Kwingingqi ye-kirov, njengakwiRussia xa iyonke, ingxaki yexabiso lekhaya lobundlobongela endaweni yoko, kodwa azithethi kakhulu ngalo. Ngokwasemthethweni kuphela kwingingqi abaqala amakhulu amatyala olwaphulo-mthetho ngokuchasene ne-tyran yasekhaya, eneneni baninzi nangaphezulu. Uninzi lwabasetyhini - ukuba bangamaxhoba obundlobongela rhoqo - abakhetha ukuthula kwaye banyamezele ngethemba lokuba yonke into iza kutshintsha. Sixelela indlela yokuqonda ubundlobongela basekhaya kwaye bafune uncedo phi.
"Ndisela-kwaye umntu owahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo"
Kwiimeko ezininzi, abafazi nabantwana baba ngamaxhoba obundlobongela. Amadoda akanakwenzeka ukuba ancede, ngokungaziwa, ngenxa nje yokuba oku akwamkelekanga ekuhlaleni.
I-kirovchanki marina (igama litshintshiwe-malunga. I-Ed.) Ndihlala nomsindo iminyaka emihlanu, kodwa zange batshata. Iimpawu zokuqala zokunyathela ngokwabo, uMarina waqalisa ukuqaphela iminyaka emithathu yokuphila kunye.
- Waba ngumrhanelwa kuphela emva kokusela, kwaye utshintsho lwalubukhali kakhulu. Ukurhuqa iibhotile ezimbini zebhiya-kwaye ngokungathi ngumntu ohlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Ngasihlandlo sithile ndaqalisa ukucinga ukuba wayenobuntu ohlulileyo. Kulungile, akunakwenzeka ukuba utshintshe kabukhali, "uKirovchaš uthi.
Emva kotywala nakuphi na intetho, umntu waphendula kabukhali, kwaye ngaxa wayeqala ukusasaza izandla zakhe: Wayekwazi ukungxama, umzekelo, ukunika isajezi. Ngokutsho kukaMarina, incopho yobukrakra yenzeka ngexesha lokuhamba kwabo kuqala ukuya kwelinye ilizwe.
-Sisela kancinci kwaye saxabana. Wahamba wandibetha ngezandla ezimbini ezindlebeni. Ndikhumbula indlela ehamba ngayo eludongeni, emva koko ndakhwela ndaya kwi-snatch enjalo. Ndaqala ukurhuqa, ndikhwaza into malunga nokuba akandichukumisi, kwaye wacaphuka ngakumbi ngayo. Ngasekupheleni ndaphelelwe lixesha emehlweni am, andizange ndinike ingxelo ngezenzo zam, kwakukhona kuphela amanye amanye amangqibelelo. Ndiqalise ukuphendula izandla zam ndisabela izandla, kwaye ekugqibeleni ndaphula isandla sam ngaye, "Icacile iKirovka.
Emva kwesi sigameko, umdla wajika ngononophelo kwaye wayesoloko esixolisa ngokuphumla okungaphumelelanga. Kodwa ngokubanzi, indlela awayeziphethe ngayo ayitshintshanga. UMarina ukhumbula ukuhlazeka rhoqo ngokuziphatha: amagama ayinkosikazi engalunganga, ukunxibelelana ngentshukumo kwaye akukho mntu ufuna.
Ngaphezulu kwe-iceberg
Umlawuli weziko lezeNtlalontle uNcedo lwezeNtlalontle uNina Yershova ophawula ukuba ingxaki yobundlobongela basekhaya isekwe kumgaqo-siseko we-iceberg - inxalenye encinci kakhulu ibonakala. Ngokusisiseko, ezi ngamatyala obundlobongela enenkohlakalo enkulu, ephantsi koluntu eyaziwa, okanye ukusasazwa kwamaxhoba kwi-psychotherapist. Nangona kunjalo, kwinxalenye "yenxalenye yangaphantsi", ngokutsho kwengqondo, kukho ilungelo lokuxhaphaza abanye, ukuthuka, ngokwengqondo, ngokwasemzimbeni kunye noqoqosho.
