Ebuntwaneni kunye nokufikisa, sasihlala sinomsindo kwaye sikhutyekiswa ngumamma. Kwaye xa babekhula, baqonda ukuba oomami basifuna kuphela okona kulungileyo, kwaye babelungile xa besifundisa ubomi. Amaqhawene ethu akhe ayecinga ukuba oomama babo baxelela izinto ezoyikekayo nezingaqondakaliyo. Kwaye kuphela xa babe ngabantu abadala, baqonda ukuba oomama banikwe
hayi ngelize.
Ngenxa kamama, ndilahlekile uthando
Ndandineminyaka eli-15 ubudala, ndakhangela kakhulu, kwaye wayeyindoda entle kunye nesilwanyana sawo onke amantombazana esikolweni. Ewe kunjalo, igama lam lokuqala lothando lokuqala lalibi, kodwa amantombazana akwishumi elivisayo athanda amakhwenkwe amabi. Xa uVityame wandimema ukuba ndidibane, ndandikwindawo yesixhenxe ukusuka kulonwabo. Ukuda kwalala ebhedini, hayi amehlo anyibilikayo, kwaye akazange aqonde ukuba inkwenkwe emangalisayo indele njani kum. Ngelo xesha, ndaye ndanxiba iiglasi, iinwele zam zavalwa zaba zii-braids ezimbini, yayiyinto nje eyayinomdla kubafundi bezikolo eziphakamileyo. Kwaye ngenxa yesizathu esithile, uVinta wawubeka kum amehlo kum.
Umama umfana wam akazange athande. Hayi, akazange anditshixe ekhaya ukuze ndingakwazi ukuhambahamba namanye amatsha. Kodwa yayinganyanzeliswa, izamile ukuthetha nam, ndachaza ukuba kwakufuneka abe nalo mfundi wesikolo samabanga aphakamileyo kum. Ewe kunjalo, andizange ndimamele umama kwaye ndixakekile ziimvakalelo zam.
Ekupheleni kukaDisemba, uVitya wandimema ukuba ndibhiyozele unyaka omtsha kunye. Babenenkampani enkulu kwi-vitan yabahlobo be-vitan. Ukuthandabuza okhethiweyo ukuba sonke isibini esiya kubakho igumbi elahlukileyo, kwaye ndiyakwazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe. Bendilungele yonke into. Kodwa mama, akuva ukuba ndiza kuya kwigumbi elivela kumakhaya, ndilivale. Kangangeentsuku ezininzi ndakhale, ndaphembelela, ndathembisa ukufunda "kakhulu", ndihlala ndimnceda ajikeleze indlu.
Yonke imigudu yayingento yanto, kwaye umama wayehlala phantsi. "Ukuba ufuna ukudibana, andiyi kuthi. Kodwa andivumelekanga ukuba ndiye kwenye indawo nabafundi bezikolo eziphakamileyo ubusuku bonke, "utshilo umama, kwaye ndabona ukuba ayizukusebenza.
Ngaphezulu konyaka ndathulula inkosikazi yam kumama. Ubudlelwane bethu buqhekelwe, siphantse sangathethi, nangona umama wayezama ukuxolelanisa amaxesha amaninzi. Ngendlela, xa ndaxelela iVita ukuba andizukuya kweli lizwe, waphula ulwalamano nam. Ewe, ndamtyhola umama. Kubonakala ngathi kum ukuba umhlaba wam wawuwile. Kwaye emva koko ndafumanisa ukuba u-veni wadibana nam ngokuhambelana nam ngamantombazana amabini. Omnye wabo ukhulelwe eViti, kwaye wayiphosa.
Ngoku ndiyabulela kuMamuchka, andisindise kwisenzo esixhaphakileyo. Akwaziwa ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kum ngoku. Ndiyazi ukuba uthando lwam lokuqala lukwazile ukuhlala entolongweni ngenxa yobubi. Intombi yam ineminyaka emi-4 ubudala, kodwa ndicinga ukuba kufuneka unamava njani uthando lokuqala kunye nokuphoxeka okokuqala.
