Kwiminyaka engaphezu kweminyaka engamashumi amabini eyadlulayo, i-eco Levens ifumene amaxesha amabini inkqubo ye-eco eNew York. Wakwazi ukunyamezela kwaye wazala oonyana ababini. Kwaye phantse ungaze ukhunjulwe ukuba kwindawo ekhethekileyo yeKlinikhi yayikho enye imibungu engama-14 engasetyenziswanga-xa kwakufuneka afumane ileta eyathi yayithatha isigqibo malunga nekamva labo. Nali ibali lakhe.
Ndikhumbula kakuhle ukuba okwesihlandlo sokuqala ukuya kwi-gynecologist emva komtshato. Uthe: "Unempilo kakhulu!" Ngamanye amagama, hamba uye kuphindaphindi! Bendineminyaka engamashumi amathathu ubudala, kodwa andikwazanga ukhulelwa.
Utata wam, osebenza njengengcali yeGynecologist, wathi ukuba emva kweenyanga ezintandathu, akukho nto yenzekayo, kuya kuba yimfuneko ukuba uthathe uvavanyo, ukwenza uvavanyo olukhethekileyo. Ngenxa yoko, kwavela ukuba ndibambisene ngemibhobho ye-uterine. Ndenze umsebenzi wokucoca. Emva kotyando, emva kokusebenza ndiqiniseke ukuba ityhubhu enye ikwimo elungileyo, kwaye enye ayilunganga kakhulu, kodwa yonke into yenziwa ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Ngendikhulelwe izihlandlo ezininzi ukukhulelwa, kodwa bendihlala ndiphulukene nesiqhamo sangaphambili. Kwakuyoyikeka. Iminyaka emnyama. Khange ndifune ukubona nabaphi na kubahlobo bam. Ngokuqhelekileyo bendingafuni ukubona mntu. Kwabonakala kum ukuba yonke into ejikeleze mna iya kukhulelwa, kwaye kuphela andisebenzi.
Yonke into ibonakala ngathi inyathelo eliya kwiphepha lakho, kwaye kuphela andikwazanga ukumka. Into endicinga ngayo - ukuba ndifuna nyhani nje ukuba nabantwana.Emva koko kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndinokukhulelwa kwe-ectopic. Bendiseofisini kwaye ngequbuliso ndaziva ndibuhlungu. Andikaze ndibuhlungu kakhulu ebomini bam. Ndabiza ugqirha ndabuza: "Ndiza kufa ngobu busuku?" Waphendula ke wathi: "Yiza esibhedlele kwangoko."
Ndikhumbula ndixhonywa kwi-banking kwigumbi lokusebenza. Kwiwotshi yayisithoba ngokuhlwa ngexesha lokuzalwa kwamabonwakude nje ngaphandle komdlalo, endisebenza kuwo. Yajika into yokuba umntwana wam wayenamathele kwityhubhu elungileyo ye-tine. Ndilahlekile ke. Kwaye ilahlekelwe ngumnye umntwana.
Ndandiqonda ukuba ithuba lokugqibela lokukhulelwa ngoku kukwenza i-eco.Ukuzala umntwana wokuqala, ndaphuma iminyaka emihlanu enesiqingatha. Xa i-trimester yokuqala idlula, yaza intliziyo yakhe yayisilwa, ndangcwatywa. Andizange ndikwazi ukufudukela kude kube ngoku. Xa ndandikhulelwe nonyana wam wokuqala, bendinoloyiko lokucinga ngegama kuye.
Ekuphela kwendlela yokuzikhusela kwiimvakalelo ezingafunekiyo, xa udlule kulo lonke uthotho lwelahleko yokukhulelwa-wakhe udonga olujikelezileyo kwaye uqhubeke phambili. Senze kwaye senzile. Emva kwethuba ndikwazile ukhulelwe nge-eco kwakhona, ndaqhotyoshelwa kumbungu ophuma kwiqela elinye malunga nokukhulelwa okokuqala. Unyana wam wesibini wazalwa.
