"Ndiqalise ukuqonda abantu basetyhini."
ISergey, kwiminyaka engama-55 ubudala, abantwana ababini bavela kumtshato wokuqala uAna (oneminyaka engama-25 ubudala), i-Polina (iminyaka engama-21), i-9 yeminyaka ubudala), i-8 (iKsenia (i-4), iSofia (i-4), iSofia ( Iinyanga ezi-5)
I-St. Petersburg
Xa amazibulo ethu yayiyinyanga ezisibhozo ubudala, iqabane lakhulelwa umntwana. Kwiinyanga ezimbini emva koko, waya emsebenzini ukuze afumane umthetho kumntwana wesibini, kwaye kummiselo, ndahamba.
Emsebenzini, wonke umntu wamangaliswa kakhulu kukuba sagqiba kwelokuba siyenze le nto. Kwakungekho kugwetywa ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa ngokucacileyo bekukho ukungaqondani, kutheni kufuneka sifune umntwana wesibini xa eyokuqala isencinci kangaka.
Kwakungekho ngxaki ngoyilo lwamaxwebhu. Uya kwi-MFC kwaye wenze yonke into oyifunayo.
Andikwazi ukuthi ngaloo mmiselo ndifumanise into entsha. Sele ndikwiminyaka yokuqala yomtshato. Kanye ngelo xesha andizange ndicinge ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ilungiselele ngokusemthethweni. Mhlawumbi, ndaqala ukuqonda abafazi, ndabona ukuba laliphi amandla nexesha nelixesha.
Eyona nto inzima kwi-caretit yeyokusasaza ngokufanelekileyo ixesha ukuze yonke into kwaye kwangaxeshanye ayikhathazeki ukuba kukho into engabinalo ixesha.
Eyona nto imnandi kakhulu kukuva ukuba umntwana uthi "papula", kwaye ubone iimbono zabantu xa uhamba neentombi.
Ngesizathu esithile, kukholelwa ukuba kuphela umama anokukhathalela umntwana, nangona oku akunjalo. Utata unokufumana kuphela ukhathalelo nenkxaso.
Kuba abafazi ngoku baza ngakumbi kwaye bafana kakhulu nokulingana namadoda kwaye bakhetha ukunganikezeli umsebenzi, emva koko abantu banokuzifaka kwindawo yokugcina i-momaster okanye babuye. Zonke ezi zinto zisonjululwe.
"Kunzima kum ukucinga ukuba ngoonina abanyanzelwa ukuba batsale iiveki zokuqala ngomntwana bodwa"IArmand, iminyaka engama-32 ubudala, abantwana ababini-ingonyama (iminyaka emi-3), i-EVA (iinyanga ezisi-8)
I-barcelona
Emva kokubonakala kwabantwana, ayisiyiyo into ebomini bethu ayitshintshanga, kodwa siyaqhubeka nokwenza yonke into esiyithandayo ngaphambili: ukuhamba, sisebenza nabahlobo, sebenza. I-nues nje encinci yavela-ngoku ucwangciso lwalo nawuphi na umsitho ubandakanya ngokuzenzekelayo iimfuno zomntu omncinci (kwaye utsha nje - ezimbini). Kwaye ayisixesha nje. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ucinge ngoxanduva lwabo (kunye nolwabo!) Ubomi, malunga nomzekelo esikhonzayo.
Emva kokuzalwa komntwana, wena neqabane lakho uba ngabaphathi beeprojekthi, apho iprojekthi ibusiphi na ubomi omnike umntwana wakho. Kwaye le ndima intsha ingubomi, izisombululo kufuneka zithathwe yonke imihla.
Ngoku ndisebenza imini yonke, kwaye uKatnya uthile malunga nesiqingatha semini. Ngelixa uEva etya ubisi, ndichitha ixesha elincinci naye ngaphezu kweKakra. Kwaye ngokunxulumene nengonyama sihlule ixesha noxanduva lwexesha kunye neqhina. Emva kokuzalwa kwentombi, ndaba nenqanaba elitsha lokuqonda kunye nothando noNyana wakhe.
ESpain, apho sihlala khona, bobabini abazali abasebenzayo bafumana ikhefu lokuya kubeleka kakhulu. Iiveki ezilishumi elinesithandathu zeholide zixhomekeke kumzali ngamnye. Iiveki ezine kufuneka zithathwe ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ukuphumla- ngalo naliphi na ixesha de umntwana aphumelele ubudala.
Ndichithe ngokupheleleyo inyanga yokuqala emva kokuzalwa kukaEva, nakubalandeli ababini, ama-50% asebenza.
Kunzima kum ukucinga ukuba ngoomama abanyanzelwa ukuba batsale iiveki zokuqala ngomntwana yedwa. Njengokuba, ooyihlo. Ke ngoko, ndisondele kakhulu kwimodeli yaseSpain, xa bobabini abazali bexhasana (kunye nomntwana) ngexesha elinzima kakhulu.
