Ndivela kwabo bafazi bathi: "Kungcono ukuzala umntwana omnye kwaye uyinike yonke into." Ndandihlala ndikholelwa ukuba ndiza kuba nentombi, endiza kuyilungiselela ngokupheleleyo. Sinika imfundo entle, sithenge igumbi, imoto, siya kulibonisa umhlaba. Nokuba igama linyuke linomhle, iRoyal - Carolina. Mhlawumbi, ndigculelwe kakhulu zezi zicwangciso.
Indoda, ngendlela, efuna okuqinisekileyo kwabantwana ababini. Kodwa kwakunjalo eluthandweni, owavumelana neempikiswano zam. Siza kunika kuphela kwesona sivela kuyo kwaye - apha, i-Mission yomzali efanelekileyo.
Inkwenkwe? Injani inkwenkwe?
Inomdla: Umama wazala amawele ahlukeneyo kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba ukholelwe kuyo. Umahluko wabo ophambili abubuso, kodwa ekukhuleni
Kwi-ultrasound, nditsiba nje. Igama lentombazana lenziwe, yinxalenye yezinto esele ithengiwe - yonke into ipinki ngokupheleleyo, kwaye bandixelela ukuba kuya kuba yinkwenkwe? I-Gocion iluhlobo oluthile!
Kodwa akukho nto, yarhoxa. Unyana wazalwa kusasa kanye kwaye ngandlela thile, engazange akhale, akazange akhale, akazange ahlupheke kwizilayi. Kule kwaye inyibilike ingcambu yabo bonke enomsindo, mhlawumbi. Ndiye ndahlala, ndibukele, ndibukeka ndimhle. Ukuhamba ndaphuma njengepodium. Ngomntwana onjalo onjalo avumile ukuba uhlale umntu oninazala. Mna nomyeni wam singene ngemihla, kwi-cinema, hamba nje.
Ukuhamba ngomngxunya, ndabaphulaphula amabali abanye oomama abangazange balale ebusuku balwa nazo zonke iintlobo zabantwana.
-Ngaba ungakhathalela umntwana? -Ndibuze, ndiqinisekile ngeendlela zam. I-add yam ayimongayo. Amazinyo esingakhange siqaphele konke konke. Ke andiziqikelela ukuba bonke abantwana bahlukile.
Kwaye kwakhona ukhulelwe
Okwesibini ndikhulelwe xa unyana wam wayethetha malunga neenyanga ezisixhenxe. Bendenze kum ukuba kwenzeke. Ndikhulele kwi-90s, kwixesha lokungafundi ngokwesini kwaye ndingcwele ndikholelwa ukuba ndondla, oko kuthetha ukuba ndikhuselekile. Kucacile ukuba umjikelo awunakusebenza njengesikhokelo. Ke ngoko, nditshilo ugqirha ongumsebenzi:
-Angakwazi ukuba!
"Mhlawumbi," wancuma kwi-gynecologist. - Kwaye eli gama sele linokuba malunga neenyanga ezili-2,5.
Ndiye ndakuvuyela, nangona ndandizijonga iingqondo zam zangaphambili. Xa ihormones ilahla, iba ngandlel 'ithile ayiyi kwimigaqo.
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Ukukhulelwa komntwana olungiselelwe iingalo zakhe yimovie eyoyikisayo eyahlukileyo. Unyana mncinane, ufuna ingqalelo, kwaye ndidiniwe unyawo, ke izandla zakho, emva koko zibubungqingqwa. Kweso sigaba, wayengasiqondi isizathu sokuba uMaMama aqalise ukuziphatha kakhulu - ngaphambi koko, wenza nayiphi na into efunekayo. Kwakungenakwenzeka ukondla ibele, ndaqala ukuguqula ivenkile yobisi, ndithuthumbisa isazela nokubandezeleka.
Unyaka wokuqala ngoonobumba
Igama leCarolina liseluncedo kwifama - intombazana yazalwa. Apha ndifunde lonke ulonwabo lokuba ngumama. Omncinci unokuvusa i-roing roar ivela kwi-oblique. Eyona nto imbi kukuba le mave yathatha owamdala kwindalo yakhe eqinileyo phantse unyaka onesiqingatha.
Intombazana exhonywa esifubeni emini, njengePiranha elambileyo. Umamazala wakufika ukunceda, ngeyure endakushiye, efihla. Emva koko, watyhilwa ngexabiso lemicimbi engxamisekileyo, eyacaca: Ngelixa andizange ndonyuke kwezi zinto zimbini zomsebenzi, andizukuqhubeka nomhla. Baye bahlanganisana njengoko babenako. Yajika kakubi. Ulale, uvuke, njengokuba ubulewe.
Eyona nto imangalisayo kukuba siziintsapho apho imozulu yazalwa khona. Ndinomahluko kunye nomntakwethu 1.6, kwaye umyeni wam phantse kwiinyanga ezili-12 ubudala kunye nodadewabo. Ngokweenkumbulo zam, umama wayenamathele kabini, edlala. Ndaza nabazali bam ngokunyaniseka kwaye ndinamandla kangangokuba i-dissertation inokubhalela umxholo we-nkolological-indlela abaluleke ngayo ukuba umthetho wesihlanu ubalulekile.
Kutheni kwakungekho kulula?
