Ibali elilusizi kubomi bukaMama, owashukumisela umntwana wakhe ukuthanda umntu. Basinde njani iintlungu zengqondo kulo mfazi xa wafunda ngenyaniso
Inyathelo kumntwana wakhe, kwaye kwakufuneka uthathe isigqibo?
Ngalo lonke ixesha bendihleli kwilaptop, ndivule uxwebhu lwe-vordvsky, kodwa andikwazanga ukwenza isigqibo sokubhala ibali lam. Kwenye, ndiqinisekile ngokuqinisekileyo, iya kuba sisifundo esihle kwabanye oomama abaya kufundisa abaninzi nje ukuba bangaziva, kodwa bayamkhangela imeko yabo kwaye bajonge imeko yabo. Ndinayo yonke into ngokuchaneka okuchaseneyo. Uthando lwam, ngokungathi luneentloni phambi kwamehlo akhe, luthile ndilitshise ingqondo yam. Ndandithandana nendoda, eyayigqiba kwesenzo esinzulu - siyakha umntwana kwaye sizinikele kwiqabane.
Kancinci malunga nawe: Ndiyintombazana eneminyaka engama-27 ubudala, ndazala umntwana nge-23 evela kwindoda yakho ethandekayo. Anditsho ukuba ndonwabile kuye, nangona ubudlelwane kunye nabo babugqibelele. Kodwa kwenzeka inkculo enkulu. Xa imbewu yethu yayineminyaka eyi-2,5 ubudala, umyeni wangena kwingozi enkulu kwaye emva kweentsuku ezi-2 emva kokuba efile. Njengoko ugqirha besitsho, isizathu kukulimala okuninzi kunye nokuqhekeka okungahambelani nobomi. Endikuye emva kokuba efile ifile, inye kuphela eyaziyo, ngenxa yoko andifuni ukuyikhumbula kwaye ndichaze. Kodwa ndiza kuthetha inye kuphela, iingcinga zokuzibulala zandityelela. Into kuphela eyandimisayo ngumntwana wam. Ngaxesha elinye ndifumana ukuqonda - ndabona ukuba ndingaphili ngokumphelela!
Ukuqala kobudlelwane
Udlulise iminyaka emi-5, uSedon ukhule - ngoku uneminyaka eyi-7.5 ubudala, kwaye uya kwiklasi yokuqala. Umntwana wam kuphela kolona lonwabo ebomini bam. Uhlala indoda yokwenene-ngeendlela ezininzi iyandinceda, ixhasa ngokuziphatha, kwaye ndikholisa nje endinako!
Nangona kunjalo, yayilixesha apho kwakufuneka ndimtyhale ngasemva. Uyekile ukuba kum umntu 1 ehlabathini. Kwathi xa ndadibana, njengoko kwakubonakala ngathi ndiqala nje ukucinga, umntu ofanelekileyo. Umde, ongumntu, oqondayo kwaye umfana omncinci wajika intloko yam. Ukunxibelelana ngaphezulu konyaka, sagqiba kwelokuba siye kuhlala kunye.
Ngokufanelekileyo ndandisa usapho lwam emva kweenyanga ezintlanu zonxibelelwano. Khange ndilinde, kodwa intanda yam yazibonakalisa utata wotshani nothambileyo. Wayehlala enyuka kwiilekese, iithoyi, wamthatha malunga nokuloba, uqeqesho. Ndiza kuthetha ngokunyaniseka, ndonwabile, kuba uninzi lwabantu ababiza kakhulu baba ngabahlobo bokwenene - yintoni enokuba ngcono?
Sasihlala kwigumbi lam amabini, kukho indawo eyaneleyo. Ekuqaleni, i-idyll epheleleyo ilawula usapho lwethu. I-anatoime ye-anatoy ye-anatoy kunye nomntwana yayisahluka kwaye yazisa kuphela amadlozi kunye nolonwabo-uhambo oludibeneyo, ukuhamba, iimbambo kwindalo. UTolik wenza izipho ezixabisa-zazisa itafile yembewu, awayeyiphupha. Nangona kunjalo, le nto i-idyll igqibile, ngokoqobo kwangoko emva kokuba siye sabonisa ukuba ubudlelwane bethu bube semthethweni.
