Uthando lokuqala lungumsitho oya kukhunjulwa ubomi bam bonke, kwaye kuba inokuthi ibe yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane bayo obuzayo kunye nomgangatho onamandla. Ngelishwa, eli la amava alisoloko lilungile - phantse isithathu sabantwana nolutsha uthando lokuqala aluqala okokuqala okanye lungonwabanga. Bazali, ukuba bafunda ngemeko enjalo, kufuneka bancede bakwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo zokukhusela kwizidenge okanye kumanyathelo abulalayo.
Iimpawu zothando olungathandabuzekiyo
Ukuba nomntwana kukho into engalunganga, baya kuba nakho ukwazi ukuba abo bazali bangenamdla kubo. Umntwana okwishumi elivisayo uvaliwe, aphelelwe ziiklasi eziqhelekileyo, uyayeka ukuba nomdla wokufunda. Uninzi luyanyamalala, kodwa lusenokuba yiseti - umntwana "uqesha" amava akhe. Kwindlela yabazali kunye nabantu abadala abanomdla kwizizathu zokutshintsha, i-Gotgativism iqala ukuqina, ivule impikiswano nokungathobeli. Kodwa uninzi lolwalamano kunye nomnye wabahlobo (intombi) basondele kakhulu, imfihlo. Kodwa isiqingatha sabakwishumi elivisayo sihlangabezana nentlekele yothando ngokwabo, esoyika ukuvula umntu ukuba angabi ngumxholo wokugculelwa, okokuqala.
Ngoku abazali balula kakhulu. Abantwana bale mihla bahlala betofa nganye nganye yesandi kwaye babhale malunga neemvakalelo ezinamava kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo. Kwaye ushiye iifoto kunye nezithuba izithuba ezininzi ngosuku. Sele ivulekile kulo lonke ulwazi onokuyivavanya imeko yomntwana. Ke jonga rhoqo kumaphepha abantwana bakho, kodwa ngokungacacanga.
Njengomthetho, nolutsha, ulutsha luqala ukuchitha ixesha elingakumbi ngaphandle kwendlu, chitha ixesha elininzi kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo, kwiingxoxo ngefowuni. Ucela imali engaphezulu aze aqalise ukunikela ingqalelo enkulu kwinkangeleko yakhe, engonwabisiyo.
Omnye ummiselo wokuziphatha ophathekayo: Unonophelo olupheleleyo lwenyani ngoncedo lwemidlalo yekhompyuter, utywala, unxibelelwano nabahlobo okanye izinto zokuzonwabisa ngemidlalo egqithisileyo.
Kukho i-tabups eziphambili kubantu abadala, ezaphula iingcali zengqondo azicetyiswanga:
- Ungafungi ngezinto zaBantwana - iingxowa zezinto, iingxowa, iibhokisi zetafile. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuya kususa umntwana kwaye komeleze ukungakhathali.
- Akukho sidingo sokulawula ifowuni ephathekayo kunye nekhompyuter yeshumi elivisayo.
- Akunakwenzeka ukuthintela umntwana ukuba ahambe kwenye indawo - uya kusabaleka, aqonde ngakumbi umntwana aqiniseke ngakumbi inkululeko encinci.
- Akukho mfuneko yokuba ugxeke umnqweno wokutshintsha into ngembonakalo, kodwa bambalwa abazali banokuzola kwaye bathe cwaka babuthele iimvavanyo, bengagxeki umntwana. Kungcono ukwamkela nje imeko - ihlala iminqweno enjalo idlula.
- Musa ukuyenza imeko.
- Sukumgculela umntwana kwaye ungahleki iimvakalelo zakhe - akukho mabi kakhulu kunabantu abadala.
Iziphumo ezinokwenzeka zoThando
Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, engaphuhliswa yi-Peycholocal Morama.
- Ukuba asinamntwana okwishumi elivisayo, nto leyo enothando olungafanelekanga lwenkxaso efanelekileyo, ke ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunokuphuhlisa.
- Uninzi luneempawu ezinobuqhetseba: Ukuxinana nokudakumba, ukulangazelela rhoqo, ukungakhathali kuyo yonke into.
- Enye yeengozi ezininzi kangangokuba amantombazana kukungabikho komdla, ukulahleka kwesisindo ukuya kwi-Anorexia.
- Kwiimeko ezinzima, abakwishumi elivisayo banokuba nemibono malunga nokungabi nantsingiselo yobukho, iingcinga malunga nokuthandabuza ukuhlala.
Yintoni ekufuneka ubanike abazali
Abazali kufuneka babe nobuninzi beqhinga. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uqale kwangoko ukwenza umntwana ngemibuzo malunga nothando, iingxaki esikolweni. Kubalulekile:
- ukwala ukubuza, unxibelelwano lufanele lube lubuthathaka kangangoko kunokwenzeka;
- Mamela, inkxaso, uqonde, nokuba uvelwano;
- Ungasixelela uthando lwakho lokuqala, ngaphandle kwedrama;
- Nxibelelana nomntwana okwishumi elivisayo ngokuzolileyo, hayi ukuveza ukucaphukisa, musa ukuyigweba into "engaphumelelanga";
- ukwala ukunxibelelana noontanga;
- Zama ukutshintsha amanye amaqela kubomi enganxibelelani nolwalamano lobuqu- thumela kuhambo, bhala phantsi kwizifundo ezintsha, uze nohlobo olutsha lweeklasi;
- Ukuthanda, okanye imvume yomntwana, zama ukuqonda isfect.