Emehlweni lomntu, umntu ongamaziyo uqala ukukhala, ngaphandle kwento yokuba wonwabile, engalweni yakhe kubahlobo okanye izalamane ezikude. Abazali baqaphela utshintsho olunjalo ngokuzisola, bengazi ukuba ifikile nje
"Iialamu zenyanga ezisibhozo."
Abantu bakhe abangabaziyo
Inqanaba elitsha lobomi kunye nophuhliso lwe-Kid ihamba kunye nengxaki yobudala. Utshintsho olunjalo lokuziphatha luye kwinqanaba elitsha. Ukuba umntwana akaziva njengenxalenye kamama ngaphambi kokuba afike kwiinyanga ezingama-7-8, emva koko aqaphele ukuqonda into eyimeleyo. Umntwana uyakuqonda ukuba ukho, kwaye kukho abanye abantu. Phakathi kwabo sele bemi ngumama notata, kwaye wonke umntu uthathwa njengongabaziyo.
Kweli luhlu, umntwana unokuthetha nabo abo banxibelelana nabo kwangoko. Ukuba umntwana ubonakala njengogogo kunye notatomkhulu yonke imihla, emva koko unokuyeka nabo kwaye entlanganisweni awuyi kuza ezandleni. Oku kuziphatha kuyinto eqhelekileyo ngokupheleleyo ngeli xesha ebomini bomntwana. Ihlala incinci, ukusukela emva kwethuba, umntwana uqhela ukutshintsha kwimbono, kwaye uyeke ukoyike abanye.
Umntwana ngamnye udlula ngeli xesha?
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, indlela yokuziphatha yinxalenye yophuhliso lomntwana ngamnye. Ewe, umntu angasabela kancinci. Kuxhomekeka kwimeko yomntwana kunye nokuba amanqanaba adlulileyo ophuhliso aqhubekiweyo. Kukho abantwana abasabela ngokukhawuleza ngakumbi kubantu babantu kwaye bakwazi ukuthoba kuphela izandla zabo kunina, kwaye kukho abo bangaphenduliyo abasemzini, bajonga ecaleni.
Kubalulekile ukuba abazali. Kubalulekile ukuba anganyanzeli umntwana ukuba aye ezandleni zakho ukuba woyika nezinye izalamane. Asimele silibale ukuba intuthuzelo yengqondo yomntwana omncinci ibaluleke ngakumbi kunemvakalelo yabanye abantu abaqhelileyo.
Mhlawumbi lonke eli tyala linentloni?
Ewe kunjalo, abazali abaninzi, ngaphandle kokuqonda isizathu sokwenyani, baqalise ukuthi umntwana uqalise ukuba neentloni, kodwa baphosakele. Intlonipho ihlala inayo eminye imithombo. Isekwe kukuzihlaziya, ukungakhathali okanye ukuzithemba okuphantsi. Kumntwana onjalo eneminyaka yeenyanga ezisi-8, kuba ukuqala ukuba yinxalenye yehlabathi elikhulu, elizaliswe ngabanye abantu. Kuya koyikisa kuye, kuba ngaphambi kokuba umntwana ebone umhlaba ojikeleze umhlaba ngenye indlela. Kwabonakala ngathi umhlaba umhlaba kunye naye yena, kodwa yonke into yaza yahlukile.Bona: Amazinyo anqunyulwa ntlungu - kunokuba ancede umntwana
Ngaba umntwana uye waba nguyise nonina?
Isimo sengqondo sabazali, umntwana akatshintshi ngaphandle kwento yokuba uyayeka ukumazi nezinye izalamane ezisondeleyo. Ngabo, uziphatha ngokuchanekileyo njengaphambi kwexesha elitsha ebomini. Kumntwana omncinci, unina noTata benza izinto zothando, uqala ukuziva unothando olunamandla kwaye nokuba likhoboka. Ewe, ekuhambeni kwexesha, isangqa sabathandekayo bomntwana siya kubanzi kwaye sibanzi.
Ngaba unobangela woloyiko olugqithisileyo kunye neenzame zabazali zokukhusela umntwana ukusuka kwihlabathi langaphandle?
Isigwebo esiqhelekileyo senyani. Ukuba umntwana uhlala ebona abantu benye abantu, oko akuthethi ukuba kwinqanaba elitsha lokuphunyezwa uya kubaqonda aze alicinge ngayo eyinxalenye yobomi bakhe. Ukuze umntwana, nje unxibelelwano nonina, imvakalelo yobukho bakhe ecaleni kwakhe, ibaluleke ngokwenene. Kuphela kusemva kwexesha, umntwana uya kuqalisa ukuphendula ngokuzolileyo ngakumbi kubantu ongabaziyo, njengoko kuya kuqinisekisa ukuba umama wakhe ngokulandela kwakhe.Ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho?
Kukho imidlalo kubantwana abancinci abanomdla kakhulu. Umzekelo, umdlalo wokufihla kunye nabafuna, apho umzali efihla ubuso ngasemva komqamelo okanye avale ubuso bakhe neentende zakhe, aze ke avele. Baby obonwabisayo. Ngalo lonke ixesha umntwana eqinisekile ukuba ukuba akaboni umama ngexesha elifutshane, usaqhubeka nokuthiwa. Ukuba akunjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kubuya.
Ukuba ubonakalisa imidlalo apho into inyamalala kwaye iphinde ivele. Umzekelo, ukwakha nokutshatyalaliswa kweenqaba ezivela kwii-cubes. Oku kuyakuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana ngento yokuba emhlabeni yonke into izinzile kwaye ngokuqinileyo. Kwakhona, imidlalo enjalo iya kunceda ukwamkela isibakala sokuba uMama atshabalale ngokufutshane kwibala lomntwana, silungiselele inyani yokuba umama usenokuya emsebenzini kungekudala.
Ngaba kufuneka ndihlawule umntwana kumntu okwithuba elinje?
Ngexesha ukusuka kwiinyanga ezisi-7 ukuya kwezili-11, akukho mfuneko yokuba ukhuseleke ngokupheleleyo umntwana emagxeni aseNanny okanye umakhulu. Ukuba kusekho i-nanny, ke akufuneki uyitshintshe. Eyona nto iphambili, musa ukumshiya umntwana kulo lonke eli xesha, ungashiyi ndawo ngaphandle kwakhe. Oku kuyakunceda ukuhlengahlengisa ngokukhawuleza ukubona imbono entsha yehlabathi elijikelezileyo, kuya kuvumela ukufundisisa yonke into ngeenxa zonke ngokuthanda ukwazi.Iza kuthatha malini le ngxaki?
Ixesha elinjalo aliyi kuhlala ixesha elide. Uninzi kakhulu, uthatha iiveki ezimbalwa kuphela. Umntwana uyaqonda ukuba umhlaba ongaphandle awungqubani. Oku kukuvumela ukuba uye kwinqanaba elitsha lokuphuhlisa.