Ngokuzalwa komntwana, isibini, njengomthetho, silungiselela noxanduva olupheleleyo. Kwindoda, i-taternity linyathelo elibi kangangokuba liqhele ukuba neminyaka engaqondakaliyo xa kuninzi okuninzi kwaye bekulungele ukunika umntwana yonke into oyifunayo. Nangona kunjalo, iimeko zisenzeka xa abantu abancinci baqala ubomi bezesondo, kodwa bayalibala ngokhuseleko. Kwiminyaka elishumi eyadlulayo, uluntu lwehlabathi lwabethwa yimbali yesibini saseBritane, esebuncinane njengabazali.
UAlfi Patten wayeneminyaka eli-13 ubudala, intombi yakhe intombi yakhe i-chatelman - iminyaka eli-15. Ulutsha lwaqala ukudibana, kwaye xa lufundele ngokukhulelwa, lalisele liphelile ukususa umntwana. Ibali lika-Asteleccents liye ladudusa kwihlabathi liphela, kodwa likhulisa ukuba lafumana loo nto, ndiyabulela kubazali babo. Oomakhulu nootat'omkhulu nootatomkhulu noomakhulu bagqibe kwelokuba ukubonakala komntwana kuyindlela entle yokwenza okuhle. Iintatheli zahlawula imali ebonakalayo kwisidumbu ngasinye sesibini esiselula okanye udliwanondlebe nabo.
Ngokwemvelo, ingcinezelo yomfo kunye nentombazana yayinefuthe elibi kwi-psyches yabo. Ukanti, ukuba ngabazali kubudala obufana kunzima ngokupheleleyo. Xa oontanga bekhwela ibhola kwibhola yebhola, funda, baphila ngobomi obuqhelekileyo befilinte, i-Alfa ne-Alfa ne-Alfa ne-chatel kwafuneka batshintshe iirandi, bavuke ebusuku, bahambe ngenqwelomoya kwaye bakhathalele i-crum. Uhlala njani utata omncinci, oneminyaka engama-23 ubudala?
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Ngo-2009, iindaba zenkwenkwana eneminyaka eli-13 ubudala, eyaza kuba ngutata, nentombazana eneminyaka eli-15 ubudala, umama wexesha elizayo, edushele kwihlabathi liphela. Ngeembophelelo zamaphephancwadi kunye nezikrini zeTV, abaselula abangaqondi ukuba balinde kwixesha elizayo.
Xa kwazalwa intombazana ethandekayo, imifanekiso yoTata omncinci, ojonga intombi yakhe, wayichukumisa. Ukuhlaselwa, ikakhulu kubazali abakwishumi elivisayo. Ngokutsho kwetheko lokugweba, abazali babenoxanduva kuyo yonke into eyenzekileyo. Kwakufuneka basindise, bacacisa, kukhanyise, kodwa bangenzi.
Abazali bentombazana balandula ukuba netyala labo. Baye baxelela iintatheli ababefumeneyo malunga nokukhulelwa, xa intombi ine-tummy ebonakalayo. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, umntu wasifihla ngokufanelekileyo imeko yakhe kunina. Kwakungekho ndlela yokuphuma, yayisele igqitha ekuphazamiseni ukukhulelwa, kwaye abazali bavuse ukuba kungekudala babatomkhulu.
UAlfa ukhumbula indlela awayenzima ngayo ukuya kwi-psychological forcal yoluntu kunye nemithombo yeendaba. Iintatheli zamsukela uTata oselula, wacela imibuzo equkayo, wazama ukuba netyala kumntwana okwishumi elivisayo.
UAlfa kwakunzima ukufumana iimpendulo ezifanelekileyo, kuba wayeneminyaka eli-13 kuphela ubudala. Inkwenkwe ngaphandle kwemfundo kunye namava obomi bekufanele ukususwa, zibhengeze iinkcukacha zobomi bakhe, zithethelela, kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo le nto ichaphazele imozulu.
Kodwa kukho umzuzu oqinisekileyo wokukhathalela intatheli yabazali abancinci. UAlfi waqalisa ukufundisisa uncwadi, indlela yokukhulisa umntwana, ezona thumba zinokulinda umama notata, ekufuneka ezenze utata akhule intombi eyonwabileyo.
Xa umntwana ezalwelweyo, lo mntu akazange ahlukane naye. Wayithanda le ntombazana, inokuthandabuza okusanda kuzalwa, iqhubeke nezisitho, ukuba ishukume kwaye ithethe. UAlfi wade wagqiba kwelokuba aye emsebenzini ukuze intombi yakhe ayifuni kwanto, kodwa abazali babehlukumeza kwaye bathembisa ukuba baya kuxhaswa yimali yintsapho.
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Kubonakala ngathi lo mfo uziva evuya kakhulu kwaye emva koko wakonwabele le mvakalelo imangalisayo. Kodwa ukugqibela kwebali akuyiyo yonke loo mvula, njengoko unokucinga. Umama uAlfi waqala ukuthuthumbisa amathandabuzo ukuba unyana wakhe ngokwenene unguyise webhayoloji. Kwenziwa uvavanyo lwe-DNA, lathi intliziyo yobuzala yayingelilo ilize. Utata wentombazana wayengumfana othandekayo uTyler Biker. Waba ngumqalisi ukuba alahle lonke uxanduva kwi-Alfa enamava.
Xa uTata omncinci wafumanisa ukuba le ntombazana ayisiyo ntombi yakhe, yahlanjwa. UAli wayengafuni ukushiya indlu, kuba wayengumlinganiswa owaziwayo, kwaye ngoku esitratweni kuye oboniswe ngeminwe yakhe. Kodwa oomatshini bokushicilela ngokukhawuleza baphulukana nomdla kwinkwenkwe, kwaye emva kweminyaka embalwa sele sele ekwazi ukubuyela kwisitrato kwaye aqalise ukuba nobomi obugcweleyo.
UAlfi ngoku uneminyaka engama-23. Ngokwemvelo, ubudlelwane kunye ne-chatel awayekayo kwaye sele ikwazile ukuqala iinoveli ezininzi kunye namanye amantombazana. Akanabo abantwana okwangoku, kwaye i-alpha ayicwangcisi ukuba ngutata kungekudala. Wayenamava aneleyo kangangokuba wafumana iminyaka eli-10 eyadlulayo. UAlfi uxelele iintatheli ukuba wayengakulungelanga ukudala usapho xa wayeneminyaka ubudala kwaye ukhulisa abantwana.