Abantu aboyikayo ukubabo bahlala beza kwixabiso lam lokuzimela. Abakwazi ukuziphathela ngokwemvelo kwaye bakhululeke kwiminqweno nakwizenzo zabo. Bacinezela iimvakalelo kwaye abazi ukuba baphulaphule njani. Zonke ezi ziimpawu zokunqongophala.
Amatayara obomi obungayinyani, ebangela uxinzelelo kwaye angenise uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Xa sicinga kwaye siziva sinye, kodwa sithetha kwaye senze enye - ngokuqinisekileyo asikhokelela kwimvisiswano yangaphakathi nolonwabo.
Abanye abantu baqhele ukunxiba imaski kangangokuba, konke ukuphulukana nabo kwaye, xa besenza izigqibo, basebenzise ikhrayitheriya zangaphandle:
- Ifashoni? Iluncedo? Ndithenga, nokuba ayikufuni kwaye ifana
- Ngaba ucinga ukuba ucinga kakuhle ngam? Ukwanelisa iimfuno zabo, ukufaka amanqaku akho
- Ngabazali okanye ngabahlobo bayavumayo? Ngaba ndiya kujongeka ndipholile emehlweni abanye? NDENZA ngaphandle kwenzondelelo enkulu, ndiyazithobela ukuba yonke into ilungile kwaye ndiyathanda
Umntu oyinyani unyanisekile ngokwakhe: Akoyiki ukujonga inyaniso kwaye athathe izibakala ezingathandekiyo ngaye.
2. Umntu onyanisekileyo uyazi kakuhle: Uyaziqonda kwaye ngokulula anokuyikhambulula iminqweno, imithetho, imigaqo kunye nobuthathaka. Uva izwi lakhe elingaphakathi aze enze into ayifunayo, kwaye akazami ukukholisa abanye.
3. Umntu wokwenene uthatha uxanduva ngobomi bakhe: unoxanduva ngezenzo zakhe kunye nemiphumo yoko, ichasa ingcinezelo ngaphandle kwaye yenza izigqibo ezisekwe kwiinkolelo kunye nemigaqo yabo. UnguMdali wobomi bakhe.
Ngokubanzi, ubunyani bumnandi bumnandi ngokwabo. Xa izenzo zethu zihambelana neengcinga zethu kunye neemvakalelo zethu, imvakalelo yokuvumelana nokuzalelwa kuzalwe ngaphakathi. Kunye nemvakalelo yokuhlonipha kunye nombulelo ngokwam ngenxa yokuba ungangcatshanga.
Ukuba ujonga uphando apho uthelekise abantu abanyanisekileyo nabanganyanisekanga, siya kubona ukuba abantu abanyanisileyo (imithombo yokugqibela yenqaku):
- wonwabile
- hlala ngokuvisisana nabanye kwaye ube nolwalamano oluqinileyo nabantu
- IQHELEKILE NGOKUGQIBELA IINJONGO
- Ukuhlangabezana kakuhle noxinzelelo
- Yiba nentsingiselo engakumbi ebomini
Ngokubanzi, ubunyani businceda ukuba sizithathele ingqalelo izigqibo ezilungileyo kwaye siye kwindlela yobomi esiya kusibangela ukuba sinekratshi kunye nolwaneliseko.
Ndiyithandile ifomula ukuba ugqirha wengqondo oqinisekileyo wengqondo uJoseph:
Ndifuna ukuxela ngokweenkcukacha malunga necandelo ngalinye lefomula emoyeni, kuba kwinqaku elinye lonke ulwazi aluhambelani. Ndiza kuchitha ngolwesihlanu ngoJanuwari 15 kwi-instagram yam nge-20,00. Yiza, ndiya kuhlanganisa:
- Kutheni siziphatha ngokungagunyaziswanga
- Yintoni eyoyikisayo ngeli nyani
- Indlela yokuba sizifunde kwaye ndifunde ukumamela ilizwi langaphakathi
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Imithombo:
- I-Kerris, M.H., golide, b.m. (2006), 'i-multicompoon yokufakwa kwengqondo yobunyani: Ithiyori kunye noPhando'
- I-Vianio, M.m., Daukantaitė, D. (2016), 'Grit kunye neenkalo ezahlukeneyo zentlalo-ntle: ubudlelwane othe ngqo nezichazayo ngokunyaniseka
- Ifer, Y., Heller, D., Persunovic, W.q.e., Galinsky, A.D. (2013), 'ubomi obulungileyo babasebenzi: Amava amandla kunye nokuqiniswa kuyandinceda ngokubhekisele kwimpilo "
- I-Wickham, R.e. (2013), 'ubunyani kumaqabane ezothando'
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