Akuzange kube kudala, ukufumana kwethu i-intanethi kwavela kumfundi, ngubani owayefuna ukufunda indlela yokudlulisela iqabane lakho malunga nokungafaneleki kogonyamelo ngaphezulu komntwana: i-slapp, i-chips kunye neminye imilinganiselo "yemfundo".
Lo ngumbuzo ofanelekileyo, kuba unexhala kakhulu kwaye uninzi lungaphezulu kwenani elifanelekileyo (ngelishwa).
Ke, phakathi kwamabhunga kunye neengcebiso, kukho iindlela zokuphinda zikhuselwe "ekunene" yomzali malunga neflap. Bathi, Akukho nto kule nto, "oomama abafanelekileyo" bagqithisela ikamva lempembelelo embi yokuhlaselwa kwengqondo yengqondo, kwaye ngokubanzi - i-Slapp ayibundlongondlongo.
Ngokumangalisayo, kodwa yinyani: ukwaliwa kwegama kunye nenzame yokungahoyi ixabiso layo lokwenyani alisebenzi njengopelo lomlingo, ukukhulula iziphumo zobundlobongela.Ngamafutshane, imbambano malunga nokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ubethe abantwana (izithixo, njengoko kunokwenzeka konke!), Yonke into ikhule kwaye ikhule, kwaye ndacinga ukuba kufuneka sithethe ngayo. Hayi malunga nengxoxo engafezekanga, kodwa wenze ntoni ngombono wobungqina bohlwayo lwezohlwayo kwinkcubeko yethu yonke malunga nendalo yokohlwaya ngokwakho.
Ukubaleka kwisilingi, sagqiba kwelokuba sisebenze nomxholo: baqala baphinda baphinda ezinye zeetekisi zethu malunga nokuba kutheni kungengemfuneko ukubetha abantwana, emva koko wabhala inqaku nguYamop.ku , kwi-Twitter emva koko ndabhala ugqirha wezengqondo kunye nomsebenzi wesayensi we-faralogy ye-Psychology yaseMoscow State of Vira Yakupova kwaye wamcela ukuba athethe ngogonyamelo ebantwaneni.
Andizukuphanga kakhulu, "ungawubukela umlambo wethu kwingxelo- kodwa ndifuna ukuthi izinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo ezinxulumene nesihloko sogonyamelo sindivulele kwicala elitsha.
Umzekelo, kuyavela ukuba abantu abanyanzelisa ukuba "sizitshintshe-kwaye akukho nto" (kwaye siqhubeke nokulandela le nto i-vim nakwabazali), oko kulimale kakhulu kubuntwana Ubundlobongela kunye nabo sibakala sokuba badala abantu ababaluleke kakhulu ebomini babo, abanakuzamkela njengento ayinikiweyo.
Lo ngumgibe woBundlobongela: Awunakukwazi ukukholelwa ukuba umntu osondeleyo unokukwenza oko. Kwaye ukuba bendinako, kuthetha ukuba le yinto engalunganga kuwe - "Andiqondanga ngokwahlukileyo."Ngokubanzi, yonke le nto ilusizi kakhulu - ngakwelinye icala, akunakwenzeka ukuba uzole indlela abantu ababukhanyisela ngayo abo bakhawulezayo (kodwa nakwelinye - kufuneka bakwazi ukuzisa uvelwano kuye Bona abantwana abancinci abawenzakeleyo abakufanelwe kukubetha.
Ngokwahlukileyo Angavakalelwa Ngakumbi abazali xa bezama ukuthatha uluvo lwabo ngogonyamelo ngokulungileyo - bathi, emva kwayo yonke imeko apho singayi kuyibetha!
Xa ubundlobongela bubizwa ngegama lakhe kwaye buya kubonakala, abazali abakoyikekayo bafuna ezinye iindlela ezonakeleyo - ngexesha lomoya siye sayiqonda imibuzo emininzi emoyeni "nendlela yokuchaza ukuba umntwana uyala ukuqonda", "yintoni Thina, entlokweni yabo yokubenza babhenela ekubeni sibhenele "," Ewe, ungathi, awunabo abantwana, ke ucinga ukuba ungakhulisa, ungabohlwayi. " Kodwa yonke loo nto kukuba ukohlwaywa kwayo - nayiphi na into engeyiyo enye into yokutsala, ingaba uyibuyisela nje.
Yintoni, hayi? Ewe, ngokubanzi, ewe, hayi ukohlwaya.Endaweni yoko, ukuba ngumntu odumileyo oqonda ukuba umntwana uyinyani, enyanisweni akaqondi izinto ezininzi-kunye nobudlelwane be-causal nayo. Ewe, ngokuthe ngcembe, ngakumbi ukuba uza kuyichaza ngokungaguqukiyo, iya kuphambukisa kwaye inqunyulwe ukuba akuyomfuneko ukwenza ukuba kunokuba yingozi. Okwangoku - fumana unyamezelo noxanduva.
Kwaye xa ufuna ukubetha umntwana wakho, khumbula nje ukuba le ayisiyo imeko apho kungathethi okuthethwayo. Yima, ibe ngumntu okhoyo onoxanduva olunokubamba ngaphezulu kwenzonzobila ye-ryss. Akunakwenzeka ukutshintsha uxanduva ngesigqibo sokuphakamisa isandla sakho, ukuba ungabekeki tyala ngokwenyani yokuba uye waba ngumdlali wobundlobongela.
Kwaye ukuzinceda ngokwakho ukuba baqonde konke oku, ngokufuthi kangangoko kunokwenzeka, nceda wena ukususela ebuntwaneni, ukuba usana (okanye akusekho usana), ngubani waziva enoloyiko kunye nokuthotywa xa wamkela e-esileni. Khumbula, awucingi konke abakufanele ukuba bafanelwe - kwaye baqonda kakhulu.
Kwaye okwangoku: Sinezinto ezininzi ezibhaliweyo ekuncedeni abo bafuna ukufezekisa ubundlobongela bogonyamelo kubomi bomntwana. Apha kunjalo- kwaye ndincoma emphefumlweni.Ngamanye amaxesha kwanele ukuphulaphula umntwana ": Ikholamu yokuba kutheni ungathi cwaka ngogonyamelo. Nakwiinethiwekhi zentlalo
"Inzulu kangakanani into yethu yengqondo yenziwa yimithetho-siseko yobundlobongela ebantwaneni, ukuba umntu wam akazange aphelise umntwana wam ukuba athwale intombi yakhe ukuba angawabetha abantwana
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Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ngenye imini i-potiment ye "Bantwana ayinakukwazi ukubetha" / "ukulala kunogonyamelo" kuya kuba njengonogonyamelo "njengento engenakuthelekiswa nanto ingca eluhlaza, kwaye isibhakabhaka siluhlaza. Awunako ukubetha abantwana - izimvo ezimbini azikwazi ukuba lapha.
Zikhathalele wena kunye nabantwana!
Ikhanya i-nan.
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