Inene phakathi kwabahlobo bakho, zihlobo, izihlobo, ohlala nabo kukho abahlekisayo, icebo, i-anecdote ithatha eyakhe indleko, iyakhutyekiswa, iphele ukuba ithethe okwethutyana. Nangona, enyanisweni, yayingeyiyo yazo zonke. Kutheni le nto isenzeka?
Izizathu zemodeli enjalo yokuziphatha inokuba yahlukile:
1. Abazali babengakhange benze izimvo, kwaye bazama ukucaphukisa umntwana, bambize ngokuba neentloni, imvakalelo yokungathandeki, yonwabele ukuhlaziswa kwakhe.
Ke, utata wabantwana abane, indoda engaphandle (umntu onyanisekileyo (umkhondo wotywala, okhumbulayo, obhetyebhetye engafaniyo yempawu zobuso) ethandwayo ukuba ihlekise ngentombi yakhe enkulu. Wazibiza kuye ngesimbo esiyivila, enza "ubuso ngobubele," waza wacela, wabuza: "Kutheni ungcolile?" Intombazana kanye isitya sehlazo. I-Wit egcwele, umntu wenza ubuhlungu. Ndimele ukuthi intombazana ikhule i-neurotic ekhulileyo, kwaseka ekuqaleni usapho, iwenza umtshato nomfana wokuqala.
2. Iingxaki ngenkangeleko (ukwaphulwa komntwana ofikisayo ye-metabolism yamafutha, kubandakanya ulusu oluguqukayo ebusweni, uSewerrhea Scalp, ukuthuka), onokutshintsha kwiMorphobia.
Nayiphi na incoko ngenkangeleko - kwaye intombazana enjalo iqala ukucinga ukuba bathetha. Emva koko inokolisa ngokubanzi - kwaye ke ibona nakuphi na ukugxekwa njengelitye kwigadi yakhe. Ukuthetha ngokugcwele, iKrivonogii kunye "mnyama" - kubonakala kuye ukuba konke malunga nayo.
3. Indoda imbi kakhulu kwaye ayiziqondi iziqhulo. Kukonke. Ukungathandeki kuye, kuya kufuneka "pashise" lonke igama.
4. Ukugxeka abazali, ootitshala, abacebisi. Ngenxa yoko, akazigxeka ngokugxeka ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye unesizathu nokuba kungafanelekanga ukuba sigwetyelwe. Ndineentloni kwaye ndiyazithemba kwimeko apho kufuneka wenze iminqweno yakho okanye into esisidenge.
5. Vakalisa unetyala. Zonke iingxaki ebomini, ngokoluvo lwalo mntu, zenzeka ngenxa yokuba ubi. Uyekele ityala ngayo yonke into. "Ke uxelele umama." Kungenxa yokuba engakwazanga ukugqiba iyunivesithi, funda isiNgesi, yiya kwilizwe elingaqhelekanga. Umntu onjalo akaphikisi, ulityala nje kwaye uhlala ezohlwayile. Akaziniki ilungelo, elikhangele. Ubomi bakhe bonke yintlawulelo yokuba 'ityala "phambi koMama.
6. Umntu ukuthathela mbi kunabanye. Kuthatha ukhathalelo lwendawo yam yokugqibela - ukuba kuyenzeka konke konke. Uninzi lulinde umntu malunga naye "enenceba" ikhathalele. Kodwa ilinde ukuthula. Ukuba awukhathali-ayifanelanga. Kwaye ukuzama ukufanele. Ufuna zonke nceda, ngokungathi, ungacaphuki mntu.
7. Uhlala uthelekisa nabanye - ngokwaso, hayi kwinkoliseko yayo. Oku kuphezulu, lo mncinci, oku kukutyibilika ... Iimvakalelo, ukubandezeleka, kodwa akukho nto iyaphucuka.
8. Idlulisela iLifa elifanayo "labantwana bakhe.
Unokuwoyisa olu phawu kuphela xa kufanelekile ngayo kwaye ulandeleleke ngononophelo.
- Nanini na xa imvakalelo yokungakhathali ivela ngequbuliso kwincoko engathathi cala, kubonakala ngathi sithetha ngawe, zibuze: "Kwenzeka ntoni ngoku? Ngawaphi amagama anobubele, imvakalo-nye, izimbo zomzimba zandibangela ukuba ndithethe ngam? Ngaba ndinobudlelwane nesihloko sencoko? "
Ewe kunjalo, ukusebenza nokuzithemba, imida yakho, ukuphucula izakhono zonxibelelwano.
Qala ngokwakho - kwaye wamkele utshintsho kwifom yozinzo ngokwengqondo, ukuzithemba kunye nokukhanya kunxibelelwano kuya kuba ziimpawu zakho ezingabonakaliyo.
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