Nawuphi na umntu obhinqileyo amaphupha okuhlangana nendoda xa ujonge kuye wonke umntu owayeya kukhanyisela iAhali:
Kodwa ubudlelwane nendoda entle inokuhlakulela kude neRosy ngendlela endifuna ngayo. Ke yenza isigqibo malunga nengxaki: ukwenza umntu omhle naye, nokuba uzukisa, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukwakha ubudlelwane, okanye uvumelane nenketho encinci enomtsalane - i-tennel ikhululekile kwaye ilungile.
Akukho mntu uvakalisa: kude-kude nedima yokugqibela kwindoda. Uhlala engayenzi nje imbonakalo yokuqala yomntu, kodwa neenkqubo zenziwe zaza kamva. Iqinisekisiwe ngokwesayensi ukuba umntu omnandi abantu bathandabuza ukubaluleka kweempawu ezintle kunye nesidima. Ke ngoko, kunye nenkangeleko entle, umngcipheko wokufumana iimpawu ezintle kakhulu ezingalindelekanga ukwenza ubudlelwane bakho bungabikho.
Ngaba uzabalazela nantoni na ukudibana nendoda ethandwayo? Cinga malunga nexabiso ekufuneka ulihlawule ngalo. Ndiza kukuxelela amanqaku athile ongacingi ngoku.
Ngaba yeyona intle phakathi kwabaqhelileyo?
Zilungiselele ukwenza ukuba bangaboni kwaye bangevayo, ukuba bangaziphawuli iikopi ezivela ngaphandle kwabasetyhini kwaye batyhale ikhwele lwakho kwikona elikude.Amadoda amahle ayazi ukuba bamhle, nokuba ingaba ivakala kangakanani i-IT. Ukuzingela kwabo kusekwe ebhentshini yesikolo. Bayayazi into eyenziwayo kwaye ilele kubo. Ke ngoko, uya kuncokola nobuncinci nombhiyozo webhinqa esitolo, ngelixa ulinganisa isinxibo. Kwaye uya kucinga, uyathandabuza okanye anxibelelane nje?
Ngaba i-gongal goocho ngomlinganiswa okuqhushumbe?
Kuyenzeka ukuba, kuya kufuneka uyokuchitha kumntu ongamaziyo ongaqhelekanga apho indoda yakho ifuna ngokungxamisekileyo nangoku, ecaleni kwendlela, ngaba uyazi kakuhle into engazange ayikhuphe izandla zakhe kubafazi? Aba bantu baqala ngokutshintsha komgangatho baya kuhlala bekugcina ngengxaki kwaye awuyazi ukuba leliphi indoda eya kuthi imisele ukuba impikiswano.
Uyayazi indlela yokukhathalela ukuba intloko ihamba ngamazwi akhe?
Asiyonyani yokuba indoda ayizukuqhubeka neeseshoni zakhe zokuhendela abanye, kwanasemva kokuba ube sisibini. Ukuba akazange azigaqelele ngokwakhe ngokwakhe ulwalamano oluhleleleneyo nabasetyhini, ngaba uya kuba nako ukwala abantu abazakulungela yonke into?Ngaba unemizimba encomekayo, aya ejimini kwaye akhokelela kwindlela echanekileyo yobomi?
Kuyenzeka ukuba, uzigqale iincwadi zokufunda ixesha lokuchitha ixesha kwaye uza kucwangcisa isiqulaphu ngalo lonke ixesha ubona ikomityi esandleni sakho. Ukongeza, uya kuhlala encoma izihlunu zakhe kuzo zonke iifestile zevenkile kunye nezibuko. Kwaye kwisibini sakho esihle kakhulu!
Olu luhlu luqhubeke, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba yintoni "umfanekiso", hayi ukuba nomdla wokufumana umxholo wangaphakathi wendoda, umngcipheko kwitheko elingenalo inkosana entle kunye neCinderella. Ngapha koko, iinkosana zikwintsomi yefani, sele uyazi ngayo?
