Ukwamkelwa komntwana yinkqubo entsonkothileyo, ixesha, ligcwele amathemba kwaye lutshintsha ngokupheleleyo indlela eqhelekileyo yobomi. Umntu othile okwishumi elinanye ofumana usapho lwayo oluqinileyo naluphi na ulwalamano lwegazi, kwaye umntu uchitha iminyaka, kodwa akafumani manqaku onxibelelwano.
Thina kwi-Adme.ru seyisekile ukuba abantu abagqibayo ukuba abe ngumntwana abe ngowakho, ukuba bangabi nantliziyo iphela, kodwa babe nesibindi nomonde. Kwaye ke kukho ithuba lokuba umntwana ongomnye umntu uya kuba ziizalamane.
Nye.
Abazali bamkele umntakwethu. Zonke izalamane nabantu oqhelileyo zaziqinisekile ukuba ngekhe bakwazi ukukhulisa umntu oqhelekileyo ukuba kungakhululwa nto. Kuba uhlobo. Ngenxa yoko, umntakwethu ugqibile esikolweni ngembasa yegolide, kunye neyunivesithi ngediploma ebomvu. Lo kuphela komntu oya kuhlala endixhasa kwaye ngaphandle kwemeko ihlala inobubele kwaye inyanisekile. Ndiyixabisa kakhulu kwaye ndimhlonele umzalwana wam wemveli. I-Genenes inye, kwaye uthando kunye nemfundo yinto eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. © DEAREE / VK
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Umcebisi wam kunye nomhlobo wam ngexesha elinye bagqiba kwelokuba bathathe umntwana. Kuqokelelwe amawaka amaxwebhu. Ndandiluluhlu lwendoda yakhe, njengoko wafumana inkwenkwe "yengxaki". Wonke umntu wathi kuya kuba nzima kuye: Batsho, umntwana uncinanana, ubuthathaka kwaye ngokucacileyo uya kuba sisalele ekukhuleni kwengqondo. Inkwenkwe ineminyaka eli-14 ubudala ngoku, uhlala nonina eMontenegro, ithatha amabhaso kukhuphiswano lwezemidlalo, ifumana idiploma yesona sifundo sibalaseleyo esikolweni. Njengoko wayetshilo, "Ndibona nje ukuba akasithandi uthando." © gapmofey hooks / facebook
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Sasineminyaka esi-8 saphila iminyaka esi-8 kwaye saqonda ukuba bakulungele ukwamkelwa. Sasifuna amakhwenkwe amabini iminyaka emi-2-3. Ngesizathu esithile, ngokukhawuleza ndanikela ngomntu oneminyaka emi-6, ndaxelela kancinci malunga nekamva lakhe ngelishwa. Sasifuna ukunikezela, kuba kwanezo indlebe yayisoyikekayo. Kodwa xa mna nomyeni wam siyibona ifoto, sajonga indawo yethu. Kwakungekho mnandi kwifoto-i-bald rurroah into enomtsalane. Kodwa ngequbuliso saba sabalulwanga kuye, imeko yakhe yezulu, okanye yangaphambili neyaphithiphileyo. Kwakukho imvakalelo ecacileyo yokuba.
Kwakunzima ngakumbi ngomzuzwana. Banike inkwenkwe iminyaka eyi-1.5, akukho ngxaki, kwintlanganiso- intle, kodwa hayi eyethu. Owu, kwenzeka ntoni apha! "Awukho kwivenkile oza kukhetha!" - Le yeyona nto siyithambileyo. Kodwa sele siyazi le mvakalelo, sele sixinezelekile ngabom, kodwa imvakalelo ecacileyo yokuba "sethu" ayinyamalala, kodwa yasinceda. Banokuthanda ukuthandabuza, babingelela enye, kodwa hayi kuthi. Kwakukho i-ultimatum: nokuba ngubani okanye nabani na. Sasinexhala, kodwa sanqabile. Baba ziintshaba zabantu. Ukuba bekungeyiyo impumelelo kunye nabalizi, emva koko iingcango zogada ziya kuvalwa ngonaphakade. Emva koko ummangaliso wenzeka. Ndabona ifoto kwiqela lamavolontiya, intliziyo sele iqalile. Wabonisa umyeni wakhe, kwaye kwangoko: "Ke le yethu le!" Sasikhathalela ukuba sincinci iinyanga ezintandathu, kodwa sasinethamsanqa. Umzali wethu ebeneminyaka eli-10 ubudala. Ndiva nantoni na, bekukho iingxaki ezazilungele ukuthoba izandla zakho, kodwa aziphantsi - kuba zingabantwana bethu. I-100% yethu. © mari.ar / pikabu
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Intsapho yethu iminyaka eyi-8 eyadlulayo yamkele inkwenkwana eneminyaka emi-4 ubudala. Abazali bachitha yonke imali ababeyikhuphele kwimoto ukwenza iziqwenga zephepha, bathathe, banxibe, unxweme. Umama wagoduka emsebenzini ukuze amncede aqhelane nendawo entsha. Sibeka onke amandla akho nemiphefumlo yakho kuwo. Ke ngoku akukho mnqweno wokumthanda kwaye ufuna ukuba ngummisi kuye. Uba weba ekhaya, esikolweni phakathi kwabahlobo, wabakhohlisa kwi-trifle enkulu kwaye ethambile, ufunda ezimbini. Ivila kunye ne-narcissist, kwaye okwangoku akakangenisi ubudala botshintsho. Akukho namnye kubazali bakhe kwaye uyakholelwa ukuba wonke umntu unyanzelekile kuye. Iminyaka emi-8 ubudala nerves kunye nokuthuka. © DEAREE / VK
Ntlanu.