Sonke isikolo kufuneka sihleke
Ndandihlala ndingenamehlo amabi, kwaye ndandinxiba iiglasi. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba abantwana banenkohliso kakhulu ekuhlekiseni kwabo. I-Odnoklassniki yandihlekisa, xa ndinxiba iiglasi zam ezinkulu (ngezo ntsuku, zazingekabikho ziglasi zerim emnyama). Kwaye ndaye ndanxiba iibradi, kuba amazinyo akhula ephosakele.
Ndaye ndayeka ukubeka ubuqhetseba, kodwa abazali banika imali eninzi kangangokuba ndababeka. I-Odnoklassniki ibindile "umlomo wentsimbi" kunye "nomlomo wentsimbi". Andikathandi ukuhlaziya iifoto zesikolo. Andingomangayiki kwaye ndiphutha, kuba ndihlala ndidubula iiglasi. Ndabacaphukela abazali bam ngenxa yam, banamehlo amabi, namazinyo akhula kwicala elahlukileyo.
Sele eyunivesithi, xa ndandisuswa ii-brace, ndaqonda ukuba kufanelekile ukuba ndibe nombulelo umama notata. Emva koko ndazizisela iilensi, kodwa kamva ndenza umbono. Ndandinabalandeli abaninzi, ndatshata ngempumelelo, ndazala abantwana ababini. Xa ndifika kubazali bam, ndihlala ndibaxelela ukuba "enkosi" ngenxa yokuba bebalasele ii-hssteries zam kwaye bancedisa ukulungisa iimpazamo zenkangeleko.
Bona: Xa uMama ekholelwa ukuba ihlala ilungile, okanye indlela yokuba nesimo sengqondo sokuba ngumzali okuchaphazela abantwana
Abazali bavalelwa iilekese
Umama notata banamathele kwisondlo esifanelekileyo, ngenxa yoko asikaze sibe nepipi, iikeyiki, i-ice cream ekhaya. Ndikhumbula usuku lwam lokuzalwa xa ndandineminyaka emihlanu ubudala. Kwitafile yeholide yayikukusika iqhamo kunye ne-cake ye-cake ye "ngasekunene" ngaphandle kweswekile. Sele ndisesikolweni ndaphathwa ngepipi, kwaye ndandikuqonda ukuba zeziphi iziyolo endandihluthiswa ngabazali bam. Ndingatya itshokholethi eninzi ngokufihlakeleyo kumama, kwaye kaninzi i-rash ibonakale ebusweni nomzimba.
Kwaye, kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ndadibana noSensell. Kwaye wandixelela oko ekubeni ebubuntwana buhlupheka ngamazinyo akhe. Wayevunyelwe iilekese ebudeni. Mhlawumbi, ewe, oku kuyinto ephambili, kodwa andikaze ndibenazo iingxaki ngamazinyo akho kunye nokutyeba kakhulu. Umama, ngendlela, exelelwa kamva ukuba kutheni esenza ngokwanyathela iilekese. Xa wayesemncinci, umakhulu wakhe wayehlala ebanika iingxowa ezinkulu ngepipi. Kwiminyaka engama-25, umama kwafuneka abeke "ibhulorho", kuba amazinyo aliqela ayasindisa kwaye akaphumelelanga.
Andithi ndithintele unyana wakho oneminyaka emi-6 ubudala, kodwa akazithandi. KuYe, isaladi yemifuno yemifuno emnandi (ewe, yenzeka!) Okanye isandwich enentlanzi ebomvu.
Yifunde: Ukuba umntwana uthi: "Mama, andikuthandi"
Umama andidingi, kodwa ufuna umalume womnye umntu
Andazi utata wam ongumona. Wasiphosa ngonina xa ndingazalwanga. Kuyimfuneko ukuhlawula imbeko kuMama, kuba wayezama kakhulu kangangokuba andifuni kwanto. Umama usebenze kakhulu, kodwa kwangaxeshanye wayesoloko efumana ixesha lokuhamba kwethu ngokudibeneyo okanye iiklasi. Xa ndandineminyaka eli-13 ubudala, indoda yabonakala ebomini bakhe.
