Akukho mama, ootatomkhulu, utat'omkhulu kwaye akukho bata batsho ngekratshi: Ndifundisa, bathi, intombi inyameze ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo ...
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Mhlawumbi, akukho umama, umakhulu, utat'omkhulu kwaye uBawo utsho ngekratshi: Ndifundisa, bathi, intombi inyameze ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo kwangaphambili. Ngokuchasene noko, zonke (okanye ezininzi?) Ayizukunqwenelela intombi yabo ukuba ihambe ngeli xesha. Kodwa, ye-ALOS, iindlela ezinobuhlobo bosapho zisathandwa, ezifunda intombazana ukuba ithi "hayi" ukusondelelana okungathandekiyo kunye nento eza kubusa iintlungu zomzimba.
Amanqaku amaninzi achaza ukuba anceda njani intombazana yasebuntwaneni ukuze ive kwaye ikhusele imida yabo. Kodwa lonke olu lwazi lujongane nezithethe ezingabonakaliyo, kunye namasiko kwiimeko ezininzi, weza, woyisa.
"Umakhulu abaninzi!"
Akukho nto imbiyo ekuxeleleni umntwana isenzo sentlalo-bathi, musa ukubopha umakhulu wakho? Ewe kunjalo, ayisiyo nje umakhulu, kodwa malunga nasiphi na isihlobo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha undwendwe. Akukho nto imbiyo ukuba umntwana uyayenza - emva kwesivakalisi sexesha elinye. Hug-ngesiqhelo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha iluncedo.
Ingxaki iqala xa umntwana engafuni ukwanga nabani na, kwaye uxhonywe phezu komphefumlo kunye nehlazo, okanye eshiya omnye umntu ukuba aqhubeke. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ithini isizathu sokuba umakhulu onemiqathango akafuni ukwanga ngeli xesha.
Hlonipha inyani yokuba umntwana akakulungele ukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni, kuzisa ukuzithemba kwintombazana efuna unxibelelwano lomzimba lufuna kwakhona imvume. Kwaye, ngelishwa, ngokuchaseneyo.
Mhlawumbi, bonke abantu bale mihla bacacile, luluphi unxibelelwano oluphakathi kwembono yemvume yokunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nokukwazi ukuvavanya ukunxibelelana ngesondo okanye ubundlobongela.
Ngokuphathelele inyani yokuba umakhulu (umakhulu, undwendwe, njl njl) unokukhubeka ukuba akanobuhlobo ngeendlela ezininzi zokubonisa ulonwabo okanye ngentlonelo esithi cwaka. Kwaye bonke balungele abantwana!
"Ndiza kufezekisa"
Ihlala yenzeka rhoqo ukuba intombazana ayithandi uhlobo oluthile lweengubo, izihlangu okanye iinwele (kodwa umama (okanye ezinye izalamane (okanye ezinye izihlobo) zibonakala ngathi zibaluleke kakhulu ukuba ichaphazele le ntombazana, yile zihlangu ngele ndlela. Kwaye eyona ntombazana ineemvakalelo ezininzi ivusa kwaye icacisa ngakumbi ukuba yile nto kanye engafunekiyo - kokukhona iqabane eliphezulu liqhubeka.
Ngaphandle kwengcali yengqondo, ungaqondi xa sithetha malunga nokunxanwa kuziva amandla (awuzange ufune - kodwa xa ndisayala imvakalelo encitshisiweyo kunye noyolo ntombazana. Omnye umama njengomntwana, wayefuna iingubo ezintle endaweni yebhulukhwe esebenzayo yaseTurkey, enamathele kwinkcazo-ntetho ilingana nolonwabo. " Omnye utata wayengeyiyo yonke intombazana, kodwa ugcina umfanekiso wentombazana ethile engumzekelo kunye nokuphambuka kuyo entloko, njengokwemigaqo, ukuphambuka kwesiqhelo. Ngenxa yoko, yonke into iphela ngenyani yokuba isalamane sikhangela indlela yokunyanzela umntwana ukuba enze kanye kanye oko kubangela ukuba umntwana akhanuke.
Akukho mfuneko malunga nogonyamelo ngqo. I-Multi-veki nganye kunye nokunyoba kweelekese, iithoyi, uhambo olukhethekileyo lunokuhamba. Iskimu enye. Umzali, wayekufumene okwakhe, enyanzela ukuba athathe ingqalelo yomntwana kwinto yokuba ngoku iphilile. Akaceli ukuba umntwana, siqaphele, kodwa kemisela ukuba intombazana ilungile.
Kodwa intombazana ayikwazanga ukuzithanda ezi zihlangu, kuba umlenze ubuhlungu kwaye iyazonwabela yonke into yakhe. Kwaye ungazithandi ezi ntlobo zehagu ngenxa yesi sizathu esivakalayo sentloko, iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu. Okanye mhlawumbi unezinye izimvo malunga nomhle?
"Kwakungekho nto yokoyika. Ewe yonke into ihamba kakuhle. Ndicinga ukuba awuqhekezi. Ewe, ngoku yonke into yi ", - la mabinzana emva koko ngena kumava obutsha amabhinqa amaninzi, okuthintela ekuqondeni ukuba kwenzeke ntoni ubundlobongela. Akukho sidingo sokucinga ukuba uyithandile.
Ubundlobongela bokutya
Musa ukunika intombi ilapho xa ulambile. Ukunyanzelwa kuxa ungalambanga. Ukwenza into angayifuniyo, ukunamathela okufunayo kule mveliso kwisitya ngasinye kunye nokuhleka kwindlela intombazana ecaphukayo, efumana kwakhona kwiplate yakhe ukuba ndingafunanga ukubona apho. Zonke ezi ziintlobo zogonyamelo oluqhelekileyo.
Embindini wenkulungwane yamashumi amabini, ithiyori yaqala ukusasaza ukuba ukukhuliswa kwethu ngokwesini kuqala ngophuhliso lwezinto zethu ngokubanzi, kwaye uninzi lolutho lwenza ubudlelwane nokutya.
Umntu oye wafunda ukufuna kwaye wazichaza ukuba wayenencam kwaye yintoni engakhange enze ukhetho ngalo lonke ixesha elimnandi), uya kwenza ngokunxulumene nobomi bakhe bezesondo.
Umntu ongabanye abantu akazange anike ithuba lokuyeka ukutya, emva koko athandaze, akaqondi xa ilithi "hayi" izinto ezingathandekiyo.
Ukuhlambela indlala yendlala, oko kukuthi, imvakalelo yomzimba yentombazana, inokukhulisa kutyekelo lokutyeshela indlala - iimfuno zemvakalelo. Ukwahlukaniswa kwiimvakalelo zalo kumenza umntu azikhusele phambi kogonyamelo kwaphela, kubandakanya nesondo.