Ngaba ngokwenene amadoda asuka "abafazi abangalunganga"? Akunjalongo noko! Izizathu zokwahlula-hlula kukho iseti enkulu, kodwa rhoqo malunga nonobangela oyinyani wokusinda kwesini esomeleleyo. Yintoni engeyiyo eyesiko ukuthetha emadodeni ngexesha lokuhluka? Zeziphi izinto ezididekileyo ngumgangatho oqinileyo kwaye zindenze ndithathe ikhefu?
Dibana: 3 Izizathu ezifihlakeleyo zokutyhala amadoda kwinyathelo elinqabileyo.
1) uxinzelelo olungaphezulu kwesiqhelo
Ukuba umfazi uhlala ezama "ukulungisa" ubudlelwane, ezenza ngcono, emva koko bafumane ophuculo, uyalibala ukuba uziva ephelile nawo amaqabane ayo.Akukho bantu bathanda ukucinezelwa.
Xa iqabane lihlala lisiva ngendlela afuna ngayo ukuba akhokele ngayo, yimalini kwaye enza umsebenzi onokuthi unxibelelane, kwaye lowo kungakufanelekeli ukuyenza le nto, ke ayizizo ezona mvakalelo zintle.
2) ngaphezulu, ngakumbi, yomelele
Amadoda ayathanda ukukhuphisana-basegazini labo, kodwa kukho intsingiselo encinci. Inye into ekhuphisana nezinye izinto ezingamadoda ukubonisa ukuphakama kwakho emsebenzini okanye kwezemidlalo, kodwa yingxoxo eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo xa umfana akhuphisane nomfazi othandekayo.
Kunokubakho imizekelo emininzi yokhuphiswano olufihliweyo. Xa abantu ababini befumanisa esidlangalaleni, ukuba ngubani na kubo olungileyo, kwaye ngubani ongekhoyo ukuzama ukubonisa ukuphakama. Ukuthelekisa okuqhubekayo ofumana umvuzo ngakumbi kwintsapho ikwangumnqweno wokungqina ubumbano.
Kwaye ukuba ngelinye ixesha lobomi umntu obhinqileyo aqalise ukufumana ngaphezulu, ke ihlala yamkelwe ukwenza lo mntu uthandekayo, ukuqhayisa ukuba umvuzo wakhe uphakamile. Iingxabano ezingapheliyo kunye nomnqweno wokuhamba kwimbambano kwilizwi lokugqibela nabo alongezi nangothando kulwalamano.
Ke ngoko, umfazi kufuneka enze ukhetho phakathi kwemozulu engenamsebenzi kunye noxolo endlwini. Ngapha koko, ukuqhubeka nokukhuphisana nomntu wakho omthandayo, ngokuqinisekileyo awuzukuhlala.
3) Ukungahloniphi kunye nokugculela
Iqabane leliyisoze likhe lakha okanye lilondoloze ubudlelwane nomfazi osoloko ubonakalisa ukungamhloniphi. Isiqingatha sesibini kufuneka sihlale sikwinxalenye yenkosi, sizame ukuyixhasa, sithathe ubuthathaka bakhe obuncinci.
Ukuze umntu kwisibini anokuwatyhila ngokupheleleyo amandla akhe, kufuneka avakalelwe kukuba uyahlonitshwa.
Ukuba uzibona kwezi mpazamo, kwaye waqonda ukuba benza ubomi bomntu wakho othandekayo ngezandla zakho, emva koko baqale ukutshintsha.
Uthando alunyamezeli uxinzelelo kwiqabane, ukhuphiswano okanye ulwalamano olungenantlonelo. .
Ubudlelwane obonwabileyo! Ndibulela ngokubulela ngokuthanda kwakho. Izimvo, izimvo, iingxoxo, kunye nokugwetywa kwamkelekile kwinqaku lokuqala kunye nezinye izinto malunga nolwalamano onokulufumana kwindawo yam.Umthombo