- Asinguye wonke umntu oqondayo ukuba nayiphi na inyanzeliso, ukungenelela kwinkululeko yobomi, ukuthembeka ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nengqondo lugonyamelo. Ukuthuka kunye nokuthotywa kwesidima bubundlobongela kwezengqondo. Ukuba kuvaliwe ekhaya, uthathe ifowuni kwaye zonke iindlela zonxibelelwano kwaye wathi "ndilinde", kunobundlobongela. Kwaye ayinamsebenzi, ukusuka kwezinto ezenziwayo, "uNina Yershova.
Ingcali iqinisekile ukuba ubundlobongela buye baphambuka, kwaye ukuba kwenzeka kanye, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuphinda. Emva kobundlongondlongo, "ixesha lobusi" liza, elinyanzela ixhoba ukuba lithandabuze le nto yenzekileyo. Ke ubudlelwane buqhelekile- kwaye bungaphezulu kobundlobongela. Kwangelo xesha, amaxesha oxinzelelo ayokufumana ixesha elide kwaye aqhubeke rhoqo, kwaye "ixesha lobusika", ngokuchasene noko, kuncitshiswa.
Kutheni le nto iphakamisa ubugqwetha eluntwini?
UNina Yershova uthi amanqaku onobukhali kuluntu lwenziwa yiMigaqo yezoqoqosho nezopolitiko. Umzekelo, umyeni akazange aphangezwe, kwaye umfazi ufuna imali kumxholo wosapho. Ukusuka ekungabikho kukutshintsha kwemeko, umntu uya kuthatha ubugqwetha kwabo bakufuphi ebantwaneni, kwinkosikazi yakhe okanye obuthathaka.
Ichaphazela imeko kunye namajelo eendaba apho ukutya kweendaba kuhlala kukhunjuzwa ngakumbi ziingxelo zolwaphulo-mthetho. Kubonakala ngathi xa ugonyamelo lubhaliwe kwaye luqhelekile, oko kuyinto eqhelekileyo, utshilo uErshov.
I-cinema, ngokwengqondo yengqondo, nayo inegalelo kwityala. I-Nina yaershova ihlule iifilimu zibe zimbini iifilimu: "Uguquko olubizwa ngokuba luthando" kunye nabacuphi malunga namagosa asebupoliseni, imifanekiso epheleleyo yogonyamelo. Kwimigca yothando, nayo, kukho ubundlobongela: intlalo okanye yengqondo, kodwa ifihliwe emva komfanekiso wobomi obonwabileyo, obusisityebi.
I-BIT BIT ukunceda amaxhoba obundlobongela
Uluntu lunganyamezeli ngokupheleleyo lubhekisa kubundlobongela basekhaya. Xa ekwindlu elandelayo yingxolo kwaye ikhukhumale, ayinguye wonke umntu oya kuqonda. NgokukaNina yeerhova, inxulunyaniswa neenkcubeko zenkcubeko. Umzekelo, kukholelwa ukuba umyeni nguwe-ewe ngumfazi mnye kananjalo nokuba yenzelwanga kwintsapho, ayikhathaleli. Kwelinye icala, la ngamava abantu. Umzekelo, abamelwane babiza amapolisa, umyeni wakhe wahlawuliswa. Ke amaqabane axolelaniswa nabo, kwaye unetyala ngabamelwane, kuba isohlwayo kwakufuneka sihlawule kuhlahlo-lwabiwo mali losapho.
Rhoqo, imibingelelo ngokwabo ayihlawuleli uncedo oloboyika abantu obathandayo, kubantwana, ukuba bafumane ihlazo kangangokuba, ngenxa yobugwenxa. Ke ngoko, abaninzi malunga nengxaki yabo baxelela ngokungaziwa kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo. Ezi zibongozo ziyinto yokufunda kwiinzululwazi ze-vyatga naseTomsk.
Lo msebenzi kunye nokwazisa ngesikali sengxaki kutyhalele iziko loncedo lwezempilo kwezengqondo kwindalo ye-Lada But. Inkonzo iphuhliswa ngenkxaso yesiseko sePotanin Foundation. Ngelixa isungulwe kwimodi yovavanyo. Le nkonzo yamkela imiyalezo engaziwayo malunga nobundlobongela kwaye ithumela izinto zolwazi kunye nonxibelelwano lweengcali onokuthi ufune uncedo kuye.
