Uninzi lweemfuyo zamadoda nabafazi azisinceda ebomini kwaye ziyingozi, ibhlogger kunye ne-vlogger kunye ne-EllaGralogist Ella Dossman iqinisekile. Kodwa unyaka osusela kunyaka wonke, ukusuka kwisizukulwana ukuya kwisizukulwana, abazali kunye nesikolo kufundisa la mantombazana. Kwi-MEL.FM, umbhali echaza izakhono ezihlanu, ngaphandle kokuba, ngendlela yakhe, abafazi babengayi kuphila, kodwa baya kuhlala bebangcono kwaye bonwabile.
Uninzi lweemfuyo zamadoda nabafazi azisinceda ebomini kwaye ziyingozi, ibhlogger iqinisekile. Kodwa unyaka osusela kunyaka wonke, ukusuka kwisizukulwana ukuya kwisizukulwana, abazali kunye nesikolo kufundisa la mantombazana. Kwikholamu ye-MEL.FM, umbhali echaza izakhono ezintlanu, ngaphandle kokuba, ngendlela yakhe, kubafazi abangenakuphila nje, kodwa banoyolo babhala.
Yicocekile kwaye ikhuthalele
"Kutheni le nto ithonga ityumkile, uyintombazana!", "Kutheni kwincwadana emdaka, uyintombazana!", "Kutheni le ntombazana!" - Ngubani ongayivanga okungenani kanye ebomini? Ngokugxila kwi "uyintombazana", kunjalo. Amantombazana afundiswe ukuqondakalikeka ngokukhethekileyo, acoceke kwaye anikela ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha, ngamanye amaxesha ukuya kwelona nqanaba liphezulu lokuqinisa.
Masithethe ngokungagungqiyo: Ukuchaneka, amandla okubola "ngotata" kwaye ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha azinanto yakwenza nesini. Mhlawumbi baya kuba luncedo kuwe ngobomi obunobuchule, kodwa kutheni ukufundisa ezi zakhono rhoqo kwaye kuyinto eninzi kwiminyaka?
Nangona kunjalo, ayisiyonto iphambili ekufuneka baqeqeshiwe. Kubasetyhini, bahlala belindele ukuba baya kusebenza, kwaye indlu nabantwana kufuneka igcinwe, kwaye mhlawumbi nendoda kwimicimbi yakhe. Oko koko, kungekudala, baya kuba sekhaya ngabacoci basimahla kunye noonobhala kwindibaniselwano.
Kwintlalo, imeko yemicimbi, xa abafazi besebenza iiyure ezisibhozo, emva koko beza ekhaya kwaye bamkelwe ekhaya bonke, 'umthwalo ophindwe kabini "," umthwalo ophindwe kabini "," umthwalo ophindwe kabini ". Ngaba inyanisekile xa abanye besebenza kwi-Shift enye, kwaye abanye babini, kwaye bekhululekile okwesibini? Hayi, ukunganyaniseki, kwaye kusenzima kakhulu kwaye kuyadideka. Masingalungiselele amantombazana ukuba apheke ubomi bonke.
Umfanekiso obonakalayo wayo yonke le jithe ingeyiyo imbali engathathi cala malunga neerejista zesikolo. Ngokubanzi, kusemhle nathi sisayilandela bonke abantwana, ngaphandle kwesondo, kwaye, ngoluvo lwam, ndibhatale izikolo. Ukusuka kumantombazana rhoqo, ngokutsho kuyo yonke into eyaziwayo engaziwayo, ifuna ukuchaneka okukhethekileyo kwimingxunya nakwincwadi yamanqaku. Ngenxa yoko, amantombazana nabafazi bahlala bebhala ngesandla, abanye babo bade banawo, kodwa akukho nto kuyo, ngaphandle kokuba ukhona, eneneni, kaMongameli.
Thobela
Kum, indumiso ebanzi yokuthobela inkolo yinkolo yamakhoboka. Singqongwe lilizwe elikhuphisanayo nelinzima, apho abantu abaninzi kunye nezixhobo ezincinci. Kuyimfuneko ukuba kuqaliswe linyathelo, ukulwela umbono wakho kunye nam, ukuze ulonwabo lwakho kunye neshishini lam. Nasehlabathini, asingasebenzi ngokunyaniseka. Ke kutheni sifundisa abantwana ukuba balandele imithetho yakhe endaweni yokutshintsha kwenyani?
Kwake kube kanye akuyi kunceda ukufumana indawo yakhe phantsi kwelanga kwaye bafezekise eyakhe, ababalulekileyo, ekunene, umdla, onomdla. Kodwa iya kwenza ukuba le ntombazana ithandeke kuye wonke umntu: abazali, ootitshala, umyeni nonina. Ngaba le "lula" izisa intombazana yolonwabo kunye nokungaguquguquki? Ndinamathandabuzo amakhulu malunga noku. Amantombazana athobelayo akhokelela kuwo wonke umfanekiso wentsomi yakudala, njengeCinderella kunye nokumkanikazi wekhephu (esifundayo ebuntwaneni, ngendlela). Kubomi bokwenyani, ibali elinokuthobela lingakwazi ukonwabela kwaye livumele abanye ukuba banelise iminqweno yabo. Akukho mntu uqinisekisa ukuba uza kuhlawula isaqhwithi sesenzo sokulunga.
