Ngo-2020, inoveli yombhali waseMelika kunye nentatheli uAna noz-i-nozs ethunzini ("Outlaw") malunga nentombazana yeshumi elinesithoba inyanzelekile ukuba ibulale wonke umntu Abasetyhini abangenamntwana asilogqwirha.
Kwisincoko sokuhlaziya umlondolozi, umbhali uxelele indlela awabona ngayo umxholo womntwana owatshintshe emva kwakhe ngokwakhe wangumama wakhe. Sipapasha uguqulelo lwale mbhalo.
Ukuzalwa komntwana kwinkulungwane yeshumi elinesithoba kwakuyishishini elinobungozi. Abafazi abaninzi bawile nge-PostParturum Pever-usulelo lwesibeleko, olunokukhokelela kwi-seppis nokufa. Abanye banokubandezeleka kakhulu ngenxa yokwaphalaza okuninzi ngexesha lokuzala komntwana, nto leyo eyabamba ubomi babahlali abaninzi.
Abanye kuye kwafuneka bavavanye i-eclampsia - imeko apho ukonyuka okukhawulezileyo kuxinzelelo lwegazi kunokubangela ukugwetywa. Ngo-1900, abafazi abathandathu abanesithoba basweleke abangamabhinqa amathandathu okanye abasithoba (kwaye oku ngama-30 amaxesha angaphezu kwewaka leminyaka yokuzalwa ngexesha lokuzalwa komntwana okanye ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba bekugqitywe.
Ndifundile zonke ezi zibakala xa ndandiqala ukuqokelela iimpahla zenoveli yam "kwi-Outlaw" (kuyo) - kuyo ndilixelela ibali lentombi ye-hidwile, nto leyo ngo-1894 ezabalekela eNtshona West. Ndidinga ukufumanisa ukuba i-OBSOSTRIKI negynecology yelo xesha zacwangciswa.
Ekuqaleni ndifunda ngembali yecandelo leCesarean, eliya kuthi ga kwi-1880s eYurophu lakhokelela kwisiphumo esibulalayo, nangona babeqala ukukwenza kwinkulungwane yesibini yeXesha Eliqhelekileyo.
Ndifundile malunga nendlela evulekileyo yamaqanda eli-1670, i-Dr. Ezinye "izinto ze-anatomy yesini").
Ndifundile ukwakhiwa kwemixube yokuqala yabantwana, eYurophu kwinkulungwane yeshumi elinesixhenxe - idlalwa ngeseso isonka esinamanzi, kwaye sabondla iintsana ezivela kwi-rogods ekhethekileyo (engondle, kwakunzima ukuchitha intsholongwane iqokelelwe apho).
Uninzi lwale ngcaciso lwalunomdla kum. Ukusuka kwezinye izibakala, kunjalo, ukwenziwa ngokutsha, kodwa ngokubanzi andikwazi kuthi into inempembelelo entle kakhulu yeemvakalelo kum. Ukuba nento yonke le nto, ndaqala ukubhala ibali malunga nokuzalwa komntwana weentsuku ezininzi, igazi legazi, ukubulawa kwezigulo kunye nokuzalwa kwezinto kunye nokuzala, kwaye, nangona ndizama ukuyeka konke oku, le nkqubo ayizange iphele mna, kwaye ndaqhubeka ndilala. Ndibhale ngamava abo ngendlela njengababhali babhala malunga namava abanye abantu abangazange baphile, bafaka isicatshulwa, kodwa bengazichazanga nabalinganiswa.
Kwaye ke bendinomntwana.
Sasinethamsanqa noNyana- zombini kwimigangatho yenkulungwane yeshumi elinesithoba, kwaye ngokwemigangatho yanamhlanje. Inqanaba lokufa kwabasetyhini kunye nokufa kukasanana nokuzalwa kukasanda, kodwa kuncitshiswa ukusukela ngo-1900, kodwa ezi ntlekele zenzeka namhlanje. Kwaye uninzi lweendlela ezinyanzelekileyo zisanyanzelekile ukuba ziphumelele kwinkqubo ebuhlungu ye-episiotomy okanye ubuso bezinye iingxaki zeposi, ukuze kuvunyelwe emva koko kuya kufuneka bachithe iinyanga okanye iminyaka.
Ndaba nethamsanqa-ukukhulelwa kwam kunye nokuzalwa kwam ukuba nomntwana babuthathaka, kwaye, njengomfazi omhlophe, kwakungekho mfazi, ngenxa yokuba amaziko okufa aseMelika ngexesha lokuzalwa komntwana ehlala ephakamile. Nangona ndinemibuzo malunga nolu hlali lubalulekileyo ebantwini emva kokuzalwa komntwana?
