Utata vs mama: Yintoni ekufuneka uyazi malunga nengxabano nomntwana

Qokelela iintsomi

Uninzi lukholelwa ukuba abantu abaxabana kwintsapho enothando eyomeleleyo. Kuphela ngabo bangahloninayo omnye komnye abangahloniphileyo kwaye akaqondakali ngokubanzi ukuba kutheni bebonke. Ke ngoko, iingxabano kufuneka zithintelwe nangayiphi na indleko.

Ewe kunjalo, ayinjalo. Musa ukungqubana kuphela kwesinyemithi kwimyuziyam, kunye nabantu abaphilayo - ngeengcinga zabo, iminqweno, imikhwa, ukutya, ukudinwa, ukungqubana kunye nengqumbo yexa elizayo.

Ngokuchasene noko - ukuba abantu bengazange baphikise kunye iminyaka emininzi yokuphila kunye, kuyakhwaza kwaye kubangela nantoni na omnye komnye?

Omnye umbono odumileyo ucebisa ukuba umntwana akanakwenze iNgqina lomzali. Ngomntwana, sincuma omnye komnye kwaye sibambe i-truce, kwaye emva koko, sifumanisa ubudlelwane emva kweengcango ezivaliweyo.

Ewe kunjalo, imbambano ingqubana ingqubana isasazeka, kwaye ithetha ngento enokuqhawula umtshato, okanye ihlazo kunye nokuzithuka kunye nokubetha izitya kungcono xa yonke into sele ikho isonjululwe, kodwa kowesibini kungcono ukuba ungahleki, nokuba ngabantwana, ngaphandle kwazo). Kodwa kwimbambano yosapho encinci akukho nto yolwaphulo-mthetho. Ngokuchasene noko, kunokuba luncedo. Ngapha koko, indlela yokufunda indlela yokufunda indlela yokuphuma kwiimeko zongquzulwano, ukuba akayi kuyibona kumzekelo wabazali bakhe?

Kwaye funa ngasemva iingcango ezivaliweyo kwaye uncume kumazinyo xa umntwana woyika kwaye wamcaphukisa. Uya kuvakalelwa ukuba kukho into engalunganga, kodwa ayiyi kukwazi ukuqonda ukuba yintoni, ngoko iya kukhathazeka, ucinga, mhlawumbi ityhobozekile.

Jonga imithetho

Ingxabano lishishini leemvakalelo. Xa ukuthuka kutyibilikile xa ndifuna ukubonisa ukuchaneka kwam kwaye kubonakala ngathi iqabane aliziqondi izinto ezibonakalayo, kunzima kakhulu ukuzigcina ngokwakho kwimithetho. Kodwa ukuze imbambano ayiphumi kwiibhanki, kuyimfuneko ukwenza le nto. Ngakumbi-ukuba yonke into yenzeka xa umntwana.

Sukubandakanyekisa ukungqubana komntwana

Lo ngowona mgaqo ubalulekileyo nongacocekileyo. Ukuba kwenzeke ukuba umntwana akubonile ukuxabana kwakho, ngekhe ahambe kwimo yomthathi-nxaxheba.

Awunakho ukwenza umntwana abe yijaji kwaye abuze ukuba ngubani olungileyo - utata okanye umama. Olu xinzelelo luguqukayo. Umntwana akakwazi kwaye akufuneki azicombulule izinto ezinjalo. Oku kukwamkelwa!

Awunakusebenzisa umntwana njengesithunywa xa wagqiba kwelokuba uyeke ukuthetha nomyeni wam. "Xelela uTata endikrokreukiswa nguye!", "Umntwana unokuqonda le ntshumayelo enqwenelekayo, kuba iya kumvumela ukuba azive ukubaluleka. Kodwa kungekuphela nje ukuba lo ngumbuso ombi kwaye ungadibananga, ikwanomthwalo omkhulu womntwana oya kuziva unxibelelwano phakathi kwabazali.

Kwakhona, ikwangenakwenzeka ngokwezifiso kubantwana kumzali wesibini, khalaza ngayo. Kuyakhubekiswa ngumyeni wakhe, kwaye umntwana uyakuthanda.

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Ngexesha lemeko yokungqubana neqabane, thintela amagama akhubekisayo kwaye aqikelelwa. Ukongeza kwinto yokuba ngumzekelo ombi emntwaneni, khawucinge nje ukuba ihlazo kuye liza kuliva amazwi anorhabaxa ajongene nabantu abathandayo.

Umntwana akufuneki abe ngumxholo wengxabano

Imibuzo enxulumene nomntwana kungcono ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba akavanga. Kwaye zonke ezi "zalapha, ukusungula kwakho kuyachaphazeleka!"

Emva kokuxabana kufuneka kuxolelwe

Ukuba umntwana wabona impikiswano, ke indlela yokuphuma kuyo ifanele yenzeke emehlweni akhe. Leyo yindlela aza kuqonda ngayo ukuba iingxabano ngokwazo azikho rhabaxa kangangokuba ingxabano inokuba ihlawulwe kwaye ayichaphazeli ubudlelwane ngokubanzi. Ukuba kwenzeke ukuba uqalise ukuxabana nomntwana, kwaye ugqibile ngaphandle kwawo, qiniseka ukuba ubuyela kuyo emva koko, ndixelele ukuba ingxabano idiniwe, kwaye yonke into iphilile.

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