-Umbuzo uhlala ucinga ukuba wenze ntoni ngokulandelayo: Qhubeka uhlale kunye okanye usombulule ingxaki ngokwahlukileyo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba utshintshe indlela yokuziphatha komnye umntu, sinokuzitshintsha, sinemeko yethu kule meko, kunye nothethwano lwengqondo, i-psychotherapist iyakwazi oku, "Nina yaerhova.
Izaziso zengqondo ezizezingxoxo ze-Bit kuphela kwenyathelo lokuqala lokusombulula ingxaki. Udlala indima yokwazisa, kodwa ingcali kuphela inokunika uncedo lokwenene.
Ulwaphulo-mthetho kunye nesohlwayo
Ngo-2016, xa umthetho wokubethwa kokubetha kwamkelwe, uninzi lwezi krelemnqa lwamkelwe, uninzi lwezi krelemnqa zamkelwa, uninzi lwezikrelemnqa zamkelwa, uninzi lwale ntsapho lwangena ekulahlekisweni kwe-ERREAT kwaye lwawa phantsi kwenqaku le-6.1.1 lekhowudi yolawulo yeRussia Federation.
-Nyaka nonyaka ngamnye kweli nqaku senza malunga namawaka ama-3 ama-3 ahlukeneyo ngokunxulumene nabantu abaye basondeza abantu abathethwayo, oko kukuthi, babangela ukuba buhlungu imiphumo. Oku kunokuba kungekuphela nje kungxinana ekhaya, kodwa nawo ungquzulwano phakathi kwabamelwane, abadlule, abadlula kwiSebe leMicimbi yePhondo leSithili se-Kirov, i-mikhail Koochilov.
Ukuxabisa kwakhona ukubethwa ngexesha lonyaka, uxanduva lolwaphulo-mthetho phantsi kobugcisa. I-116.1 yeKhowudi yoLwaphulo-mthetho. Nangona kunjalo, isohlwayo esithambileyo sithambile - ihle ukuya kuthi ga kwi-40 yamawaka, umsebenzi onyanzelekileyo ukuya kwiiyure ezingama-240, umsebenzi wokulungisa ukuya kwiinyanga ezintandathu okanye ubambe iinyanga ezintathu.
Xa kuthelekiswa neZibheno zokwenyani emapoliseni, emva kwexesha (ezifihlakeleyo (ezifihlakeleyo.) Ulwaphulo-mthetho kwindawo yekhaya-yekhaya ngamaxesha ama-3-7.
UMarina akazange abhenele emapoliseni, ngokwentombazana, wayengakhange acinge.
Mhlawumbi, andifuni ukonakalisa ubomi bakhe ngamanqaku olwaphulo-mthetho, kwaye okunene ayingomntu okanye into. Sinengqondo yaseRussia, kuyacaca ukuba, uyaphikisana.
UMarina wazama amaxesha amaninzi ukusuka emsebenzini wasekhaya, kodwa wayethandaza ngalo lonke ixesha ukuxolelwa wathi makungenzeki ngaphezulu. Kwiminyaka emihlanu kuphela kamva wafumana amandla okuhamba ngonaphakade. Ukususela ngoko, phantse iminyaka engama-7 idlulile, uMarina watshata, wazala iintombi ezimbini.
-Umntu akathethi umntu ukuba anyamezele. Abafazi, njengommiselo, bakholelwa ukuba wabetha kwangelo xesha-xolelwa, mhlawumbi awusayi kuphinda yenzeke, "utshilo uMikhail Koochilov. -Ukuba lo mfazi ubhenele kwintlangano yezonyango, ulwazi oluthi luya kufika, siya kufumanisa malunga nayo. Kodwa ukuba uthe, Wabetha emsebenzini, wabeka ngengozi ukwenzakala emzimbeni, kwaye ugqirha ukholelwa ukuba le inokuba yimeko engeyiyo, ke asiziboni ezi nyaniso. Apha, indima yabahloli be-PDN - ukuyibona, thetha nexhoba, kunye nabamelwane, kwenye indawo bonakalisa ukwenzakala emzimbeni ebusweni, izandla, amagxa. Emva koko siye senza ithuba lokuhlola.
