Abantu abaxelela i-anecdotes malunga nenkwenkwe yoovoy, ihlala ingacingi konke konke malunga nokuba kunjani ukukhulisa umntwana onjalo.
Kanjani-njalo, mlandeli uphela kwisibini sobomi bakho, woyike ukuphumla kwaye ugubungele amehlo akho? Ndiyazi. Ndingumama kamama. Umntwana wam ngumbala odumileyo wezihlahla, junior 'kumntwana onzima ", uKevin ovela" kwindlu enye ". Yiyo yonke inyani, kwaye i-sasha yam iyinyani.
Ukusuka kwingelosi ukohlwaya
Funda kwakhona: Into yokudlala yomntwana ayithandayo, eyingozi ukulahleka: ibali lomma omnye
Ekuqaleni, akukho nto ifanekisela ukuba umntwana akhule nathi. Ukusuka kwisibhedlele sokwamama, ndazisa i-crumb entle, eyakhawuleza yanda kwaye yafumana umlenze wokuntywila kunye neziphatho. Intsapho yonke kunye nabahlobo babefa - umntwana ngokungathi wayemkile kumaphepha ephephabhuku. Ukuba bendingenamsebenzi ovela kwi-Hormonal Cocktail, ndingakhumbula ukuba i-cinema yehlabathi yasilumkisa kwangoko: Owona mntwana ujongeka ngathi yingelosi, okokonwaba ngakumbi kuya kuphila.
USasha wakhula Hypervillery. Wakhwela kwiinyanga ezi-5, waya ku-8. Apha ndingawazi uxolo ukusukela ngoko. Ixesha elincinci ladlula- kwaye umlomo wakhe wavalwa. Unyana ngalo lonke ixesha kukho into engakhange icinge ngayo.
Ekuqaleni, asizange sinikele ingqalelo ngokukodwa kwi-hooligan antics yakhe - iyakhula. Kodwa kwinqanaba lesantyabana, waguqukela yonke into endlwini. Xa ndandihamba, ndakhawuleza ndafumanisa ukuba akukho ndawo zingafikelelekiyo. Kunzima ukufikelela kuyo. Kodwa umntwana onobuqili uyakwazi ukusombulula iingxaki ezimnandi kwimizuzwana. Yayingeyonto inomdla ukuhlala kule ndawo, yayingenamdla kwiithoyi zakhe. Lo mntwana udluliselwe ngokukodwa ngokubaleka, ngamaxesha athile waqhekeza ezindongeni, engafakwanga kwaye wasaba. Ekuseni, njengokusebenza lula, bekunokwenzeka ukuba iguqule yonke igumbi kwaye ikhuphe izityalo zangaphakathi ezivela kwiimbiza.
Nangona kunjalo, ezi yayintyatyambo. Amajikijolo weza ngaxeshanye noluntu.
Siyeka njani ukubiza
Sakuba siye satyelela kwaye, ngelixa ndinesepha yezandla, uSasha wathululela iziqulatho zeTAT ye-CAT ye-CROK, yenzelwe izinto zenyanga yenyanga.
Ndiyazibuza: 3 Ingcebiso evela kugqirha wezengqondo, indlela yokulawula ingqalelo yomntwana omncinci
Kwindlu yabahlobo, wakhupha iKit efihlakeleyo efihlakeleyo kwaye wagalela ibhotile ye-Greenk yona, inja ye-corge ye-corge kunye nekhephu elimhlophe lekhephu kwigumbi lokuhlala elitsha elitsha.
Kanye kwindlu, wayefuna indlu yangasese kwaye endaweni yokundixelela ngayo, wafumana isinyithi kwigumbi lokulala le-Master kwaye wabhala apho apho. Kwitanki apho amanzi agalelwa khona amanzi ukuze acofe. Kwakuya kuthi kuye kweza ezandleni zakhe, kodwa intombi yam yagqiba kwelokuba ishukumise i-Linen isuswe kwitafile yeholide. Iphunga elingavumiyo le-ammonia lijikeleze igumbi.
- Yintoni leyo? - I-hostess yamangaliswa.
-Ngam ndim! - UGondo wathi uSasha.
Ngaphezulu sasingabizwanga apho.
Abanye abanini nabo banenja ephantsi kokusasazwa. Unyana wethu uphuculwe ngabantwana abangama-Master, kwaye bonke bebonke, bapeyinta kakhulu isilwanyana kubamakishi abangafezekanga. Yajika isampulu yokuphila ye-avar-gadi yobugcisa. Abanini ngenxa yesizathu esithile bebengavuyi.
