Ukulungiswa kolwaphulo-mthetho ngothando nangomtshato - phakamisa i-stereotype kwinkcubeko enkulu. Ukusuka eShukshinskaya "Kalina Krasnoye" kwi-Eaputshala "engabhalwanga", sisixelela imbali yolwaphulo-mthetho ozama ukubaleka kulwaphulo-mthetho oludlulileyo ngobomi bakhe obudlulileyo ngobomi bakhe obudlulileyo ngobomi bakhe obudlulileyo kunye nobomi bosapho.
Ukulinda ngoFebruwari 14, kufanelekile ukubuza: Ungakanani na uthando nomtshato kwaye lukwakho ngokwenene ukugcina umntu ukuba angazibhubhisa ulwaphulo-mthetho?
Uthando lomlingo kunzima ukulinganisa, ngaphandle kokuba kufuneka sibeke izaphuli-mthetho kwi-magnetic-ressons kwaye sithathe uvavanyo lwegazi kwi-oxytocin ukuze siqonde, bayathandana okanye bangathandanga. Jonga ngokufanelekileyo ukuba imeko yomtshato ixhunyiwe ngotyekelo lokwaphula umthetho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunjalo, ukuba umtshato awuthandi, kwaye ngokwenene umtshato olungileyo awuyi kubiza, umzekelo, i-IKSOITIDS (oko kukuthi, ukubulala abafazi kunye nabafazi amaqabane abo). Kodwa ezinye izinto ezinokulingana, ukungena kumtshato wale mihla kungqinwa bubukho bezimvo zothando kunokuba kunjalo.
Umfazi okanye inkampani embiEkuqaleni, ngokucacileyo: I-Edlelyly kwaye engatshatanga phakathi kwabaphuli-mthetho kunye nezaphuli-mthetho ezingachanekanga kokutshata nokutshata. Ke, urekhodwe ngobalo luka-2010: ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha sabo bonke abantu abadala baseRussia baxela, obhalisiweyo. Kwakuloo nyaka, ngokwecandelo lezomthetho kwiNkundla Eliphakamileyo yaseRussia, inani eliphakathi lokugweba izaphuli-mthetho ezikweli meko zingaphezulu kwe-15%. Le nyaniso ilula yokwahlulela ityhala kwisigqibo esibonakalayo-umtshato uqhubeka nokuziphatha.
Kwaye okwangoku, phakathi kwabasebenzi abangekho mthethweni kwalo mbandela: ukungabinambutho onjalo kunokuba neenkcazelo. Ukuzisusa, unokubukela "ezinengxaki" abantu abancinci (abo baphosa isikolo ngokusesikweni, betyhutyha utywala okanye iziyobisi, benza oontanga, njl. Njl.). Izifundo ezinjalo okanye ngaphantsi kobonise ngokungalinganiyo: Umtshato, kwasekuqaleni, unxulunyaniswa nokuncipha kokwehla ulwaphulo-mthetho.
Ukuze uphumelele kwikhondo lolwaphulo-mthetho (njengalo naliphi na elinye), kukho amakhonkco abalulekileyo. Ethetha ngolwimi olulula, kubalulekile ukuhlala ulutsha kwindalo engqongileyo. Incoko ayikho kwaphela lemigulukudu kwimozulu yeClassical, kodwa endaweni yoko "enobuhlobo", ezinye zityhutyha abanye ukuba zenze ukungabi nalukhuni, ngamanye amaxesha isaphuli-mthetho. Kwaye ke, ukuba ngexesha "lokungazenzi" ezilandelayo kwaye kuthatha inkqubo yokunyanzeliswa komthetho kamva, kwaqala umsebenzi wolwaphulo-mthetho.
Utyekelo olubi okanye umtshatoUmtshato uthintela njani oku? Umtshato utshabalalisa "i-tusovka" (Ngelishwa, hayi ulwaphulo mthetho nje, ngaphandle kokulungiselela ukhuphiswano), kuba intsapho iyonke ye-"yesibini yayo. Ixesha elide olichitha neqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho, ixesha elincinci onalo kubahlobo, kwaye ke lixesha elincinci kumanxuwa asondeleyo. Ngokuqala kwabantwana beli xesha, iba lincinci, kwaye napha nalapha kulawulo oluphindwe kabini ngezalamane eziphezulu. Kwaye i-overatus izolo iba ngumntu onesidima esitratweni, kuba ukugcina usapho, kufuneka ufumane umvuzo olwenziweyo olwenziweyo.
Mhlawumbi, nangona kunjalo, awukhusele umtshato ngokuchasene nolwaphulo-mthetho, kwaye izaphuli-mthetho ezinokubakho azithathi abayeni nabafazi. Ukongeza, abaphandi bafumanise inyani edimazayo: Ulwalamano olufanelekileyo olufanelekileyo, nolwalamano lothando kunye nokuhamba kwabo kungabikho mntu kulwaphulo-mthetho lwabo. Ngapha koko, kwezinye iimeko, i-cohagety yandisa ukutyekela kolwaphulo-mthetho, nangona kunjalo, ibalulekile kuwo omabini amaqabane ".
Enye indlela yokuthelekisa abalwaphulo-mthetho phakathi kwabo. Ngenxa yobutyebi bezibalo zenkundla yamaRashiya, unokuthelekisa indlela umntu eza kwenza ngokukhawuleza ulwaphulo-mthetho olutsha emva kokukhululeka kwisigqibo, kuxhomekeka kulo meko yomtshato wayenayo. Kuyenzeka ukuba ukwahlula-hlula kungekuphela nje kwaye utshatile, kodwa nakwabo bangazange babekho emtshatweni, kwaye abo baqhawule umtshato okanye abahlolokazi. Ukubala kuzo zonke izigqibo eRussia ngo-2009 ukuya ku-2000. Kwakulindeleke ukuba abonise ukuba izaphuli-mthetho zomtshato nabatshatileyo ziya kudala ukuphelisa ulwaphulo-mthetho kunento engento. Kodwa uqhawulo-mtshato nabahlolokazi bajika bathambekele ekwenzeni ulwaphulo-mthetho oluphindaphindiweyo ngaphandle kokuba atshatile. Mhlawumbi ukuphulukana neqabane lakho kukwenzakala okufihla umntu kwi-rut, itshabalalisa ubudlelwane bezentlalo kwaye ityumze kwindlela yolwaphulo-mthetho? Okanye, mhlawumbi, kunye neyona ntlango, uphila ngengozi kwaye amaqabane abo afuna bona, ukuba, kunjalo, kunexesha?
Ukuvumelana okanye uthandoAbantu abatshatileyo, ngokucacileyo, abaphumelelanga kakhulu kwimbono yolwaphulo-mthetho- bahlala ixesha elide, baphumelele kakhulu. Yihleka, nangona kunjalo, nokuba yimfuza, kukuba uthando lukhanyise indlela yabo, kwaye le ntliziyo idityanisiweyo ibetha ukuba idityaniswe, okanye lo mbutho ukhuthaza ukuthotyelwa kwezinto ezilindelweyo kunye nezona zinto zihambelana nazo?
Uluvo lombhali lungangqinelani nesikhundla soshicilelo lwamaxesha ngamaxesha.