Ngokwemvelo, ndiye ndamthanda ngoko nangoko, nangona umkhwenkwe kamama wayeqhelekile kakhulu: wafumana kakuhle, wasikhathalela, wafundwa. Wazama ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nam, kodwa ndabutyeshela ubukho bakhe. Xa uMalume u-Volonodya weza, ndabetha umnyango kakhulu, ngaphandle kokuthetha.
Umama uchithe amandla amaninzi kunye ne-nerves, ukuzama ukufezekisa indawo yam. Kwaye ngandlela ithile ngokuhlwa, xa sasela iti kunye, sathi: "Ndingumfazi oselula, kwaye kufanelekile ukuba ndonwabe. Abasetyhini akufuneki bajonge ebuyaneni, kwaye ngenye imini uya kuyiqonda. " Ndifumene iti, kwaye umama wayesongeza intetho yakhe: "Andiyi kumyeka uVolokeya ngenxa ye-whim yakho. Siyathandana. Nam ndiyakuthanda. Cinga ukuba siza kuqhubeka njani sonke ukuba uqhubeka nokuziphatha. "
Kubomi bethu, uMalume u-Volodya uzinzisile. Wasisa endlwini yakhe, ejikelezwe ngokufudumala nokukhathalela. Ekuqaleni ndaqhubeka ndibonisa ukungavisisani kwam kwi-Inertia, kodwa kungekudala ndiza kuqaphela ukuba umatata wam otshatileyo ngumntu omangalisayo. Wandinika ubushushu obungaka nothando endiluthathile, kuba umntwana ngamnye ufuna utata. Umalume u-Polohedya wazisa isiko elihle lentsapho: Ngokuhlwa sifunda iincwadi ezimangalisayo. Ndithanda ukukhumbula iiholide zethu kwitafile enkulu, kunye neendwendwe, iingoma, ukhuphiswano, ukuhleka kunye nokuzonwabisa.
Ngoku ndingumama kaMama, uMalume Phosa (ndimbiza kudala) - oyena Njineli obalaseleyo emhlabeni. Ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo kuye yonke into andenzele yona. Kwaye ndiyambulela umama ngokundifundisa into elula, kodwa ebaluleke kakhulu: awunakulibala ngokwakho kwaye uchithe ngokupheleleyo ebantwaneni.
Cinga ngempilo yakho
Ndikhule umntwana okhula, kwaye esikolweni ndaye ndaphulukana ne "Fago". Kwiminyaka eli-14 ubudala, ndaqala ndahlala ngokutya. Bendifuna ukuba njengentombi yam, ukukhomba okunjalo kwaye kunqabile, ukuba imigca evela kuwo abafayo. Phambi kokuba ibhola yokuthweswa isidanga, andizange ndiphephe ukutya. Umama wazama ukondla, walungisa izitya zakhe ezithandekayo, wathi indlela yobomi iya kuchaphazela kakubi impilo yam. Kodwa uya kumamela umama xa silinganisa i-45 kg, ufuna njani, kwaye iphindwe kabini?
Eyunivesithi, ndawuthatha kakhulu inani lam. Ikhalori ithathelwe ingqalelo, ayizange ivumele nantoni na eyalelwe, yonke ngokuhlwa ichithwe kwindawo yokuzivocavoca. Umama uyandibhabha xa ndeza kuye. Ngeli xesha ndandinobunzima obungama-40 kg, kodwa ayindinqanda. Kwaye xa ndangena esibhedlele ndinomntu okhuphayo, uMama weza kum yonke imihla kwaye walila lonke ixesha.
Kwabakho iminyaka emininzi yokufumana kwakhona. Ndifunde ukutya, ndihlaziya ubomi bam kwaye ndaqondwa, ekugqibeleni, uMama wayenyanisile. Ngenxa yokunqongophala kobunzima bomzimba ixesha elide, bekungakhulelwanga, ke kukho iingxaki zempilo ezinobungozi. Oomamma abasekho, kodwa ngalo lonke ixesha ndiyakhumbula ukuba wathi: "Dasha, kufuneka uzikhathalele. Inkangeleko ayiyonto ibaluleke kakhulu. Cinga ngempilo yakho. " Ngoku bendizokunika okuninzi ukuhlala no-Mamolly ngekomityi yeti kunye nolonwabo lokutya iipatties zakhe ezazi ukuba ukupheke kuphela.