Kumacala onke, ndaxelelwa kwa into enye:
- Yiba nomonde, ke kuya kuba lula. Kunyaka mncinci, baya kudlala kunye, kwaye unokuphumla.
Ingcinga yam ye-Nating itsale umfanekiso omangalisayo: Ndiqala ukusela iti iti iti kule minyaka idlulileyo, ndihleli esitulweni, kwaye abantwana bam endibathandayo badlala ii-cubes.
Ngapha koko - nje intombi eyomelezelwa emzimbeni, yaya ngokukhawuleza kumzalwana wakhe. Kwaye sele efumene ebomini-ekunyanzelekeni ukuba babelane ngeethoyi zakhe, izinto nabazali kunye nodade omncinci. Ngaphandle kwento yokuba wayemthanda kakhulu kwaye wazama ukunyamezela bonke abaxhaphaza abanye, wayengekho ixesha elide. Ndiyoyika nditsho ndakhala.
Kwindlu yangasese, ndatsalela bobabini ukuze babe nawo esweni. Kwabonakala ngathi ukuba ndiphazanyiswe nje yintabalala, ndijikeleza ifestile, abantwana bam babebulalana.
Ndiyazibuza: Bangaphi abantwana abanokuzala umfazi ebomini
Babetha ngenxa yezinto nje ezincinci. Xa iindwendwe zafika kuthi, ndafowunela, ndathandaza, okanye ndingenzi nantoni na ebantwaneni, okanye ndikhethe into efanayo. Ewe, makube yibarbie ezimbini! I Ke loo mini ayiyiphindanga imini apho unyana nentombi abakhathazekileyo phambi kwegazi phezu kwebhola, elanikelwa kwenye, kodwa yathabatha zombini.
Ukusithoba ngokungaphaphile, abantwana babemhle - badlala kunye, bagobe, babonisa ukuba bachukumisekile. Kodwa andinalo ixesha lokunyibilika iinyembezi zonyango, umlo waqala kwakhona.
I-algorithms Ukusinda
Emva kwexesha elithile, mna nomyeni wam saye sakhulisa i-algorithms ukuze sisinde ngemozulu. Hayi, sabathanda kakhulu, savuya kubazali nabafana, namantombazana. Nditsho nangandlel 'ithile elibele icebo labo lokuqala-ukuzimisela kumntwana omnye. Kodwa ukuze sibe lula, kwaye abantwana bancinci kunobuqhetseba, seza nesicwangciso sethu.
Bona: "Ndikuthiyile iindawo zokudlala!": Imbali yomama omnye
Rhoqo ukuze wabelane ngemozulu yakho. Ingabonakala-ufuna ukungqinelani okungapheliyo. Kwimeko yethu, ukwahlukana kube luncedo. Nokuba sizigxeka nje kumagumbi ahlukeneyo, impembelelo yayikukuba. Omnye waqala ukuphoswa ngowesibini kwaye emva kwendawo eyonwabileyo, abakhange baxabane nexesha elithile.
Ixesha lakho lomntu ngamnye. Sichaze imihla edidekileyo kuphela yabantwana. Umzekelo, kumlindi wam, uNyana akasichukumisi, siyenza le nto ayifunayo kuye. Kuyamangalisa, kodwa ngamaxesha athile baqala ukucela ukuba baphinde babuyele kwesibini ngeli xesha kwaye bahambe kunye ukuze bahambe okanye kwiimovie.
Iimfihlo-kukho iimfihlo. Ukuba umntu othile ovela kubantwana abelana umakazi-a-Tet ngemfihlo kunye namava, iya kuhlala ngokungqongqo phakathi kwethu. Azikho iingxoxo eziqhelekileyo zetafile yosapho.
Asibenzi ukuba babelane. I-Dip chocolates-ungatya enye kwaye ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ke akufuneki ukuba umangaliswe kukuba akukho mntu ukwabelana nawe. Ngendlela, emva kweemeko ezinjalo, banyamalala ngokungxama kukho amakhawulezi kukho iziphatho ezinekratshi.Imigaqo yendlu yenzelwe wonke umntu. Asibetha mntu. Iminyaka yokuqala kwakunzima ukuyichaza ebantwaneni abangafanele balwe. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, bakwazile ukubabenze basombulule ngoxolo ngoxolo.
Kuphela kusemva kweminyaka embalwa unxibelelwano luvulwe phakathi kwabo
Ndikhe ndafumanisa ukuba zifihlakele emva kwepeni. Ke unyana wakhe wayehleli nodadewabo, ukuba aqubude kwiplasitine. Baqala ukudlala kunye, phantse ngaphandle kokulwa.
Ndandikhumbula nomninawa wam. Siye saxabana kwaye sahlukaniswa. Kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini kuphela yinyani yokuba ndinomntakwabo ngokubanzi. Umyeni nodade wabo waqalisa ukuba ngabahlobo kuphela xa sele emdala.
Kuyavela ukuba imozulu idlule ngeli xesha babachasayo, emva koko ekugqibeleni, lukhule ube ngumyalelo omnye. Nceda ubavumele benze omnye komnye kwinkqubo.
Iphulukene ngamaxesha athile abahlobo abasondeleyo abakhumbule amaziko am ngokunxulumene nenani labantwana kusapho.
"Kwaye ke ndingamnika umntwana wam yonke into," ndinoxanduva lwayo. -Kuquka udade.