Siye sayifumana intombi xa wayeneminyaka esi-8 ubudala, sele sinonyana oneminyaka eli-13 ubudala. Khange ndibengenakuba nabantwana abaninzi, kodwa ndifuna kakhulu. Kodwa kwikhaya leenkedama, sayibona le ntombazana intle yakhe ifile kwingozi embi kakhulu. Ngoku sele eli-19, kodwa akazange abize mama. Konke kulungile, kodwa ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kukho imvakalelo yokuba sisityelele, hayi ekhaya. Lonke ulwalamano lwayo nolubonakala ngathi lunombulelo. Kodwa ndifuna ukuba azive indabuko, wayesazi ukuba yindlu yakhe. Amagama awakhwaza kwiminyaka eli-11 eyadlulayo, ajikeleza entloko ngexesha lethu lokuqala lokuxabana sele enabazali kwaye soze kube ngabanye. Kodwa siyamthanda kakhulu. © DEAREE / VK
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Ababini kubantwana bethu abamkelekileyo. Ndalala ukuba bendisithi kumfazi wam kwaye andizange ndicinge, ndamkelwa ngokuchanekileyo ngokuthatha abantwana kwikhaya leenkedama. Kodwa asikaze siphelelwe yiyo. Ekuqaleni, aba bantu bekunzima ukuziqhelanisa. Kodwa ngoku baqonda ukuba ngokwenene bayawathanda, bazola. Ewe, abantwana abakhulayo baya kuhlala beziva iintlungu ezithile. Banokukhumbula okwedlulileyo, ngelixa bengakwazi ukubuyela kuyo kwaye bawususe ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye le yeyona nxalenye inzima enxulumene nokwamkelwa komntwana abengowomnye. Kodwa ngaba bakho abantwana abangenazingxaki? Akunjalongo noko. Ke andizisoli kokuthathwa komntwana abe ngowakho. Mna, ngokuchasene noko, enkosi ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo kubantwana bam, ukuba andikwazi nokuchaza nale mazwi! © UWilliam Spencer / Quora
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Isizungu esiqhelekileyo sathatha intombazana eneminyaka emi-5 evela kwi-orphanage pasha. Yonke into iphilile de kwaba kwimeko ye-14 engazange ivulele inyaniso, 'utitshala ongaphendliyo ". Intombazana yaphosa eluphahleni: watyhola umama wakwamamkelwe kuzo zonke izono zabantu, waqala ukubaleka endlwini, waqhagamshelana nenkampani embi. Ujike waya komnye umboniso wethelevishini odumileyo ngesicelo sokufumana umama wemvelo. Ngenxa yoko, kwavela ukuba abafumani ngumama kuphela, kodwa kunye nodadewethu wemozulu, yenziwa enye intsapho. Umama webhayoloji, mfazi owileyo, entlanganisweni akazange avumele uDarha nasemnyango. Udade kubo bonke ubumbeko ukuba abuyele kwakhona kunye nosapho baphendula ngokuqinileyo kuba wayenabazali abanye - abo bakhuliswe. UDasha akazange akwazi ukuxolela umama wakhe osele amgibisayo okanye ongekhuhli, iminyaka emininzi efihla inyaniso yokwamkelwa kuye.