Umntu ovela kubabhali banamhlanje wambeka ukuba umntwana wakhe wabhalela ichibi leebhola eIkea. Ke uSasha, akukho nto malunga nombono onjalo akazi, obonwabisayo. Inyani ayikho esitolo, kodwa kwi-Contrand yokuzonwabisa yaBantwana ngexesha lokubhiyozela usuku lokuzalwa lonyana wonyana. Echibini ngeebhola ngalo mzuzu, abantwana abalishumi babehleli.
Ndifuna ukuwela emhlabeni
Kodwa kwakuba mandundu xa wayejonga i-apinator kwenye iholide kwaye ecacisa kakhulu yonke into ebonwe. Yayivakala ngolu hlobo:- Mama, kutheni uAunt engenanto? Akanamali? Makhe simnike imali kwiPanties! Okanye umnike eyakho, unento eninzi!
Ndizamile ukuwa emhlabeni, kodwa ayizange isebenze. Imvakalelo yam iwahlule ngokugqibeleleyo i-ortired eyafikayo kwiholide ngaphandle kwengubo yangaphantsi.
Kwixesha elizayo uSasha Tikhonechkochkovkochko wavula zonke izipho zentombazana encinci yokuzalwa kwaye kwezinye zazo wabeka izindlu zaphathwa ngaphandle kweembiza.
-Izipho zintle kakhulu ukuba zifumane izipho, "watsho ephendula imibuzo yam.
Ngeentsuku zokuzalwa zabantwana, siye sayeka ukumema.
Iqhayiya kunye nehlazo leKindergarten
Bona: "Siza kuba nemozulu! Ndingayitya, kwaye wena thile? " -Umama afunelwa njani, kwaye aneentsuku ezimbini
"Uyabona," utitshala wachaza kakuhle kum. -USasha yinkwenkwe elumkileyo kakhulu. Ubukhulu becala uphambi kwabanye abantwana. Kodwa, ngokungathi kuthambe ukwenza, izimvo zakhe ... asisoze sazi ukuba uza kuza engqondweni yakhe. Wahlala nje wapeyinta kwi-albhamu, kwaye emva komzuzwana sele kupeyinta eludongeni. Kwaye uthethe umakhulu wakho, ugqirha we-obstetrologist. Mncinci uxelele umzukulwana ngomsebenzi wakhe. Kwaye emva koko wacebisa ukuba "ukudlala umntwana" kwaye wabaxelela zonke iinkcukacha zale nkqubo. Abanye abazali babengonwabanga kakhulu.
Ndidla ngokuhamba kwi-ntoeergarten kwaye ndibambe ngokuqinileyo umntwana wam ngesandla. Ngaphandle koko, uyatsiba kwi-puddle okanye aphose ngokukhawuleza ilitye kwimoto ekufutshane. Ndiqiniseka ukuba lunjani usuku, ndibuza ukuba wayekhokelwa xa waxelela kwiqela apho kuphathwa khona abantwana. USasha uyacacisa ukuba yena akazazi ukuba ingcinga iza kuthini. Kodwa xa sele efikile, akacingi ixesha elide. Ngoko nangoko i-embories.
Ukulala emva kwesidlo sasemini kuyadinisa, ngoko udumisa oonobumba eludongeni ngaphambi kwePansk. Ukutya kwi-kindergarten ayimnandi, kodwa inomdla ukuyidlala. Kwaye uphose kubamelwane-nayo imnandi.
Yilahle indawo yokuphumla phantsi kocingo ngelixa ukuhamba kukaSasha kuye kwagqiba kwakhona ngokuzenzekelayo. I-Dibid yonke imihla ngeveki yonke. Kwaye kwada kwaza kwakufeza isibango, ukuba asingabi ngabadlula ngendlela, ababebonile kwaye baxelela olindi ekuguleni komyezo.
Kodwa imizobo yeSasha ihlala iqaphela okona kulungileyo. Iyazalisekisa yonke imisebenzi. KwiMatiees kunye nokucula, kunye nemidaniso, kwaye ufunda imibongo.
"Ngamanye amaxesha ndifuna ukuba uyidlulisele kwenye igadi," utitshala wavuma ngandlel 'ithile, wandinika umntwana. - Kodwa unobubele kwaye unetalente. Abantwana abanjalo bayayikhumbula le minyaka emva kokukhululwa.
I-Sasha-isoyikiso kwipropathi
Kwiminyaka yokuqala yobomi bakhe, uSasha waqhekeza endlwini yonke into yokuba inokwenzeka. I-nerves zam zenzakala kakhulu.
-Ngaba yimfuneko, oko kwanomntwana onzima! -Uye wagqabaza ngoomakhulu bobabini. -Akho namnye owawunjalo!
