubushushu bamanzi kwindawo yokuhlambela namhlanje yokufumana umntwana, sele eyenza ikamva lakhe.