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Ummelwane uphulukene nomntwana wakhe kuphela kwingozi yemoto, xa wayeneminyaka eli-17 ubudala. Emva kwethuba, xa wayeneminyaka engama-50 ubudala, wamkela iGreta eneminyaka emi-6 evela kwelinye ilizwe. Le ntombazana yayineengxaki zokuziphatha ezazijika zavela ekubeni yingqondo. Ummelwane wamqhubela koogqirha, wazama iqhekeza leziyobisi, kodwa ngelize. Okokuqala, greta basinda kwiNdlu iminyaka eli-14. Emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa, ukuphindaphinda. Intombazana yachaza ukuba wazama ukubuyela kusapho, oye webile umama wamakhulile. Xa uGret wayeneminyaka eli-16, wanyamalala ngaphezulu konyaka. Kwaye kwafunyanwa xa ummelwane wabizwa esibhedlele kwi-5 i-5 ivela endlwini, wathi uGreta wazala wayishiya iwadi, eshiya umntwana apho kunye nabafowunelwa benye. Ke, ngeminyaka engama-67, umntwana wawa kummelwane. UGreta wavela kanye ngonyaka wacela imali evela kumama ofumanayo, oyikhawuleza ukuba athathe umntwana. Emva kweminyaka embalwa uye washiya umntwana omnye kwesinye isibhedlele. Ngoku ummelwane sele eneminyaka engama-80 ubudala, kwaye uvelisa "abazukulwana" abanolwaphulo-mthetho ngokweemvakalelo. © jaimystery / reddit
Thoba.
Eyona ntombi ibalaseleyo yafa ngengozi, unyana omncinci wahlala. Ndamkela. Umyeni wam kwiintombi zokuqala zomtshato - i-Twin, umama wabo wahluthwa amalungelo abazali. Bahlala bonke kunye nosapho olunobuhlobo, kwaye andizange ndicinge ngento yokuba iRazchi "Abaphambukeli" abantwana, ngelixa abazali bam baqala ukunyamezela ingqondo yam. "Kutheni ucelomngeni abanye abantwana? Kutheni utsala le-orave yakho? Ekugqibeleni, umntwana wakhe, igazi lakhe! " Abantwana kwiholide jikelele balila ububi ababeyi-prodigyushi kunye nomthwalo kum. UApogehem waba: "Hayi, sakuzalisa, ukuze ungaqhubeki thembeni. I-Hard ithintele zonke izifundo, azikwazanga ukunyamezela ngakumbi. Abafana bavuka, bakhula. Ndidinga ukuthunga kwezintso. Bonke abantwana babalekela ukuya kwimvavanyo, nangona ndingazange ndibabuze kwaye ndithe cwaka kwasekupheleni, kodwa umyeni wam waxelelwa. Ngenxa yoko, enye yeentombi zandinika izintso zakhe. Kuphela kusemva kokuba abazali bam babize kuqala umzukulwana wakhe bacela ukuxolelwa. © DEAREE / VK
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Udade nomyeni wam ungenaziqhamo. Sigqibe kwelokuba sithathe intombazana kwikhaya leenkedama, cwaka kwaye sifumene amanqaku. Xa umkhwekazi wambona, wakhwaza esithi: "Enkosi! Ekupheleni kweminyaka, andiyi kuba ngabazukulwana, kwaye abanye abantu abahlengiweyo! Akucaci ukuba ngubani le inkedama awayekuyo. " Bazolile umama, babhala yonke into yoxinzelelo. Kuthathe iminyaka emi-5, kwaye umkhwekazi akakwazanga ukwamkela umzukulwana ovumayo. Nokuba izipho zeholide ziyahlukaniswa zithenga kuphela abantwana bentombi enkulu, abazukulwana. Ukuze ungayikhuli le ntombazana kwakhona, kwaye ungangxami ukudumisa, udade uncokola noMama kuye kwafuneka anqumle kangangoko anakho.
Shumi elinanye.
