Ukuba ulinde impendulo enye kulo mbuzo, emva koko uthi: "Ewe!" Kwaye ukuba ufuna inkcazo eyongezelelweyo, funda kwakhona uphononongo lwethu oluncinci.
Ukuba umntwana akafuni ukukugona, emva koko ...Oku akuthethi ukuba akakuthandi. Ewe, kunokuba nzima kakhulu, kodwa zama ukungayithabathe iindleko zakho.
Ugqirha wezengqondo uSuzan Ayen Denam ubhala ukuba umntwana omncinci unokuba nesigidi ngezizathu zokuba angafuni ukukuvulela kule yesibini.
Nazi ezinye zazo:
Wayenosuku olubi kwaye wayefuna ixesha elincinci ukuba abuye kwakhona, kwaye uzama ukuphucula imeko yakhe ngeengalo. Kule meko, kungcono ukusondela nje ukulinda.
Uye wakhubeka ngokwenyani ngento ethile (umzekelo, ngokuchitha ixesha elininzi nomntwana okanye ngasekhohlo uhambo lweshishini), kodwa akakwazi ukuveza iimvakalelo zakho ngamazwi. Zama ukuthetha naye ukuze umntwana afunde ukucacisa iimvakalelo zakhe. Kwakhona, ixesha liya kunceda!
Ngokusesikweni akafuni ukwanga umntu kubazali bakhe - uninzi lwasemncinci umntwana wakho udlula isigaba soMyalelo ngamnye, sinceda unyamezelo.
Mhlawumbi ayinguye nje ochukumisayo. Oonyana abanjalo banokuzalwa nabazali abaninzi!
Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho unentloni kwaye eneentloni ukuba uyayifumana nomzali owahlukileyo okanye esidlangalaleni.
IBhunga leHlabathi kule meko linganikwa: ungabi humi umntwana ngamandla!
Kungcono ukuhlala ubuza ukuba ungayifumana ngoku. Umzekelo onjalo ufundisa umntwana koyena mgaqo ubalulekileyo wemvume.
Ukuba umntwana akafuni ukwanga ugogo / utat'omkhulu / ezinye izalamane okanye ezinye izihlobo okanye izihlobo zentsapho, emva kokoKwakhona, hayi isibonakaliso sokuba bonke aba bantu bangemnandi kakhulu. Mhlawumbi akazange ababone ixesha elide kwaye ufuna ixesha lokuziqhela kwakhona. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho unentloni kakhulu. Mhlawumbi ixesha lokugqibela wadibana notatomkhulu, wamanga ukuba akhwele i-drool yakhe isuka kwimizuzu emihlanu.
Ukuba umntwana wakho sele ethetha, zama kamva xa uhlala wedwa kwakhona, xubusha naye isizathu sokuba angafuni ukumbulisa ngokufudumeleyo umntu. Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zabantwana kwaye ungaze ufumane umntwana wokwala ukwala.
Yintoni enokwenziwa ukudibana nezalamane zomntwana azixinezeleki?Ukudibana kunye nokubulisa okokuqala kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntwana akadidekanga, unokusebenzisa ubuchule.
Kuyimfuneko ukuxelela umntwana ukuba ukongeza kwingalo, zikho ezinye iindlela zemibuliso: unokuthi "yi-hello", unganika isandla sakho, ungasinika ezintlanu ".
Unokongeza ezinye iindlela zokubulisa kolu luhlu oluthandayo umntwana wakho: ukwanga ngenqwelomoya, ukubulisa imibuliso. Njengoko besitsho, kuyo nayiphi na imeko engacacanga, benika umntwana ithuba lokukhetha apho kwezi ndlela zezona zibaluleke kakhulu.
Zama ukuchaza kwangaphambili kwizalamane kunye nabahlobo abangafuniyo ukuphosa i-king nge-hugs kunye nokuqhawula. Nokuba ukubulisa ngomlomo sele luphawu olwaneleyo lokuhlonela umntwana. Abantu abadala kufuneka bahlale bekwisikhundla sabantu abadala kwaye bakwazi ukwenza ukwala umntwana kwii-hugs.
Kutheni isekho ukwenza umntwana agobe omnye umntu?Ukuba sinyanzela umntwana ukuba aqabule umntu okanye ukwanga, ngaloo ndlela sinika umntwana umqondiso onjalo: "Uluvo lwakho kunye neminqweno yakho ayinamdla kuye, kufuneka ukuze abanye bahle."
Kule meko, abantwana abayi kuqiniseka ukuba ngokwabo banokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngubani na kwaye ngubani onokubachukumisayo. Akunakwenzeka ukufundisa umntwana kunye nomgaqo-nkqubo wemvume, ukuba kunjalo nangexesha elifanayo ukuze hume ngamandla okanye nokuba ugobe abanye abantu. Ekugqibeleni, sonke sifuna ukuba abantwana bethu bangabi ngamaxhoba obundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo kwaye bakwazi ukufumana amandla okuthi "hayi" xa ezinye iimeko zingahambi kakuhle.
Ke ngoko, kufuneka sinike abantwana indawo ukuze bafunde ukuyithetha le "hayi" ngoku, nokuba sisalawula ubomi babo phantse iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku.
Khumbula ukuba uninzi lwabantwana abakhulu lwabantwana abayeleyo ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo bangamaxhoba osapho oluqhelekileyo, - oko kukuthi, abantu abakonwabele ukuzithemba kubazali babo - kwaye abangabaziyo ombi esikhundleni.
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