Ukungakhathali kwam
Ngequbuliso intanda yam kunye nendoda enqwenelekayo yaphulukana nomsebenzi wayo. Ngaphandle koku, ndagqobhoza iingcinga ezimbi. Usebenza ngokwakhe njengengcali yezoqoqosho kwinkampani elungileyo. Ndandihlala ndisiya kulala emsebenzini. Ngenye imini xa ndaphinda ndalibaziseka emsebenzini, umntwana wam wandibiza. Wayethetha ngelizwi elingcangcazayo nelukhuni. Undibuze: "Ndiza kubuyela nini?" Into endiyiphendulileyo, yeyale nonke ekhaya. Unyana wathi yonke into ilungelelene, kodwa ndandinomongo ombi wokuba kukho into engalunganga. Ukucinga kwe-trole, ndakhawuleza ndaqokelela ndagoduka.
Ukuvula ucango lwendlu, ndeva kukhala ngokuqaqambileyo - ndakhwaza ndingqengqa emntwaneni, ndizama ukummenza izinto zayo. Okomzuzwana, mna, ndonwabile ukuba abanye abantu basekhaya besiyingcaciso yokuxabana. Ngapha koko, kwindlela egodukayo, sele ndilile ngolu hlobo.
Ke ngoko, ukuqhekeka kweTolik ngokunxulumene nomntwana kufanelekile kwaye akuzange kundididekile. Ngoku ndiyaqonda ukuba phambi kokuba ndingandivumeli kum. Ngapha koko, sinazo zonke iingxaki ngembewu cwaka nangoxolo. Wayendiqonda ukusuka kwisiqingatha sendlela. Ukuya ekhitshini, ndabona umntwana owaphukileyo kwaye wancuma i-tolik. Uncumo lwakhe lwandilahlekisa, kwaye ndathobela le meko. Ngoku ndiyaqonda ukuba eyona nto imbi khange ndiye nayo kwi-jeonry yokuthetha nembewu emva kwento eyenzekileyo. Kwaye yayiyimpazamo enkulu.
Kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke loo nto, xa wonke umntu efezekisiwe ziibhedi zabo, uTolik waqalisa ukugxeka. Batsho ukuba unayo i-sludge, i-egoist kunye nenkunkuma. Ukundixelela ukuba ndingumama ongendawo kwaye ndikhulisa kakubi umntwana akazange akhathazeke mntu! Kwaye nangaphezulu nangakumbi, ukuba andinazo iingqondo zaneleyo. Musa ukukholwa, kodwa kuyo yonke indawo yokubhukuqa kwayo, ndangena nje intloko yam kwaye ndathula. UTolik, engalindelanga ukuba asabele, agqibe kwangoko ukuba akhulule yonke i-arsenal, esithi ngoku ukhulise imbewu ngokupheleleyo kuthatha imbewu. Into endivusele kuyo kwakhona.
Ewe kunjalo, bekundilungele, ndinikwe into yokuba ndingakhathali kwaye ndidiniwe kakhulu, kwaye uTollik wanceda ngezifundo, wehlela ukuya kuqeqesho, athabatha esikolweni. Umongikazi ongengoma ngenkangeleko eyindoda. Ngenxa yoko, ndaphawuleka kunyana wam ngokupheleleyo kunyana wam, ndinamagxa ngokupheleleyo kumagxa otata wotyelelo.
Umntwana utshintsha kabukhali - wavalelwa, athule, aqhubeka endidibana nam ezingalweni xa ndibuya emsebenzini. Eyona nto imbi kakhulu andizange ndiyiqaphele. Khange ndiqaphele ukuba isekhohlo kum kwaye iqabane lam linye kwibhulethini egumbini lam. Kwafika kwinqanaba lokuba ndiyeke ndinomdla kwindlela awayeqhuba ngayo esikolweni, ukuba uya kwisitrato esihamba nabahlobo nento awayeyenza ngexesha lakhe elikhululekileyo. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba yonke into yahlukile ngokupheleleyo: wabelana nam yonke into eyenzekileyo ngomhla wakhe. Amabali akhe ayenemvakalelo kangangokuba nam andizange ndikwazi ukuphazamisa.
