Kutheni umntwana engathobelanga: izizathu ezi-5

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Ngokudibeneyo kunye nonyango lwengqondo, iMaurein ye-AMY MAURIN, siyayithoba izizathu ezihlanu eziphambili zokuba kutheni umntwana ephosa amazwi akho ngeendlebe okanye kwangoko ukungena kwimbonakalo ngenxa yesicelo somnye.

Usoyikisa kakhulu

Uthatha ukuqaphela ukuya kuthi ga kwinani lamaxesha amathathu angenasiphelo, ukubuza ngokumangalisayo: "Kulungile, ungayithetha malini ?!" Okanye uphinda-phinda kwakhona: "Esi sisilumkiso samva nje!" Ukuba uhlala ulumkisa ngento ethile okanye osoyikisayo into, umntwana uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba awukhathali ngokwenene ngamazwi akho.

Ngapha koko, ukuba uhlala usondela, umntwana uyaqonda ukuba akanamfuneko yokuba akuphulaphule kwasekuqaleni - usaphindaphinda amagama akho amaxesha.

Chaza isicelo sakho kube kanye.

Ukuba umntwana akakwevanga-faka isilumkiso kuye, kwaye ukuba ayincedi - yiya kwiziphumo eziphezulu.

Izisongelo zakho azinantsingiselo

Xa sinomsindo, sinokufumana izisongelo zethu kubuchule obungenakufikeleleka: "Ukuba awuziphakamisi iimoto zakho phantsi, ndiza kuzikhupha zonke iithoyi zakho!"

"Ukuba awubaleki egumbini, andikaze ndikuyeke uhambe!"

Izisongelo ezinjalo nezingenakukhathalelwa kukuba ungakuncedi-boyikisa abantwana kakhulu, kwaye abantwana abadala sele beqonde ukuba izithembiso zakho zingenanto kwaye azisayi kuzaliseka.

Yiya kulandelelana.

Kungcono ukucinezela umnqweno wokukoyikisa izoyikiso zomntwana kwaye unamathele kwizithembiso ezilula nezinengqiqo.

Umzekelo, ubuncinci: "Ukuba awuyibulala egumbini, namhlanje andizukuvumela ukuba uhambe."

Ulwa amandla

Akunzima kakhulu ukuba utyelwe kwimbambano nomntwana kuyo nayiphi na, nokuba yeyona theko ibalulekileyo. Kodwa ixesha elide uziphatha njengeminyaka emithathu kwindawo yokudlala: "Uyakwenza, njengoko ndithetha!" "Hayi, andizuk ' "Hayi, uya kwenza!" Ixesha elide umntwana wakho liyabonakala ukuba ungakwenzi oko ubuzibuze.

Khumbula ukuba mdala nguwe.

Oku akuthethi ukuba akufuneki unike umntwana ilungelo lokubonisa uluvo lwakho okanye uzisa iimpikiswano kwinkxaso yayo.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba incoko yababini yakho iye yaba yi-probising engaveliyo, ke lixesha lokuba ukhumbule ukuba ngubani na umntu omdala, omele uyeke ezi chiza.

Iziphumo ezithenjisiweyo azikaze zenzeke

Ukungahambelani kwabazali kuya kuhlala kuba sisizathu sokuba abantwana bangathobeli izicelo nezibongozo, nokuba zinjani na. Kubalulekile ukuba ungqinelane nezithembiso zakho kwaye ubonise umntwana ukuba unezenzo zokwenyani: "Ukuba uyaphosa umntu kwisanti yomntu, siya kuyishiya iqonga," kwaye ngokwenene uya.

Ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba umphumo othenjiweyo ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuza, uya kuba naliphi ingqalelo ngakumbi ukumamela amazwi akho.

Hlala kwingqondo elungileyo.

Siyakukhumbuza ukuba ubundlobongela asinakuthathwa njengesiphumo sokungathobeli: "Yiza apha ngoku, okanye ndiza kukunika ibhanti!"

Akukho zilumkiso zithethelela ubundlobongela nxamnye nomntwana-ayisiyo inyathelo loluleko, lulwaphulo-mthetho.

Uphakamisa izwi

Eyona ndlela ilula neqinisekileyo yokutsala umdla womntwana, ngokobaninzi abazali, kukwandisa izwi okanye ixhoba kuyo. Akufanelekanga ukwenza njalo, kuba abantwana baphulukane nokukhwaza kwaye bafunde ukungayihoyi njengengxolo engasemva.

Ukongeza, ukukhwaza kwabazali kuchaphazela kakubi impilo yengqondo neyeemvakalelo yabantwana, enokukhokelela ekuphumweni konyuke ngokuchasene nemicimbi kwixesha elizayo.

Okukhona ekhwaza ebantwaneni, eli lithuba lokufumana kwakho.

Ukuba ufumene iimpazamo enye okanye ezininzi ezidwelisiweyo kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokusebenza ekupheliseni kwabo, usafuna ixesha lokwakha ukusebenzisana kwakho nomntwana.

Hlala wehlile.

Ukwakha unxibelelwano olusebenzayo phakathi komzali nomntwana lixesha elide, eliqalayo, eliqala ukubantwana.

Zama ukugcina ukuzola, ungaguquguquki kwaye uzithembile kwizigqibo zethu, kunye nokubonisa intlonipho kunye nemvakalelo kwimo yezengqondo yomntwana wakho.

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