Kumanani afanayo malunga nokuthobela, amandla onke "okuyeka", "ubuchule bokumamela" kunye "nokwazi" (ndivile ngobuchule obunje kwintombazana endala). Mna, kungcono kakhulu ukufundisa umntwana (nasiphi na isini) ukuze siziphulaphule, ukuphikisana, ukhusela izimvo, ukufezekisa iinjongo kwaye ubonise iitalente. Kwaye, ewe, cinga ngentloko yakho endaweni yokuvumelana nomntu wonke ngaphandle kwentlekele.
Hayi ukubaleka
Iingcamango malunga nobuthathaka bendalo bezilwanyana zigqithiselwa ngendlela efanayo nale mibono malunga nobuthathaka bengqondo yethu okanye iimpawu zobunkokeli. Sisigxina esingumbhali wencwadi ethi "Intsomi Yobuthathaka" ikhuselekile - i-American Psychologists PoyChologist iphindwe kabini. Idibanisa idatha yesoftware, ye-biologizy kunye ne-endocrinolocal kwaye iqinisekisa ukuba amantombazana nabasetyhini abakumzimba abakwazi ukunika indlela amakhwenkwe namadoda.Okokuqala kuphela kwiminyaka yesikolo sifunda ukusebenzisa umzimba wakho: kancinci kancinci ukuya kwimidlalo, imidlalo esebenzayo iyakhuthazeka. Ngokuthe ngcembe, abafazi baphulukana nefomu yomzimba, kuba ukuba awuqeqeshe ubuntwana abancinci (kwaye rhoqo), akunakwenzeka ukugcina onke amathuba emzimbeni. Ngokubanzi, ukuba sisusa izinto zentlalo, umahluko phakathi kwamandla amadoda nabafazi ayibalulekanga, ubhala kuphela, kwaye kuphela kuthi kuphela esenza ukuba sibonakale.
Incwadi yakhutshwa ngo-2001, yayingafudukelwa kwisiRashiya. Nangona kubonakala ngathi kwenzeka ntoni kuma-latitud yethu! Olona luvo luphambili lweeyure ezilula nezihlalayo zabatoliki, kwaye ungayiniki intombazana kwakhona ukuba iqhube okanye inyukele emthini, mhlawumbi incinci kancinci. Khumbula nje oku.
Sukulwa
Akumnandi ukuyithetha loo nto, kodwa le yinyani: ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo - ulwandle loluntu lwethu. Uninzi lwabantu abavuthayo baziva bengafezekanga kwaye besenza iintsapho zabo yonke into evuya.
Akukho mntu ukhuselwe bugonyamelo, nkqu nelona bhinqa lilumkileyo ehlabathini. Ubundlobongela basekhaya-yenye yembonakalo yakhe. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, bayakwazi ukuzikhusela-nobuchule obufanelekileyo obungasindisa ubomi nezempilo. Ngalo lonke ixesha ufuna ukutsho intombi yam okanye udadewethu omncinci "ungachukumisi, uyintombazana, khumbula, apho kuya kufuneka uphile khona, kwaye ungathethi nto. Kodwa kungcono ukuxelela amantombazana ukuba sisiphi isimo sengqondo esisebenzayo kwisibini kwaye nakuphi na obunye ubuhlobo, kunye nolutsha-indlela yokwamkela iintsimbi eziyingozi kunxibelelwano, kwaye uza kwenza njani ukuba akhulele , kunjalo.
Ukuba mhle
Amadoda kwabasetyhini asabona ubuhle ngokuyintloko, emva koko, - ngokuchanileyo kwezoqoqosho kwezigqibo. Ukususela kwiminyaka yobudala, ubuhle bubaluleke kakhulu, kunokuba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke ubomi bethu kamva, nazo zonke ezinye iimpawu kunye neempawu sele zilandelwe.
Kwangelo xesha, iimfuno zokuvela kwabafazi zihlala zihamba-hamba kakhulu: Kufuneka babonise imigodi yomzimba, kodwa ayibonakali kakhulu ukuba ingabizi. Ipeyinti, kodwa ayikhanya kakhulu, kuba ke iya kujongeka ngathi ihlehlise. Ayinakuba ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kwe-cosmetics, ngoko kuphela izitokhwe eziluhlaza kuphela. Uluhlu lunokuqhubeka nokwenza infinity. Ngamanye amaxesha umgca phakathi kwabo bathembekileyo kwaye ongachanekanga unqabile ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba uwele kwenye yezityholo.