Bona: Imbali Umama, okwazile ukuseka ubudlelwane nentombi yakhe
Imfihlo ibonakale
Usuku lokukhanyisela ngokukhawuleza, ndabona ukuba ndenza impazamo enkulu. Yonke into eyenzekileyo kwiZiko lokuzonwabisa xa iSemyon yala ngokupheleleyo ukudlala ngeTolik. Ndinomsindo, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndohlwaye umntwana - ndimbonise into engabinambulelo kwaye ndibeka kwikona. I-Seesses yaqalisa iihekstics, iinyembezi, ndazama, kodwa andikwazanga ukumphela. Wambamba waza wayizisa esitratweni ukuba uthethe.
Sahlala phantsi kwivenkile ekufuphi, ndamlahla ngokuqinileyo ndaza ndakhalela. Ngeenyembezi, ndacela ukuba ndixele ngokwenzekileyo. Ukuva ukuba umntwana uthini, ndiye ndothuka. Ndaziva ndiseGadoko ukuba andikwazi nokude ndide ... ngoku ndayiqonda indlela embi ngayo umntwana wam. USema uxelele indlela iTolik engazange ikhwaze kuphela, kodwa yambetha, wonke umntu oze kwingalo yakhe. Kananjalo wafumana umniki nyana wakhe, oya kumnika ikhaya leenkedama, ukuba uthe waxelela umama wakhe.
Kodwa ezi yayiziintyatyambo kuphela. Ngalo lonke ixesha lula, iqabane lakhe lathetha nomntwana ukuze ndingasamthandi ukuba umntwana owahlukileyo uya kubonakala kungekudala, emva koko abasixhenxe abayi kudinga umama ngokubanzi. Yintoni le yafuna ukuyifezekisa le ndoda, andizange ndiyiqonde - ukuba ndiyiyomeleza ngokupheleleyo ingqalelo yam, nokuba ndimbonisa ingqalelo yam, nokuba akakholwa ngqalelo yomntwana wam okanye akakholwayo.
U-SEMMA wandicinezela kangangokuba ndaqala ukubhonga uhambo. Emva kwethuba, xa sizolile, sagqiba, lixesha lokuba ubuye kwindawo yokuzonwabisa. UTolik, owabona ubuso bethu, eyiqonda yonke into. Nangona kunjalo, andimxelelanga nto. Ukulungiselela ukungaqali isikrelemnqa nomntwana, siyithathe kwiiyure ezimbalwa ukuze umhlobo wam.
Esele yedwa nomyeni wakhe, andibanga nexesha lokuthetha nantoni na, njengoko uTolik waqalisa ukundichaza: "Ungayikholelwa njani le nto? Ngokuchanekileyo ukucwangcisa nxamnye nam! ". Ndasabela eLizwini elinye ngegama elithi "Gadnish" - ndaqalisa ukumbetha ngamanqindi nangona wayekhokela imoto.
Ngombuzo wam, wambetha, waphendula wathi: "Ndabetha izihlandlo ezininzi."
Isisombululo esinzima
Yonke into yokuba ndixelele ithembekile xa ndiqokelela izinto kwaye ndiphume endlwini yam. Eyona nto intle wayeqala ukuyicenga, ukucela ukuxolelwa, ukuthembisa ukuba kwakungabi sabakho. Kodwa bendinjengodonga olungazinzanga!
Ixesha elide emva koko kwenzeke nangoku, ndizihlukumeze ngento endiyenzileyo nomntwana wam - amancinci nangabakhuseli. Wayehlala emhlwaye ngenxa yokuhleba kuTolik, wamnyanzela ukuba ahlale ixesha elide kwigumbi lakhe. Ndiyazi ukuba andizukxolelwa kwaye andiyikhanyeli ityala lam. Ndinokuthetha into enye kuphela le meko indinike isifundo esihle. Ke ngoku akukho mntu akayi kuthatha indawo yonyana wakhe entliziyweni yam!