Kwiminyaka embalwa kamva, umyeni wam wahamba nohambo lweshishini eOstreliya. Ndandilibazisa. Okwesihlandlo sokuqala ebomini, ndaphumela kuvavanyo lwasekhaya lokukhulelwa, kwaye waza waba nethemba. Ngelishwa, andizange ndikwazi ukunyamezela ukukhulelwa kwendalo. Ndilahlekelwe ngumntwana. Yayikukugqibilitha okokugqibela, kweyesithoba. Kodwa emva koko sele ndiyiqondile ngaphandle kokukrakra.
Sasinabantwana ababini abasempilweni- sakuba saxelelwa ukuba ngekhe sibe ngabazali.Namhlanje, abantwana bam baneminyaka engama-22 neminyaka engama-24 ubudala. Kwiiveki ezintathu ezidlulileyo, ndafumana ileta evela kwi-ricoral, apho kukho imibuni yam ye-freezer. Ndothuka. Lo mbungu phantse iminyaka engama-26 ubudala. Amakhwenkwe am ayevela kwiqela elinye. Emva kokudlula kwe-ECO, ndahlawula imibungu eminye iminyaka emithathu. Emva koko ndacelwa ukuba ndenze isigqibo sokuba ndifuna ukuqhubeka nokugcina kwabo, ukuba ndifuna ukubazisa okanye ndilahle nje.
Bendingazukuzisebenzisa ngokwam kwaye andifuni kwenza njengemibungu ye-embrios. Kodwa andikwazanga ukuzikhetha ileta malunga nento ekulungele ukwala ngokupheleleyo.
Ndiyisuse nje le leta kwenye indawo kude kwaye andimphendula.Kwaye emva kweminyaka eli-17 ndafika ileta entsha. Kwatshilo ukuba ngempazamo ethile, lonke eli xesha alizange libeke i-akhawunti yokugcina i-mimbisa, kwaye ngoku kufuneka ndicombulule ikamva labo, kungenjalo emva kweentsuku ezingama-30 le ngxelo isaza kuza.
Ngokucacileyo, andizukudlulisa ngenkqubo ye-eco engaphezulu, kodwa ngokweemvakalelo kunzima kakhulu kum ukuvumela le miloos. Ndacinga ukubathatha ekhaya ndingcwaba. Okanye ubanikele elabhoratri yovavanyo. Ngoku ndilinde impendulo evela kumaziko aliqela, ezibandakanyekayo kufundo lweeseli zesiqu. Andikwazanga nokucinga ukuba kuya kuba nzima kangakanani esi sigqibo.
Mhlawumbi konke kuba ndinebhongo ngamakhwenkwe am? Mhlawumbi ngoku bendinokuphefumla nje emva kwayo yonke le nto yokuphambuka impatho yokuphumelela kwaye ndiqonde ukuba ulingozi kangakanani ixesha lam?Nantoni na endiyenzayo, abo bantwana ndilahlekile kwiminyaka yokuqala yokukhulelwa, hayi kwakhona. Xa uzikhathaza malunga neminyaka emininzi kukungachumi, ubonakala ukhwele kwimithi ye-american roller mithi: Vala amehlo akho kwaye ubone kuphela eyona njongo iphambili. Ngelo xesha, abantu bathetha kancinane omnye komnye malunga neendlela ezigwenxa, malunga nobunzima bokuzala. Kwaye nam, andifuni ukuxoxa naye nabani na.
Ndavalwa kum, ndandimbi kakhulu. Udadewethu womyeni wam undicebisile ukuba ndijoyine iqela lenkxaso ebizwa ngokuba yisombululo. Ekugqibeleni ndababiza. Kwaye yenye yezona zinto zintle ndenzayo ebomini bam.
Ugqirha wezengqondo ekupheleni kocingo ke wandixelela izinto ezimbini endizincedileyo: Okokuqala, ukuba ngamanye amaxesha siyakufumana indlela yokusombulula ngayo le meko, ukuba sifuna umntwana kakhulu, Ke ngandlel 'ithile, ngokuqinisekileyo siya kufumana umntwana osenzelwe thina.
Ubuncinci yinyani: Ndinabantwana ababini abamangalisayo ... endidalelwe.
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