"Ukuba umntwana okwishumi elivisayo wafikelela kwiminyaka yobuninzi kwaye ebhaliswe kwigumbi apho engenguye umniniyo, usenokuqhubeka nokusebenzisa indlu yomzali. Kwangelo xesha, ubonakala uxanduva lokuhlawula indawo yokuhlala yamanzi nombane. Amalungelo okufuna icandelo okanye agxininise izindlu ezahlukileyo kule meko, akanazo, "utshilo uMarina Pentelee.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokomgqwetha, ukuba lo mfana uya kumshiya endlwini kaBawo, "uya kuhamba ixesha elide" (umzekelo, asebenze okanye afunde omnye umzi), abazali abanokuzihlutha Ilungelo lokusebenzisa izindlu zabo kunye nokubuya kuya kuba nzima.
"Xa umntwana efike kwiminyaka yobuninzi, kunye nayo nayiphi na into ebhaliweyo. Kuthatha ixesha elincinci kwaye kulula ukuyisebenzisa ukuba umntwana akangomnini wesabelo. Ukukhutshwa kwendlu eneminyaka eli-18 ubudala kwenzeka ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: Okokuqala kufuneka uzame ukuxoxa ngoxolo. Khange ancede? Siqala ukuqokelela amabala (ubungqina) ukukhupha. Emva kwebango, sisebenzisa ubungqina kwaye sonke siyithumele enkundleni. Inkundla ijonga ityala kwaye iya kuthatha isigqibo, "yongeza uArthur MerkUShev, uMlawuli weSebe loHlatho-luhlalutyo UDosfofo
Izizathu zokuKhululwa zinokuthathelwa ingqalelo ukuba ubudlelwane bosapho phakathi komntwana nabazali abukhoyo, iingcali. Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba:
Umntwana akaqhubi nekhaya nabazali;
Ayinegalelo kuhlahlo-lwabiwo mali losapho;
Akukho nkxaso inye;
Ayiphili kwaye ayibhatali ntlawulo yokusetyenziswa (kodwa eli asisiseko, kodwa sisizathu esongezelelweyo kuphela).
Enye imeko kukuba umntwana omdala ngomnye wabanini. Kule meko, ukwenza isicatshulwa ngaphandle kwemvume yayo kwindlu yokuhlala akunakwenzeka, nokuba indawo yokuhlala yayo eflethini ayiqinisekiswanga. Ukuba usakwazile "ukubhala" umfana, awukwazi ukuchaphazela ubunini bendawo yokuhlala.
Ummi omntu unokuthengisa isabelo sakhe. Kodwa koku kufuneka uqale unikele ukuyithenga kwabanye abanini, oko kukuthi, abazali.
"Enye into ethathiweyo kwisabelo inokuthi inganeli ukuba ithenge indawo yokuhlala eyahlukileyo kwaye umntu omncinci kuya kufuneka abe nomntu omdala ukuba asombulule iingxaki zayo zezindlu. Umzekelo, fumana umvuzo, thatha imali-mboleko kubazali bakho, "utshilo uMarina Panteleeva.
