Emva kopapasho lwamanqaku aliqela kumbuzo wesayensi kunye noqoqosho kumgcini wepenshoni, i-squal squals iwele kum. Abantu bacaphuka kwaye bengasiqondi isizathu sokuba bambe imali kwaye baphande ngento. Uninzi bathi bayathandabuza ukuba baya kuphila kubudala obunzulu, kwaye abanye abathengisi abakhalazayo banokukhohlisa kwaye bahambe nangayo nantoni na. Nangona kunjalo, ezona zinto zixhaphakileyo zazingatshatanga kubantwana, zithi, zikwabondla kwaye zixhasa abazali babo ebudaleni.
Kweli nqaku, ndiza kukuxelela ukuba kutheni ezi zinto zinjalo zibubuxoki kwaye kutheni ungafanele ube nethemba ngabantwana bethu.
1. Esona sizathu singenakwenzeka ukuba siqiniseke kwimpilo-ntle yomntwana.
Bonke abazali bayakholelwa ukuba umntwana wabo ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba sisityebi kwaye uphumelele. Ewe, ukuba kunjalo, kodwa amanani abonisa ukuba impumelelo yabazali ayisoloko ihambelana nempumelelo yabantwana babo. Kuninzi okuninzi ngokuchaseneyo: Bazali basebenza ngobushushu bomntu, kwaye abantwana bayangenzi kwaye batshise ubomi. Iminyaka kwaye i-unicgraca engazange yazi iziseko zemali. Kuyavela ukuba loo mntwana uya kuba ngumntu oxhomekekileyo wobomi kwaye akasokuze ancede.
2. Umntwana wakho uya kuba nabantwana babo.
Umntwana uya kuba nakho ukunceda abazali kuphela ukuba abanabantwana bakho. Ngapha koko, abazali badla ngokuthatha umhlala phantsi bahlala beqokelela nexesha labazukulwana bakhe. Inyani yile yokuba ulutsha lwanamhlanje lusonjululwe ukuba lube ngumntwana kwiminyaka engama-30 ukuya kwengama-30 ukuya kwengama-30). Kuyavela ukuba ixesha lepenshoni lihambelana nexesha lokubonakala kwabazukubonakala. Ngale meko, abancinci baya kutyala imali kubazukulwana babo, hayi abazali abalupheleyo, ngenxa yoko ayifaneleki kubo.
3. Umntwana unokufumana ubunzima ekufumaneni umsebenzi okanye ngokwakhe.
Ihlabathi lutshintsha ngokukhawuleza ukuba abantu abanalo ixesha lokwakha kwakhona. Ukunxibelelana nabantu abaninzi, mna ngokwam ndaphawula ukuba abantu abadala (bahlala bengaphezu kweminyaka engama-40) abanakuthatha isigqibo malunga nokukhetha umsebenzi kwaye bafuna ubizo lwabo ixesha elide. Ukuncokola ixesha elide ekuqaliseni izikhundla, ukungabikho kokukhula komsebenzi okanye uthando lomsebenzi ohlawulelweyo ophantsi kuya kuncitshiswa ukuze kuncitshiswe amathuba okuba abazali-bennensi.
4. Umntwana unokukhubazeka.
Ngenxa yeemeko zokusebenza ezihlwempuzekileyo, amathuba okukhubazeka kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, isprewusi enzulu yengeniso iyakhula kakhulu. Andifuni kuyamkela le nto, kodwa inqanaba lamayeza eRussia lisephantsi, kwaye amabali avela kudidi "ngokuhlwa bendilala ebhedini, kwaye andizange ndimamele kusasa." Kuya kufuneka ndimamele kaninzana. Kwinqanaba lokwala i-inshurensi yobomi, le nyaniso ikhokelela kwinto yokuba impilo-ntle esekwe inokuhlukana naliphi na ixesha, ephinda ithethe ngesidingo sokubala kuphela.
5. Ungakonakalisa ubudlelwane nomntwana.
Kuba bonke abantu banempawu eyahlukileyo, banethemba lokuqonda okungama-100% kubantwana babo. Ihlala iyimfuneko ukuvumela ukuba amathuba okuphambuka nabantwana bakho kwaye bayala ukubonelela ngenkxaso yemali emva koko. Ngapha koko, abantwana bathanda ukuqokelela ingqumbo ukuba bazalwe, kwaye ke ixesha elide ukukhumbula.
Iziphumo.
Kufuneka iqondwe ukuba abantwana ayilishishini, hayi i-asethi kwaye ayikuqalisi. Okokuqala, abantwana baqhubela phambili kuhlobo lwendalo, imfuno yomzimba, isixhobo sokwakha ulonwabo olunyanisekileyo. Ukuzola ngenxa yobudala bakho kunye nepenshoni, kuyimfuneko ukwenza iphothifoliyo evela kwizixhobo ezahlukeneyo zezezimali, ukonga imali kunye nezinto zexabiso. Utyalomali olunobuchule luya kunceda ukuba nentembelo kumgangatho, ubujongi kunye nenzuzo yephothifoliyo, oko kuthetha ukuba kulungile ukuziva umhlala phantsi.
Ukuba ngesizathu esithile awungekhe udibane njani nephothifoliyo, ndicebisa ukuba uqalise ukufunda ulwazi lokufunda nokubhala kunye nemigaqo-siseko yokusebenza kunye nokutshintshwa kwesitokhwe. Nawuphi na umsebenzi ofuna ixesha, amava kunye nolwazi, ke ngaphambili uqala ukwenza ubuhlobo nezemali, kungekudala oqala ukuhlehlisa umhlala phantsi, ngcono kuya kuba yeyakho.