Ngaba ucwangcisa abantwana?
Uphupha usapho olukhulu, kwaye iqabane lakho kufuneka nje lifune abantwana, lingabi ziifradi zabantwana. Kubantu abaye bagqiba ekubeni bangabi ngabazali, kukho izizathu ezivakalayo, kwaye iqabane lakhe alinalungelo lokumnyanzela ukuba enze olunye ukhetho, kwaye ngakumbi, ukuze afezekise le nkohliso.
Nokuba umntu kwisibini esitshatileyo uqhubeka nokulalanisa, oku nangayiphi na imeko akuyi kuchaphazela ubudlelwane. Kungekudala, umsantsa uyakwenzeka.
Ngaba uyakonwabela ukulala nam?Olunjani uthando oluqinileyo kunye nothando, izesondo idlala enye yeendima eziphambili kulwalamano. Kwaye ukuba ngobomi obusondeleyo, ayinguye wonke umntu olele-esi sisizathu sencoko enkulu. Kubalulekile ukuba amaqabane afumanise ukuba, bonke banelisekile, ukuba zeziphi izinto abazithandayo kunye neminqweno yabo. Kule mbuzo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungabi nazintloni kwaye ungabi nakuthoba. Khumbula kuphela, onke amabango angcono ukunqanda igumbi lokulala, kodwa unokuthetha ngokukhuselekileyo ngeminqweno ebhedini ethe ngqo ebhedini. Ukuba, kunjalo, uqinisekile ukuba abayothusi okhethiweyo (emva koko bavakalise kwimozulu ehlaziyiweyo).
Kubudlelwane, kubalulekile ukuba neenjongo eziqhelekileyo. Ukuba nobabini nichitha ixesha ngalunye, ningenalusinga, kungenjalo, kodwa ukuba omnye kuni akazenzi ukuba ulinde. Ukuba iinjongo azihambelani, musa ukugcina omnye komnye.
Ngaba wanelisekile yimali yakho?Le yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu. Akufanelanga ukuba unexhala lokuba i-mercantile iyakuthatha ukuba uyakukuthatha, kodwa ukuba uyalelwa kubudlelwane bexesha elide, umbuzo wemali unokufumana ubambo, ngakumbi ukuba nina nobabini nicwangcisa ikamva labantwana. Nokuba intanda yakho icwangcisiwe ukuba ihambise ileli yomsebenzi, okanye yanelisekile sisikhundla sanamhlanje sezinto. Ngokokude kangangoko anamabhongo, kwaye into eya kulungele ukuhamba ngenxa yosapho ibaluleke kakhulu.
Ukongeza, kuyimfuneko ukufumanisa kwangaphambili ukuba kuza kuthunyelwa uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali. Uya kudityaniswa okanye ahlukane. Kwaye njani ukuba iphindwe njani imikhwa yakho: Mhlawumbi unezoqoqosho, kwaye uthanda ukuba uphumle kwiindawo zokutyela ezixabisa kakhulu kwaye ufikelele kumvuzo olandelayo.
Imiba yezempilo ingumxholo otyhafileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ifuna ukucaciswa. Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bunzulu, unelungelo lokwazi ukuba izifo ezikhethiweyo zesondo, intsholongwane kaGawulayo, isifo sephepha, esinye izifo eziyingozi. Oku, kunjalo, asisosizathu sokwahlukana (nangona unokuthatha isigqibo malunga nalo mzekelo), kuba uninzi lwezifo ngoku ziphathwa ngempumelelo, kwaye ngosulelo lwe-HIV, unokuzala rhoqo ngonyango.
Ukongeza koku kungasentla, kufanelekile ukuba uxoxe ngezi zinto:
Kutheni wahlukana nentombi yakho yokugqibela?
Kuhle xa abantu benokwahlulela ngokulungileyo nokuhlala nabahlobo. Ngapha koko, yenzeka ngendlela. Xa ekuxelela indlela ulwalamano lwakhe lokugqibela oluphelileyo, uya kukwazi ukuqonda izinto azithandayo, izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kunye namathuba akho ekusombululeni iimbambano.
Ngaba uneengcinga ukuba zihlukane nam?
Uvula indawo ekhuselekileyo yobabini ukuba wabelane ngeengcinga onokuba nazo, kodwa wawubambekile kakhulu ukuba uveze.
Kukucaphukisa ntoni?
Uninzi lwethu alufuni kukuthetha ngokungathandabuzekiyo malunga nento esingayithandiyo kumaqabane ethu, kuba asifuni ukwenzakalisa iimvakalelo zabo. Kodwa okubi nangakumbi - ukucaphuka ngalo lonke ixesha, xa iqabane lakho lenza into, kwaye awumxeleli ngayo.
Ngaba unazo iimfihlo kum?
Ukuba uyabuza lo mbuzo, mhlawumbi unokulindela ukuba uza kuphendula athi "Hayi." Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba lo mbuzo uya kuba yi-trigger kwaye uya kuyithatha njengethuba lokwabelana nabanye ngezinto ezibalulekileyo.