ERussia, umthetho kayise akafakwanga kufakiwe ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Phantse yonke imivuzo emadodeni iphezulu ngenxa yocalucalulo ngokwesini. I-stereotypes yomelele: 'yendoda yokwenene "ukuba iqhubekeke kwi-cartit - isenzo esingenamsebenzi.
Indoda enye enentsana ayisakhe lula kunomfazi omnye. Kodwa ke akanasifuba.
Eyona nto imnandi kakhulu kuBaloba kukuziqonda ukuba umntu wam wenza ntoni.
Le yeyona nto inzima!
"Umsebenzi uya kuhlala uninzi, kwaye iinyanga zokuqala zobomi bomntwana azixabisi"I-Denis, iminyaka engama-37 ubudala, abantwana ababini - i-Gleb (iminyaka eli-15), i-Sennan (unyaka omnye)
Moscow
Kwanangaphambi kokuzalwa komncinci, bendiqinisekile ukuba akukho nto inokutshintsha ebomini bam. Ngokwenyani, thina samiselwa kule nto. Kodwa ubomi benza uhlengahlengiso lwayo, kwaye nomntwana babengakhange baqhagamshelwe. Indlela yethu yokuphila itshintshe kakhulu - sahlala phantsi i-save yokuqala yendawo yokuhlala ngaphandle kwaye nenkunkuma ayizange iphume, yabangela ukuba abalawule. Ndilahlekelwe lithuba lokuhamba ngokukhululekileyo, ukuhamba, ukudibana nabahlobo, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuchitha ixesha elithile nosapho lwam.
Ezethu nenkosikazi yakhe zabelana nge-50/50, kwaye xa unyana wazalwa nje kuphela, bendinawo ngakumbi, kuba kwakulula kakhulu ukuba ndifumane umntwana, nditsho, kuba sele ndinamava okusebenzisana.
Umntwana ngumbopheleleko wabazali bobabini, kuba isigqibo sokuphuphuma siqale umntwana baphinde bangene kunye.
Ndikwindawo ekude ukusuka ekupheleni kuka-Matshi 2020. Ke ngoko, sinokuthi ndikwimigaqo efanayo nenkosikazi yam kwaye kwasekuqaleni ukubandakanyeka kakhulu kwinkqubo yokukhuliswa. Ndicinga ukuba i-caret yotata kufuneka inyanzelwe. Olona hlobo lubaluleke kakhulu kumava aseYurophu, apho abayeni kufuneka bathathe ikhefu lokuya kubeleka kwiinyanga ezintathu (okanye ezintandathu) kwaye bahlala ecaleni kwenkosikazi yakhe nomntwana.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwiinyanga zokuqala, xa zonke iingxaki ezihlala ziphakama imibuzo othatha isigqibo ngayo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, le yimeko yobudenge yokuba nje ukuba umfazi azalwe umntwana, ulungile- hop! -Kwaye wafunda kwangoko ukhathalela umntwana. Ibhinqa, ukuba ngunyana wakhe wokuqala, kufana nokungaqondi kunye nokungaqondani ukuba ngoku ukwenza konke oku!
Imisebenzi iya kuhlala ininzi, kwaye iinyanga zokuqala zobomi bomntwana azixabisekanga. Njengakwintengiso- kukho izinto ezingenakuthengwa, kokuphumla kukho i-MasterCard.
Ndicinga ukuba amadoda angayi kummiselo, kuba abekwe kwi-diaper ukuba indoda ingumqambi kwaye kufuneka inike usapho, kwaye abantwana yinto elula.
Ngoku le meko iyatshintsha, kwaye phakathi kwabantu endibaziyo ndikhona amadoda asemzisini endaweni yabafazi. Ukuya kwinqanaba eliphezulu, oku, kunjalo, kungenxa yomcimbi wezezimali: Ingeniso nje yomfazi wakhe ingaphezulu kwendoda yakhe.
Ndizixabisa kakhulu iimvakalelo esizivayo, ukubona indlela umntwana evuya ngayo, ehleka ngendlela, ehleka, hugs, ukuluma emva kwempumlo, etyibilika, ebonisa i-hedgehog. Ndiyathanda ukubukela impumelelo yakhe kuphuhliso lwezakhono zokuqala. Iyilophele ngakumbi kunyaka wokuqala wobomi: Intloko yayindle intende yam, kwaye ngoku wayeguqukele, wahlala phantsi, wakhwela, waqalisa ukubiza i-gickes kwaye ukhwaza kuyo yonke indawo. Ukuqonda ukuba le yintshukumo yenu-ulonwabo olungenangqondo.
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