Kodwa andisakwazi ukujonga incwadi yam njengangaphambili.
Ndiphantse ndagqiba inguqulelo yokuqala xa kwakuzalwa unyana wam. Kwisahluko esiphumeleleyo kufuneka ndichithe iinyanga ezininzi. Laza ixesha lokuhlela lifikile.
Ndinobunzima obukhulu bokuphinda ndifunde isicatshulwa, apho unina we-heroine, umbelekisi wasekhaya owaziwayo, elungiselela umntu ngokuzalwa komntwana, ekhumbula isigulana sakhe sokugqibela esasweleka ngexesha lobusuku. Kwakunzima kakhulu ukufunda ukukhankanya iintsana ezisweleke kungekudala emva kokuzalwa.
Kubo bonke ukukhulelwa kwayo kwaye kwake kwasekuqaleni, ndahlala ndizolile - ngokucacileyo, ihormones icinezele ixhala lam endalihlala namashumi eminyaka. Kodwa kwakazalwa nje unyana wam, ndaqonda ukuba ngexesha lokuzalwa komntwana ayinakukwazi ukuba ihambe kakuhle.
Iinyani zeyeza lenkulungwane yeshumi elinesithoba, eyabonakala ngathi iyinyani, ngequbuliso yaphelela ngokupheleleyo ekuqondeni.
Singatsho, ndiyavuya ukuba ndiphantse ndayigqiba incwadi ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wam avele. Ukuba bendifanele ndibhale ngomsebenzi wemfumbe emva kokuzalwa konyana, ndinokuba nesilingo sokuthimba ingozi yelo xesha. Nokuba bekunzima kangakanani na ukwanda la maphepha kwakhona, andizange ndizichebe.
Ividiyo yam itshintshile kakhulu kususela oko ndabhala ingxelo eyidle yenoveli. Ngoku ndinomsindo omkhulu. Ndinobubi ngendlela ebaluleke ngayo abantu ngokubaluleka kokuqhubeka nokuqhubeka nokuqhubeka nohlobo nendlela abanciphisa ngayo abafazi kwimisebenzi yokuzala abantwana. Ukuba abantwana oogqirha babukeka kaninzi emva kokuzalwa, emva koko abafazi emva koko abafazi emva kokuzalwa komntwana lixesha lokuqala ukuya kugqirha kwiiveki ezintandathu! Nangona kunjalo ngeli xesha kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhe wabona esona siganeko sibuhlungu sobomi babo.
Olu ncedo loluntu lunokwazi ukuvelisa kwakhona ngabafazi abangenaziqhamo nabangenanxunguphalo, nabasetyhini abagqibe kwelokuba bangazala abantwana kwizizathu zembono.
Kangangeminyaka emininzi ndigubungele imixholo enxulumene nempilo yokuzala njengeyona ntatheli, ke ndiyazi ngayo yonke le mis stereotypes ayenzayo kuqala. Kodwa ndaziva ndim xa ukukhulelwa kwam kwabonakala ukuba abanye, ubuntu bam babenomdla, kodwa lonke ingqalelo banomdla kwi-fetus.
Kodwa i-Umakazi yandenza ndingandifuni nje kuphela. Ngoku ndiyayiqonda indlela uluntu kwingcinga ekwamele ukuba yayibheke ngayo kwabo bafuna ukuba nabantwana. Kwenye yeenxalenye zencwadi yam, ebhalelwe emva kokuzalwa koNyana, ndichaza iziko apho abakhulelweyo nabasetyhini abangathandaniyo ukwenza isisu, kwaye abo basetyhini abangaziqondiyo ukuba kutheni bengakwazi ukukhulelwa. Le yindawo eqaqambileyo necocekileyo. Kukho umqamelo wokuzalwa komntwana. Apha wonke umntu obhinqileyo ahambahamba ngexesha lobusuku.
Kodwa eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba abantu abathetha nabafazi nabanebakala kubo, kwaye kungekuphela nje phambi kwabantwana babo.
Ndiqale ukusebenza kwinoveli ngokuqonda ngengqondo kokuqonda. Kwaye igqibile-ngengqondo enomdla. Ndiye ndaqala ukubhala le ncwadi kuba ndifuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni na ekuchumeni, ukungasebenzi, kunye nendlela yokuguqulalwa kwabasetyhini kuvela. Kwaye ekugqibeleni ndandifuna ukuba nomfanekiso-ngqonini leli lizwe ndifanele ukuba ndibekhona - okanye ubuncinci isithuba esinye - apho abantu badlula khona ekukhulelweni, ubunzima bomntwana kunye nobunzima bokuzala - banokufumana olo nyango.
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