Ihlala idibana ukuba unyaka wokuqala wobomi kunye nomntwana sesipiri esinzima ebomini. Oku ngokubanzi ayothusi: Ubomi obusanda kuzalwa bugcwele ziingxaki, imiceli mngeni kunye nemisebenzi enesibini ekusombululeni kunye ngokujonga ubudlelwane babo ngamandla.
Kwelinye icala, kunyaka wokuqala kunye nomntwana, izibini ezitshatileyo zosapho ziya kufunda izinto ezininzi malunga nomnye (kwaye azisoloko zilungile). Umbhali wanamhlanje uCatherine wanamhlanje wathetha ngamava akhe: Malunga nendlela emva kokuzalwa komntwana, ngequbuliso wayenendlela awayeyicombulula ngayo le ngxaki. Ukuguqulelwa kwesicatshulwa sayo kunye namanqaku amancinci.
"Ndidiniwe," ndathi, "Ndixelele umyeni wam, engaqinisekanga ukuba asondela kwitafile yekhitshi kwaye arhoxa. Intlungu evela kwicandelo likaxakeka laseCesarean, lwenze iveki ephelileyo, yayisezantsi, kwaye izicelo ezisandula ukuzalwa zandenza zaziva ngathi ndine-xhoal the the hangover engapheliyo.
"Ewe, ndidiniwe," utshilo. Kwaye la mazwi andikhokelela kwimigada.
Ndivile ukuba umsindo unyuke ngendlela yam ngelixa ndihleli ecaleni ndatya isidlo sangokuhlwa (ndifanele ndaphawula isidlo sangokuhlwa). Ndatsiba-ndinomsindo kwaye ndingakwazi ukukhulula igama - izinyawo zam ziguqulwe zaba ziimagazini, kwaye andikwazanga ukwaphula umhlathi.
Ngaba 'Udiniwe'? Into endingayibonanga isifuba sakhe sokudumba kunye nobisi lukaMelten ngoxinzelelo, olunokuba sisimo esifanelekileyo. Kwaye andimbonanga ukuba atshintshe i-bandet emva kweKesareyare ngexesha lokugcina indlu. Kwaye yonke le nto - ngokuhambelana nokuzama ukungabulali izibulo zethu. Ewe, oko kukuthi, angathini ukudinwa yintoni?
Le nto bendifanelekile ukuba ndingoyena mntu udiniweyo endlwini.
Ndiwugcinile lo msindo, wamsindisa njenge-gem, kwaye emva koko wazonakalisa njengesixhobo, wayithatha ngexesha lembambano ngesantya, apho i-Pychers ye-baseball inomona. Ndayikhupha kumaxesha angaqhelekanga ngexesha le-quorry kuba ayazi ukuba enyanisweni bendixakiwe ngabo bonke, kwaye ndisebenza kakhulu!
Ke umyeni wam waqalisa ukundazisa.
Ukusuka kwi-phantse phantse "Yow, ipholile: Siza kuba nomntwana!" Sizele imbetha kwindalo yonke ukuba sisinike ubuncinci iiyure ezimbini zokulala okuqhubekayo, kwaye oku kusitshekisileyo. Sasingabazali abancinci, iihomoni zethu zaphuma phantsi kolawulo, kwaye saziva ngathi asiqinisekanga.
Kwaye kwisizathu esine-razivous, sibonakala ngathi eli lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuqalisa iakhawunti. Ndihlala ndikhangela umthwalo wethu wengqondo: Ukuhlamba, ukuhlamba izitya, ukondla i-vitamin D, ukuthenga amachiza, ukulandela amanqanaba ophuhliso lwabantwana. Kubonakala ngathi ndenza uninzi lomsebenzi wam wasekhaya kunye nomntwana, nangona bekungacacanga into yokuba oku kuyamangalisa.
Yayiyintoni le yokuba wonke umhlobo wakhe wayekhe walumkiswa.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ngenxa yephupha kunye nonxibelelwano oluzinzileyo lweentswelo zethu, sikwazile ukufumana ibhalansi kwaye siqhelene kwindima yethu entsha: iqela lemiyalelo (le yindoda) kunye nomyeni ), ngoku eguqukele kwi-corcher toddledo.
Kwakuqhubeka ngaphambi kwalomzuzu de saba nomntwana wesibini, kwaye ngequbuliso kuye kwafuneka sitshintshe kabini kwiindawo ezininzi ezinamachaphaza amaninzi, yayiphindwe kabini kuncinane kwaye yondla kabini imilomo.
Ndifikelele kwindawo yokubila ubusika bokugqibela xa nditsiba ngentsasa nganye kwisifo sohudo sentombazana yam, njengakwi-ice. Ndiyakuff, i-nozzles ndathumela imiyalezo ye-telepathic kumyeni wakho (ngalo mzuzu ndilele kamnandi kwigumbi elilandelayo), ndilindele ukuba uza kuqalisa ukundinceda nge-mop, iibhakethi zenkxaso ezandleni.
Kodwa konke anokundinika lonto kukuxhaswa kwegumbi elilandelayo.
Xa ndandikwintsasa elandelayo, ndamxelela ngento eyenzekileyo, kwaye malunga nendlela endazalwa ngayo kwaye ndibhinqe ngayo isibakala sokuba akazange ahlangulwe, waphendula wathi: "Akuzange ubuze." (Okwalo mzuzu, ndafakwa ngumsindo othuleyo).