Njengoko i-mingail skholchilov icacisiwe, ART. 116.1 Ikhowudi yolwaphulo-mthetho ye-Russian Federation linqaku lesityholo sabucala, oko kukuthi, ukuba ixhoba alifuni ukutsala i-symphy, amapolisa akanakwenza nto. Nangona kunjalo, iimeko apho abantwana babandezeleka, ubudlelwane obukhethekileyo, kwaye kwezi meko amapolisa anelungelo lokuvusa ityala lolwaphulo-mthetho ngaphandle komnqweno wabazali.
Kwangelo xesha, nokuba ixhoba lobundlobongela libhenele emapoliseni kwaye labhala ingxelo, linokunika ityala elibuyiselweyo, kwaye kukho iimeko ezininzi ezinjalo.
- Amanqaku 116.1 ("Ukubetha"), 117 ("Ukuhlukumeza") kunye ne-119 yekhowudi yolwaphulo-mthetho ye-Russian Federation ("isoyikiso kuthintelo oluphindiweyo. Oko kukuthi, banqanda ikhomishini yolwaphulo-mthetho olubi ngakumbi - ebangela ukulimala okubi kwezempilo nokubulala. Sinethuba lokuthintela ulwaphulo-mthetho kwinqanaba lokwenzakala okungaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi komzimba omncinci. Ke ngoko, sinika ixhoba ukuba sibhale ngokuqeshwa kwakhona kwiintsuku ezili-10 ngelixa kukho itsheki ukuba inqwenela ukutsala umntu osonileyo ukuba agwebe aze anyanzelise oku. Ukuba akafuni, ubhala ingxelo malunga noxolelwaniso lwamaqela. Ngokwesiqhelo abasetyhini baxabana isisombululo sabo kwinto yokuba behla nomyeni wakhe kwaye besixolela, "utshilo uMikhail Kochotov.
Nangona kunjalo, le nkqubo isebenza kuphela kumatyala olwaphulo-mthetho kuphela. Ngolwaphulo mthetho lolawulo, umoni uya kuziswa kubulungisa. Ukuba kukho umyalezo malunga nokubethwa kwakhona, emva koko itsheki yenziwa phantsi kwenqaku le-117 leKhowudi yoLwaphulo-mthetho yeRussia Federation ("inkungu phantsi"), oko kukuthi, kubangela ukuba kubekho umntu omnye ongaphezulu kwamaxesha amabini. Ngowama-2020, 274 amatyala olwaphulo-mthetho aqalwa, kwaye ulwaphulo-60 lwenziwa kubantwana.
Akukho ntlungu-akukho tyala
I-mikhail Jochelov. Ifoto: I-UMVD kwingingqi yeKirov
Bonke abo basenza ityala kwicandelo losapho kunye nobudlelwane basekhaya, kubandakanywa kwiimeko zokuba ukwala okwenziwe unyaka nonyaka ukuya kuphendula ngosapho kunye nomhlangano wosapho.
"Icebo lekota lelo ntsapho, elijonge le meko, lithetha nabamelwane," utshilo uMikhakov. Ngamanye amaxesha abamelwane bazi malunga nosapho ngaphezu kwezalamane ezisondeleyo ezingahlali nabo. Ukuba kunyaka-nyaka akukho zicelo, akukho nto eyophuleyo, emva koko susa kwi-akhawunti. Ukuba izibakala zezi, sijonga, kulawulo okanye isaphuli-mthetho, kwaye omnye komnye unyaka sibeka kwiakhawunti.
Lonke ulwaphulo-mthetho lunokunikwa ingxelo emapoliseni. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba uxanduva luza kuphela ukuba umntu ufumana iintlungu zomzimba.
-Sijonga njalo. Ukuba umntu uva iintlungu, emva koko kukho ukophula umthetho. Ukuba ayivavanywanga, akukho mahluko kwaye ithathe isigqibo malunga nokupheliswa kwemveliso, "kucacisiwe.
I-the Posting bill kwi-kirovska ukuba ingathethi cwaka ukuba uyinto yokuzibonela, kwaye kuhlawulwa ingqalelo ekhethekileyo kumatyala nabantwana.
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