UDale Carnegie ngumbhali waseMelika owaziwayo, utitshala, umbhali weencwadi ezininzi. Igalelo lakhe kwi-psychology ifanisiwe. Ngoku, ngoncedo lweencwadi, abantu base-carnegie bafunda kuthi, bazizile kunye nonxibelelwano. Enye yeencwadi ezithandwayo uDale uxela indlela yokuqhubela ngokukhawuleza umntu. Iimbono ezifanayo Abantu kwihlabathi liphela zisetyenziselwa ukuqhuba ishishini, uthethathethwano ngeshishini kunye nokunxibelelana nabantu. Ngenxa yoko, ubomi babafundi buyaphucuka! Ndicinga ukuba kufanelekile ukumamela icebiso lakhe!
Oku kuthetha ukuba kubalulekile ukubaphatha ngohlobo, ngaphandle kokulindela isimo sengqondo esifanayo. Kulapho uyeka enye into ukuba ayilinde, kwaye uya kuqalisa ukwenza ngokungazingci, uqinisekise ukuba kulula kangakanani na ukunxibelelana nabanye. Ukukuthanda, kufuneka uqale uzithande. Kwaye ne-carnegie kwincwadi yakhe yabhala ukuba abantu abangalunganga kunye nobuntu obungathandekiyo, kufuneka nje ukulibala, endaweni yokuvula indawo yokuziphindezela. Ngaphandle koko, unokuzenzakalisa ngakumbi. Ngokubanzi, i-pacifism, i.e. Ukulwa nobundlobongela, kwaye ukuthanda ummelwane kungalandelwa kuyo yonke imisebenzi yeCarnegie. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba wayeyinto yokuba yena ngokwakhe wayehamba amafama ahluphekayo kwintsapho yamafama azibambisi kwaye ezikhuliswe ngoMoya wexabiso lamaKristu.
Akukho mntu uthandayo ngonaphakade, wathabatha kwabo bantu bangendawo. Ngokuqinisekileyo ezi ziyadinwa emva kwemizuzu nje embalwa yonxibelelwano. Kubalulekile ukuba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, kwaye nokuba kwimeko enzima kakhulu ukuba iwalise ngokuzolileyo ngakumbi. Olona themba lutsalwa kwabanye, kuba iphakamisa imeko. Zizithemba kunye nabantu abanomdla kuzo abantu abazithembayo bayazithemba kakhulu. Ngendlela, i-carnegie yaphawula le nto ebomini bakhe, xa kwakufuneka asebenze njengearhente yokuthengisa kwaye anxibelelane nenani elikhulu labantu. Ngapha koko, uDale kwakufuneka aqinisekise ukuba abantu bathenge iimpahla, kwaye yayinethemba lokuba ummshiyile. Enye inxenye yenxalenye yesimo sengqondo esinethemba loncumo olunyanisiweyo!
Kulula ukususa iingxaki kunye nokusilela kusetyenziswa umsebenzi. Awunakho ukuhlala nkqu, kufuneka usoloko ufumana isifundo. Kwaye ukugweba okunjalo kubonakala kwi-carnegie enkosi kumava akhe. Njengomntu okwishumi elivisayo, uDale wasebenza kakhulu kwifama yabazali bakhe, njengaye wafunda kwiKholeji. Yayingumsebenzi onzima owavumela umbhali ukuba aqonde ixabiso lemali, kunye nokwanceda ukuba singazikhathazi kwiqhina, kwaye ngokuchanekileyo ngokuchaza izinto eziza kuqala ebomini. I-carnegie yatsho ukuba ubomi bufutshane kakhulu ukuba ungayichitha kwi-trifles. Nantsi iNyaniso enokuphikisana ngayo!
Musa ukumba kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo, kuba awukwazi ukuyitshintsha. Ngelishwa, abantu bahlala belibala malunga nayo, ukuzithuthuzela kunye neenkumbulo kwaye uqhekeze imo yabo. Ewe, i-carnegie yathi iimpazamo zawo kufuneka zihlaziywe, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuguqula uhlalutyo ekuzibizeni, kuba akukho luncedo kuyo. Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukulawula iingcinga zakho, ungabavumeli ukuba babuye babuyele kumaxesha abukumkani.
Akukho mntu ulungeleyo, kodwa kubalulekile ukukuqonda oku kwaye usebenze ukuphelisa iimpazamo zakho. Bonke ubomi babo kufuneka baziphucule, kuba ngcono, ubuchule, bunobuthathaka. Kodwa akufuneki uyiguqule ibe ngumdla. Akukho sidingo sokuxhoma iilebheli zabantu, sizigwebe ngezenzo nangamagama, kubalulekile.
Phatha abantu ngokuqonda, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuzifumana!
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