Molo. Ngothethathethwano, amadoda ahlala eze kum ongenakufumana ukhetho lokugqibela - ukuhlala ngokunxulumene nabo okanye hayi, uqhawula umfazi wakho okanye azama ukulungisa into.
Kwangelo xesha, kunjalo, bona ngokwabo abalunganga - umntu uqalile intombi, umntu uya "massage", kwaye umntu ubalekela kwimidlalo okanye utywala. Ingxaki ayisonjululwa.
Kwaye nantsi ukubonisana, bafuna ukuqonda indlela ekhawulezayo yokufumanisa ukuba umdlalo uwuxabisa umdlalo. Ngelishwa, akukho ndlela enye ukuya kwi-100% yentsimbi yokuchonga izinto ezinjalo. Umntu othile uya kwi-psychologists , umntu uye kwithamsanqa, umntu kumaqabane ebhunga uyabuza.
Kodwa ndinengcebiso endiza kukunceda ukuba ufumana ukuzithemba ngakumbi, kufanelekile ukuba iqhubeke okanye ayisebenzi. Iphantsi.
Ingcebiso yam inamacandelo aliqela. Zifunde ngononophelo.
1. Jonga umhla wokugqibela
Ukuba akukho mntu unokukunika iziqinisekiso, ke uyafuna ... unike wena. Jonga umhla wokugqibela, usakulungele kangakanani ukuzama ukuzama ukutshintsha into, ukuseka, ukubuya, njl.
Iinyanga ezintathu? Iinyanga ezi-6? 1 Unyaka, iminyaka emi-2? Beka umhla xa usithi "kakuhle, ndenze yonke into enokukwenza, ngoku kufuneka uqiniseke."
Kwaye ukuba ngelo xesha usukelo lwakho aluyi kufezekiswa (ukumisela ubudlelwane, buyisela umfazi, ukwala uqhawulo-mtshato), ndixelele into onokuthi uyenze ngayo yonke into, kwaye lixesha lokuba uqhubeke ngakumbi.
Ngexesha leli xesha, zama kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Kude kube legama azange liphume, zithembise ukuzama kakhulu kwaye usebenze ngokusebenza kwenza ubudlelwane njengoko ufuna ukuba babone. Chitha okanye ungachithi mali. Thatha inkathalo okanye uncedo. Chitha ixesha. Nika izipho. Yenza le nto uyifunayo kwaye ucinga ukuba kubalulekile.
Kwakhona, ngaphandle kokujonga ngasemva, ungathandabuzeki, ngaphandle kokuzibuza izihlandlo ezili-10, nokuba uyenza ngokuchanekileyo.
Uhlangulwe? Konke, isenzo.
3. Akukho ziqinisekiso, uya kubuya
Ndiphinde ndifune ukugxininisa ukuba akukho mntu uya kukunika iziqinisekiso kwaye uya kuthandabuza, unexhala, unovalo. Le yinto eqhelekileyo.
Into ephambili ayiyeki ukusebenza de iqashiswe. Kodwa xa iphuma, yenza isigqibo.
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Yintoni elungileyo le ndlela? Ngento yokuba wena ngokwakho wenze ikamva lakho, alixhomekeki nakubani na. Awufuni ntweni zengqondo kunye nokuphosa. Uya kuba nguMqinisekisi-utshilo kwaye wenze. Ngokwenyani, indoda enoonobumba omkhulu injalo kwaye ayizifuni izivumelwano kunye neziginitsha.
Ke unokwenza kuzo zonke iindawo-kubudlelwane, emsebenzini, kwi-hobby, kwishishini. Seta ixesha lokufikelela kwinqanaba eliphezulu, uze uhlalutye iziphumo. Kwaye uhoye amathandabuzo kule nkqubo.
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