I-boycott yenye yezona mpembelelo zinamandla zengqondo zoluntu lomntu ngamnye. Oku kungahoyi umntu omnye kukuphela kwayo, ngokucacileyo akunabuhlobo (kuyabonakala ngathi kuyabonakala kwi-fairs kunye nezikhuselo zabathathi-nxaxheba apho kuyavela khona) kunye nokusilela ukunxibelelana.
Kwenzeka njani oku esikolweni?
Umntwana omnye eklasini uveze ekuthumeleleni; Xa kusondela, abanye abantwana babonisa ukuba babuyele kuye, beyeka ukuthetha, imidlalo enomdla. Wonke umntu ubonakala ngathi uthi: "Hayi, awukho."
Kwinkwenkwe, sijongana nokuthula njengendlela yokubonakaliswa kwentiyo, iqela elikhathalayo, ukutshatyalaliswa komntu omnye.
Kwimo ye-boycott yesikolo, kuhlala kukho "inkokeli" yengqondo "kwaye kukho ukonwaba". Ingca ebuthathaka (ngokungafaniyo nabanye, abafikayo) yeyokukhokela umzuzu wokuvunywa kwamandla akhe, uvavanyo lwamandla "kunye nexhoba. Nangona kunjalo, iyayiqonda kuphela, kwaye "okuquka" musa ukubona iindima zabo ze-fethetical, ngoloyiso ngasese kwaye banxunguphele, beza neqela.
Ezi ziinkokheli ezingalunganga-aba bangobantwana abalinganiyo, okanye baphukile kwaye batshutshiswa kwiindonga ezine zendlu kunye nabo banqwenela ukuxhaphaza "ukukoyikisa"; okanye ukonakala, abazali abakhubekileyo, abavela kubuntu obuqhelekileyo. Zombini ziyinto enkulu kwixesha elizayo.
AmaNgqina omkhondo (kwaye ukuya kuthi ga kwi-95-90% yabafundi beklasi) baqonde ukuba banokuba yindima yomntwana, kwaye "ukuba awufuni ukuba kwindawo yakhe" - Joyina. Isifundo semvelo sobuntu bokuqala.
Bambalwa kuphela abantwana abaphuma kwiklasi (kwaye oko - hayi) akunakuba nenxaxheba kwi-boycott. Abayihloneli "inkokeli", badelela ukungena ngokudibeneyo, abazimeleyo kwaye bomelele (ezi zezona ziyi-12% zenu zityekele khona), okanye zithathele ingqalelo umntwana ukuba abe netyala, kodwa uthandane isohlwayo njengenkwenkwe engamkelekanga.
Yintoni ekufuneka ubanike abazali?
Ukuba umntwana uyeza ekhaya aze athi: "Mama, ndabhengezwa ukuba ndingu-fanatt," - kufuneka ubuze ukuba ngubani kanye kanye? Ngaba ayithethi kuye? Emva kweziganeko zenzekayo? Oko kukuthi, yenza umfanekiso oqhelekileyo wento eyenzekileyo.
Kuyimfuneko ukuba inkokeli yeklasi iqokelele abantwana, ngelixa ubukho babazali babadlali abaziintloko bokubaluleka, kwaye bathi:
-Sinengxaki. Kwigumbi lokufundela, i-boycott yabhengezwa ... masiyifumane. Athini amabango akho kulo mntu? Ukuba ubeka ityala-sisonke siya kufumana indlela yokulungisa imeko.
Ukuba kukho isizathu sokwenyani sokutshintsha, ofunda nabo banokuthetha-kwenza into kwaye njalo, njl.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unamahloni, kwaye nokuba ngubani omtsha kwesi sikolo, kule ndawo (usapho), ke kufuneka uyenze. Ukuya kuthi ga ngokuhla kwe-"Inkokeli" emehlweni endawo yokuhlala isikolo (kodwa bambalwa kakhulu abazali abanokwazi oku).
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana banombono ongachanekanga wezenzo zabo (ukubekwa yi "Inkokeli", kwaye xa bebanceda baqonde ukuba ijongeka njani ngokwenene - indlela abaziphatha ngayo inokutshintsha ngaphandle kwengcinezelo evela kulawulo lwesikolo.
Thatha umntwana esikolweni, ngaphandle kokuqonda, uhlala esona sigqibo singachanekanga. Ingca inokuphinda, kwaye ayiyi kufunda indlela yokwakha ulwalamano kunye noontanga.
Impazamo yootitshala abaninzi kukuba, babangela i-reverchers eyahlulahlula, bafuna 'ukwenza abahlobo "kunye nento yokuhlukunyezwa ngokubanzi. Olu luphawu lwabantu olungezobuchwephesha ekusombululeni iingxaki zesikolo; Utitshala onjalo ubonakalisa i-Supercontm "Guys, Masidlene kunye," ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba ibukeka njani ijonge ecaleni.
I-boycott yi-psychotrauma, kwaye unokuvelisa uloyiko ebantwini. Ke ngoko, kungcono ukuba ugqirha wezengqondo uza kuthetha nedini lomntwana (ngokuqinisekileyo, hayi isikolo esincedileyo esikucingelwa, kodwa ingcali esecaleni).
Kubalulekile ukubonisa umntwana wakho (Kucacile ukuba ngelo xesha lamava angaphakathi eqhwithela angazange aqaphele oku) ukuba ayingabo bonke abahlobi abathathe inxaxheba kwi-boycott. Ihlabathi lizelekile, lilungile, lilungile, kwaye kule klasi nakwezinye zazo.
Kwaye, ewe, imeko ye-boycott luphawu lokuba kwintsapho yakho ayisiyonto elungileyo ... Sithetha rhoqo nomntwana wakho, inyathelo ngenyathelo lokufunda ukomeleza.
Makhe aziqonde ngakumbi, uya kuqala ukukhangela amandla, aphuhlise ezo zixhobo ezinegalelo ekusindeni.
Ukuba ngumzali kunzima kakhulu, isiphumo esingabonakali ngokukhawuleza, kwaye kaninzi, xa umntwana sele ehlukane nawe, emva koko uya kuphawuleka njengemishini yakho kunye nezinto eziphunyeziweyo. Ukutyala imali kunye nomphefumlo kuyo - kwaye ke uya kuba nakho ukulungiselela umntu olungileyo ukuba mdala.
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