Ndigxile kwintombazana xa wayeneminyaka emi-4 ubudala. Ngoku ngu-33, 2 kwimfundo ephezulu. Intombi ethandekayo! Ndikhe ndambuza: "Ngaba uziva usazi nje ukuba uyamkeleka?" Uphendule wathi: "Hayi! Bendihlala ndinekratshi ukuba ndifanelwe yintsapho kwaye undinyule mna. " Emva kwexesha, unyana wam wazalwa, kwaye ngoku ndinabantwana ababini abamangalisayo. © Erika Cirole / I-YouTube
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Xa unyana wafumanayo wayeneminyaka eli-14 ubudala, saxabana, kwaye andikhumbuli ngenxa yoko. Ngequbuliso wakhupha ukuba asilosapho kuye kwaye kuya kuba ngcono ukuba asikaze sikuthathe. Bebuhlungu, ndaye ndahlanganisana nomoya, ndaphendula wathi: "Ewe ndiyazi." Okothusayo kukuba, ngesizathu esithile kwaba lula kum kuba unyana ekugqibeleni wayithetha ngokuvakalayo. Ngolo hlobo wagoduka waza walala kunye nobusuku nabahlobo. Ewe, kwaye umyeni wam nonyana omncinci babekhathazekile kakhulu. Kungekudala emva kokuba ndibuyele ekhaya, waxolisa ngokuziphatha kwakhe nangenyani ukuba uye wasinda. Kwaye ke amehlo akhe agcwele iinyembezi kwaye wathi enyanisweni uya kwenzakalisa nje ukuba abe ngumntwana ongamkhonziyo kwaye uninzi lwazo zonke angathanda ukuba ligazi lehlabathi. Inene yona yandihlaba ngaphezu kwamazwi akhe axabana. Ndamxelela ukuba ndiziva ndinjalo. Sahlala ngokuchaseneyo kwaye sijongene nje. Kungekudala, nokuba akukhange kube kwangoko, ubudlelwane bethu baphucuka. © Ruth Alborough / Quora
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Intombi yam encinci yeza kuthi ukuba iphile xa wayeneminyaka eli-10 ubudala. Endaweni yoko, le ntombi yam ephakathi yamkhokelela ngobusuku bakhe, ehlala ihleli iminyaka eli-13. Kwiminyaka yayo, intombazana yadlula kakhulu. Ngembonakalo yakhe, ndaqala ndabona ukuba ndimthande umntu ngaphandle kokulinda impendulo. Ukuba angaze asithande. Ukuba angaze athembeke kuthi njengentsapho. Kodwa kuphela intombi yokwamkela kuphela yandinceda. Nceda ungandiphazamisi, ndiyabathanda abantwana bam ngebhayiloji kunye nazo zonke iifilimu zomphefumlo kwaye ndinokubeka ubomi, kodwa ndiyayithanda intombi yokwamkela, mhlawumbi nangakumbi. Ubutshintsha ubomi bethu kwaye wasifundisa ukuba sesona sivulekileyo kwaye sinyanisekile. Namhlanje, bonke abantwana bam abane banobuhlobo kwaye bahlambekile, njengeqela lemigulukudu. Siyintsapho yakhe, kwaye yeyethu. © uReee lacoste ubude / chacara
Shumi elinane.
Ndigqibe kwelokuba ndibhale ibali lomhlobo wam uRoma, owaba ngutata wokuqala kunyaka ongafundanga. Umqhubi olula, iqabane likaTatiana, nyana. Umfazi waya esibhedlela ukuze anike intombi. Apho, abanye abancinci bayala ukwala umntwana. Inkwenkwe yazala ibuhlungu, yakrokrela, umfazi kaRooma waqala ukudliwa naye. Umntwana wayeza kuthatha umntwana endlwini, kodwa ekubeni wayesandul 'ukuzalwa, emva koko kwisicelo seqabane lakhe samshiya, esithi bayakuthatha emva kweentsuku ezintathu. Kwakukho intwasahlobo, umfula uyahamba, isikhephe sasingekasenzi, i-IIRSHR, kwakungekho ndlela eya kwenye ilali. IRoma yazisa abafana kwaye khange acinge ukuba ngonaphakade. Ndacinga ukuba indlela ibiza kubilisa kwaye ithathe inkwenkwana kwindlu yomntwana. Kwaye bakufika kwinkwenkwe, wagula wagqiba kwelokuba angamchukumisi. UTatyana wayesele athi akangekhe anike nabani na. Wambiza ke, unyana. Ngenisa isicelo sokuba abe ngumzali, banosapho olulungileyo, nasemva kwabo. Kutshanje, inoveli yatsho ukuba i-Stasu (inkwenkwe yabizwa), xa yayiyiminyaka emi-8, enye "elungileyo, inyaniso" ayithethileyo yonke into. Indoda yokuqala ivaliwe, emva koko yabuza abazali, abazange bakhanyele, baxelele inyani. UNyana wayethi cwaka ixesha elide, wathi: "Ke, ngoku ndiyasiqonda isizathu sokuba qaqambile, kwaye ndimnyama."
IRoma kunye neTatiana eNovosibirs ishukume usapho lonke. Ngoku abantwana sele bekhulile, oyena mdala waya eMoscow, intombi itshatile yaya eKrasnodare. Abazali abayilibali, bhala, utyelelo. Kodwa abazali be-STAS bahlala, behlala ngokwahlukeneyo, kodwa ekwindawo yokungena. Utshatile, usebenza, njengenoveli, umqhubi. UMRoma wathi: "Ndiyabulela kuye inceba nenkosikazi yam, ukuba ndinalo unyana. Njengoko ndandicinga ukuba kuya kuba naye ukuba uTanya akazange ambone kwisibhedlele sokwamaso. " Izolo ndiye ndafunda ukuba i-stas yayinentombi yazalwa, uTanya wabizwa, ezukisa uMama. © i-tibharskix / pikabu
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