Babengafuni ukumsa ukuba atyelele. Ndizamile amaxesha aliqela, kodwa imeko yaphela ngo-antidepressants nokulungisa. Ukusukela ngoko, sagqiba kwelokuba bayakuthanda.
Ngomhla wokuzalwa, unyana wakhe wamnika nje iqhekeza leethoyi. Bonke bahlangabezana nabo kwezona ndawo zincinci zexesha elincinci ukuba iindwendwe zihlala etafileni. Wonke umntu wayecaphukile, kwaye ndivuya ngokunyaniseka. Umntwana wayexakekile malunga nesiqingatha seyure kwaye wonke umntu unokutya. Nam! Iholide egqibeleleyo yavela.
Ndikunye noSasha, akunakwenzeka ukuba uphazanyiswa kukutya kwakho kunye nococeko. Mna, nditsho nomphefumlo, ndihlala ndisebenza kwaye ndibanyanzele ukuba andinike ilizwi. Kwaye iti eshushu i-creank okokugqibela ixesha elide. Ukuba iziselo, emva koko zipholile kuphela-soze wazi xa umntu etyibilika etafileni.
Ngesinye isihlandlo, xa unyana wayesesincinci, bendinomanyatha ukuba ndimeme intombi. Ngelixa ndidibene naye, wasebenzisa i-rare ye-porcelain porcite njengembiza, endiyifumene kunyokweni wam nokugcina izihlandlo ezikhethekileyo. Mhlawumbi uSasha wagqiba ukuba yayilixa leenkwenkwezi.
Unyana wakho usempilweni ngokupheleleyo.
"Umntwana oSebenzayo" uthetha ngonyana wethu bonke.
- Mhlawumbi ngokwenene kuyinto engalunganga kuye? - Ndicinge.
USasha wakhokelela koogqirha. Kwaye emva koko kwiingcali zengqondo. Kwaye ke kuzo zonke iintlobo ze-psychotherapists. Kwavela loo nto ngonyango lwembono unyana wethu esempilweni ngokupheleleyo. Iingcali zengqondo azifumananga nxaxha. Kodwa kwilize baqala ukucebisa isanti yonyango, unyango lwe-ART, iTaletherapy ... Siye kuyo yonke indawo, ndawuthanda umntwana kuyo yonke indawo. Akazange azive engxolo.
-Uye wakhulisa nje, "umntu othile kubameli bosapho wosapho umeme" isifo ".
Ndaba lusizi. Ndenze yonke into ukuba ndicacisele uSasha, njengoko kufuneka uziphathe. Ukuba ucinga malunga nomzuzu, uqhubeke kakubi. Ingxaki kukuba axhoma izimvo zakhe kunqabile. Bafakeze kwangoko.
Nje ukuba ndimfunde incwadi ka-Astrid Lindgren malunga nenkwenkwe eyoyikisayo ye-emil enesisu ukusuka kwilali yaseLenneberg. Xa wayesebenza into, wathunyelwa kwi-Ward Barn Shedi kwaye apho wagawula amadoda ahlekisayo emthini. Ndigqibe kwelokuba ndimkele amava. Ndiqalise ukutyala uSasha ukuzoba i-skoda nganye.Iifolda ezinemizobo kwisiqingatha sonyaka zigcwele indlu yethu. Ndiqale ukufota ubugcisa kwaye ndenze iincwadi zefoto. Emva konyaka, babexakeke ngamashervees ezininzi. Kwaye uSasha wasiwa kwisikolo sasebugcisa ngaphandle kweemviwo. Kwiqela, yayikukuphela kwe-prescrioler.
Kuwo wonke umntwana ombi, nam-umntu obutshintshe ubomi bam
Ngamanye amaxesha ndibandezeleka kakhulu kwinyaniso yokuba unyana wam unje. Akonwabi-myekeli ukuba atyelelwe kwaye kwindawo yokudlala. Kwaye ootatomkhulu bazama ukuhlala kude. Kwaye kuphela ivila alizange licebise nakuphi na ukuxilongwa kakhulu kwesifo. Kuzo zonke, yingxaki. Kwaye singabazali ngelishwa sale ngxaki.
Kodwa andicingi ngobomi ngaphandle komntwana wam. Yiyo loo nto iyo. USasha usisigqibo, esinesibindi, esikrelekrele kwaye enenjongo. Akukho nto ayinakwenzeka kuye. Wenza rhoqo umzuzwana ngamnye wobomi bakhe. Abazali abazolileyo nabanetyala abanakufumana le nkwenkwe. Kodwa apha siphilile sethu sonke.Ke ngoko, kulihlazo xa umntu ebeka unyana wam entshukumo. Wazalelwa kwintsapho yethu, kwaye uhambelane naye.