Xa ndafowunayo uLindi Lazaros, uninzi lwabantwana kunye nosapho lwengqondo nosapho oluvela eToronto, wandiqinisekisa ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo kakhulu ukuba ndingathandi iqabane lakhe emva kokuba umntwana evele (okanye ezimbini). "Kubazali, olu lutshintsho olunzulu lwesazisi," utshilo xa ndisiva inqanaba lam likaCortisol iyancipha. -Unezicelo ezininzi ezivela kubantwana, kunye nexesha lokulala, izesondo kunye nemicimbi yobuqu iyahla. "
Xa ndabaleka ngomdaniso wam "wadanisa umdaniso" wam, waziva ecaphukile: "Ungathanda ukuba nendoda nayo yonke into, kwaye le yimvakalelo ebanzi kakhulu, nangona engayazi indlela yokufunda iingcinga zakho." Ndaziva ndiqonde kwaye ndingcwatyelwe. "Kodwa," wongeza. -Kaloku kubalulekile ukuba uthethe ngokucacileyo ngolindelo lwakho, kuya kunceda ukukhusela ukuvela kwentiyo. " Uncumo lwanyamalala ebusweni bam.
Thintela Ndinengqondo yokuthintela intlekele yeentlekele: ngeCawa ndilungiselela imuvi ngaphambi kokuba ndithintele i-shorbohydrate u-Shorbohydrate Isenzo, kodwa ukuze ndicinge ngayo Ilizwi likhuphe ulindelo lwam kunye nokuthintela ukungqubana kwikamva, andikwazi ukuwuvula umlomo wam. Ndicinga ukuba ngenyani yokuba iminyaka eli-18 yokuphila kunye, umyeni wam makazile ngokupheleleyo into endiyifunayo, kuzo zonke iimeko. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uyayiqonda iimfuno zam ngaphambi kokuba ndibe nelizwi.
Kodwa nantsi into endikhathazayo: Ngaba ikhona indlela yokudlulisela izinto endizilindeleyo kuye ukuze kubonakale kum ukuba ndidlulisele imisebenzi yelungu elincinci leqela lam?ULazaro uthi akhoyo. Gxila kwinto oyifunayo, endaweni yokugxeka. "Endaweni yokuthetha:" Ngekhe undincede, "Ndixelele:" Ndinezinto ezininzi ngoku. Ngaba ungamnika umntwana ibhotile endaweni yam? ""
Emanzini obunzulu bomphefumlo, ndiyazi ukuba ngalo lonke ixesha ndicela uncedo, ndisebenzisa igama eliqondayo kwaye ndithintele ukugxeka, ngokugxeka, andikaze ndilahle. Kwaye uhlala endidumisa ngayo yonke into endiyenzayo - kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, xa izinto zininzi kakhulu, ingqondo yam iqala ukukhumbula onke amagqabantshintshi amabi.
Kodwa ndicwangcisiwe ngamandla ukufunda indlela yokudlulisela ngcono omnye komnye, iimvakalelo zethu - ukubonisa indlela abantwana bethu (kwaye, kunjalo, ukomeleza umtshato wethu), ukuba ngumzali ngokweemvakalelo ubuchule, olunceda abantwana babone iimvakalelo zabo.
"Kuyahlekisa ukuba sinovelwano oluninzi kakhulu kunye novelwano lwabantwana, kodwa kwangaxeshanye silibale ukuba iimvakalelo zeqabane lethu zifuna ukuqinisekiswa."Inkqubo yokuqeqesha ngokweemvakalelo inamanyathelo amathathu. Ekuqaleni, kunyanzelekile ukuba inikele ingqalelo kwangoko umntu ohlangabezana nemvakalelo eqinileyo, banike igama, kwaye emva koko bamisele ukuba yintoni ekhokelela ekubonakalweni kwale mvakalelo.
Ke ngoku, xa umyeni wam esithi udiniwe (Ekugqibeleni waziva ukuba unokuphinda athethe ngalo), ndiyazinyanzela ukuba ndivume nokuba uhlala ediniwe! Ndisebenzela ukubonisa uvelwano, ndithetha ngezinto ezinokudinwa: Sebenza ngomsebenzi wexesha elizeleyo, ochitha usuku lonke emilenzeni, egcobe idolo lakhe, kwaye, kunjalo, Emva koko undinceda kakhulu nabantwana kwizigidi zemibuzo.
ULazaro wandikhumbuza ukuba le minyaka iliqela iyasilela okwethutyana kule nkqubo.
Kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba eli xesha sixanjelwe ukuba sanelise iimfuno zamadoda asencinci, amancinci amancinci, kwaye xa sasinexesha elincinci kunye nomomeleza phakathi kwethu kwaye womeleza amandla ethu .
Kwaye ngaphambili, kunokuba ndinalo nexesha lokufumana, abantwana bethu baya kukhula, kwaye ndiza kujonga kule minyaka ndingalalanga kwaye ndinebhongo eninzi ngeeglasi ezipinki, kwaye ebusweni bam ziya kuba ziinyembezi. Kwaye ngubani, ndinethemba njani, liza kuhlala malunga netafile yesidlo sangokuhlwa emva kwayo yonke le minyaka ihlanjelayo? Umyeni wam othandekayo. Kwaye uqinisekile ukuba ngelo xesha uya kudinwa ngakumbi kunangoku.
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