Kwangelo xesha, xa usukela emva komfana, umfana olungileyo usebenza ecaleni kwakho kwitafile elandelayo. Ewe, ayisosintle kwaye unxibe ngokulula, kodwa nguye onokukwenza wonwabe! Uya kukungcangcazela kuwe, uya kuluxabisa ubudlelwane bakho kwaye uyakukhathalela. Kodwa ayikhali okanye ifashoni kuwe. Kwaye uphinde uguqulele ujonge kwindoda elungileyo elandelayo.
Ubudlelwane nekopi echanekileyo ye-orlando bloom okanye iRyan Gosling ihlala iphuma ngaphandle kwezandla kakubi. Abantu abalungileyo bayazi ukuba umbono oveliswayo uveliswa ngabafazi, kwaye uyisebenzise ngokuzithandela. Kuhlala kukho into enkulu phakathi kobukhulu kunezinye, ungadibana neeAlphonses: Bazivumela ukuba bathandane kuphela xa befumana izinto okanye ezinye izibonelelo.Akukho ngxaki iphantsi inokuba yi-narcissism, uphawu lwento entle. Indoda enjalo iya kuhlala ilinde ukuba uyonwabele kwaye ithande, kodwa ukukhupha ukuncoma kuye kwidilesi yakho kuya kuba nzima, bathi, kufanele konwabe koko bendiyijonga endiyithandayo.
Ewe, kwaye, kunjalo, iingxaki zokunyaniseka. Xa i-Dozens yamabhinqa ijongeka kabuhlungu endodeni, xa amanenekazi amaninzi anikezelwa esidlangalaleni, nangona amanenekazi amaninzi, kunzima kakhulu ukuxhathisa.
Nangona kunjalo, akunyanzelekanga ukuba ucinge ukuba amadoda amahle onke ayonakalisi kwaye i-mercenary daffodils. Ngeendlela ezininzi, indlela awayejonga ngayo yona kunye nokujikelezisa kuxhomekeke kwimfundo kusapho nakwiicaces zakho ezifunyenweyo. Umzekelo, indoda inokuva intiyo kwinkangeleko yakhe, kukhubekile ukuba abafazi babone umfanekiso omuhle kuphela, hayi iimpawu zakhe zobuqu. Okanye ukuphatha isinyithi kwinkanuko yakho, ukungaziboni iindlebe kunye nokuncwina kwesibheno.
Ngapha koko, umgangatho wobudlelwane awuxhomekekanga kwindlela indoda entle ecaleni kwakho. Mhle okanye hayi kakhulu, ayibalulekanga kangangoko uphela, ngaba kukho intembeko kwaye ukuqonda phakathi kwakho. Ke ngoko, kugxilwe kwinkangeleko yeqabane lakhe ngumqondiso wokuba ... awulunganga.
Kutheni imbonakalo yakho ibonakala ixabisekile?
Mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba ujolise kakhulu kuluvo lwabanye, kunokuba neemvakalelo zakho. Ukuba ukulungele ukunyamezelana noburharha, ukulahla kuphela ukuba nomntu ofuna wonke umntu ajikeleze, cinga ngento:
- Kutheni uziva ulungile kuphela xa umntu enqwenela?
Mhlawumbi kubunzulu bomphefumlo othandabuza kwixabiso lakho, kwaye esona siqinisekiso sibonakalayo ngokubaluleka kwakho kuwe - ithuba lokukhetha indoda entle?
- Ngaba uyathanda ukuba lixhoba?
Thanda umntu, inkangeleko yoko ilungile, kodwa imigaqo-siseko-imigaqo-ingaphezulu kakhulu, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kukhokelela ekubandezelekeni. Ukuba uyaqwalaselwa kwangaphambili ukuba kwisibini sakho uya kudlala indima yedini elikhohlakeleyo, unokufaka isicelo kwi-psychologistry.
Andifuni kuthi onke amadoda amahle agqwesile ngokupheleleyo kwaye iskram. Ndingathanda ukukutyhalela ucinga ukuba kutheni ubalulekile kunokubonakala komntu, hayi iimpawu zakhe zangaphakathi.
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