Imyaka 20-30 irashize, ababyeyi bacu ntibabonye ibitabo kuburezi bwuburezi bwabana hamwe namahugurwa yo kumurongo abarimu naba psychologiste. Abana barezwe neza, akenshi bafite inkunga kuburyo bwo kwiyongera kubabyeyi babo. Kubwibyo, ntakintu gitangaje mubyukuri kubona indangagaciro nyinshi ababyeyi babonaga ko batasibanganye, mubyukuri ntabwo bari igitangaje, mubyukuri ntabwo bari, none batera abana bakuze niba batitaye cyane, noneho bikabije byanze bikunze.
Twebwe muri Adme.ru twibutse mu bwana kandi twibukwa ku rutonde rw'umutekano ababyeyi bakomeje gukizwa, kandi, nk'uko byagaragaye, ubusa.
1. Amashuri makuru - Ikimenyetso
"Hatabayeho Ikigo, ntubona akazi keza!" - Ninde utumvise nk'ubwangavu? Benshi muritwe twizeraga uku "kuri" none ntibyibuka aho impamyabumenyi zabo zibeshya. Abarenga 40% byabanyeshuri barangije amashuri makuru bakora mumwanya udasaba amashuri makuru: Noneho abakoresha bashishikajwe cyane nubuhanga bufatika bwabakozi kuruta kubushobozi bwabo. Abahawe impamyabumenyi barashobora gufatanwa nyuma yo guhabwa impamyabumenyi - kugirango bahure nibitekerezo, hitamo ibindi bikorwa kandi usobanukirwe niba amashuri makuru arakenewe rwose.
2. Bwuzuye - Ingwate yubuzima
Byakozwe neza ni uko mwana wasize ku isahani nyuma yo kurya. Bwuzuye byafatwaga nkikimenyetso cyubuzima. Ariko ubudasiba bubi bwashizeho ukurya ukuze ukubazwa akenshi usubiza hamwe nuburemere burenze urugero rwimyitwarire yibiribwa.
3. Mugs n'ibice bifite akamaro mu iterambere no kwagura ibisubizo. Kubarusha cyane, ibyiza
Gahunda idakenewe irashobora gukorana umwana, rwose idatanga umusanzu wo kwagura. Umwarimu uzwi cyane muri Amerika Douglas Huddad agira inama ababyeyi kutinda no guha abana umwanya wo guhishura impano zabo ubwabo, hanyuma gusa basobanura hamwe nubuyobozi bwinyongera.
4. "Basore, reka tubane!"
Iyi nteruro izwi yintwari yo kugwiza kuva mubana ntabwo yigeze ishidikanya kandi wenda yari umwe mubyabaye kenshi kuri karappo yukikije. Ariko birakwiye ko uzirikana ibyo Leopold, nubwo hantu habi, ntibishobora kuba ukuri kurugero rwanyuma. Nukuri kuvuga: "Amakimbirane, abasore, ariko n'ubwenge."
5. Ntabwo ari mubyishimo
Ndashaka cyane ko ari uko byari bimeze, ariko ubuzima butegeka imiterere yayo: amafaranga arashobora gutuma umuntu yishimye, ibyo byose byatubwiye mubana. Ababyeyi ni ngombwa kuva mumyaka mike kugirango yigishe abana gusoma no kwandika. Ibi bizabafasha gukora ingeso nziza mubuyobozi bwamafaranga no kugera ku ntsinzi yubukungu.
6. Abana bato - Inshingano Nkuru
Akenshi umugabane munini wo kwita kubana bato bahinduye ibitugu byabasaza. Ababyeyi bakoze, kandi rimwe na rimwe rimwe na rimwe ntibashobora. Abantu bake bake barabikunze kuva muri "Nyanka", kuko nagombaga gutamba imikino hamwe ninshuti no kwishimisha kubwibyo bashiki bacu bato. Abaterankunga ba psychologue bavuga ko rimwe na rimwe gusohoza inshingano zabana bishobora kuba bikubiyemo ibibazo byo mumitekerereze hagamijwe gukura: kwanga kwanga kugirana abana babo cyangwa umubano hamwe numufasha wabo wubatswe mu ishusho yita kuba muto.
7. Umugore - Umuti wa Raighth, n'umugabo - Minider
Mu myaka mirongo ishize, uruhare rw'uburinganire rwatakaje akamaro. Abagore bafite intsinzi ikomeye barubaka umwuga, kandi abagabo bicaye ku kiruhuko cyo kubyara cyangwa bakoranwa murugo.
8. Umugore afite isoni zo kutibashe gushishoza gukora umugabo - utazi gushyira intebe
Ntabwo ari kubijyanye n'amasomo y'abakozi ku ishuri byafashaga. Umuntu ntabwo yize gukora kuri mashini yo kudoda akananirwa gusobanukirwa nubwenge bwose bwo gukorana na jigsaw hamwe nicyuma cyo kugurisha. "Ntabwo yatanzwe" cyangwa "imirongo y'amaboko" - ntakibazo. Ariko, nkuko byagaragaye, ntakintu giteye ubwoba muriki: umurimo uwo ariwo wose usaba ubuhanga bwihariye urashobora gukora inzobere mu rwego rwo hejuru.
9. Nta soni nyinshi kubagore kuruta kubyara umwana nta mugabo
Na none - by. Kugeza ubu, umubyeyi urera, ntabwo atangaje umuntu uwo ari we wese kandi ntagitera iryo kwamaganwa mu myaka 30 ishize. Akenshi kubyara umwana udafite umugabo ni intambwe yumugore. Byongeye kandi, mumyaka 30 ishize, umubare wa ba serara wakuze inshuro zirenga 1.5.
10. "Ni iki gituma ubwuzu bw'inyana?!"
Ni ukubera iki mbere ko byemejwe ko kwiyumvamo ibyiyumvo, nko guhobera cyangwa guhimbaza bivuye ku mutima, bishobora kwambarwa, kunyeganyeza umwana. Bimaze, ibisekuru birenga kimwe kwabantu bakuze bisarura imbuto zo kutagira ubwuzu muri aderesi ye: ababyeyi batabonye urukundo ruhagije ntibashobora kuha abana babo.
11. Thraft ikabije
Mugihe cyo kubura byose no kubura amafaranga, abana basabye amafaranga yitonze imyenda yabo - byari bisanzwe ko babisangira kuri "parade" n '"umukoro" (ubusanzwe umukoro "(uwanyuma yahagarariwe nibintu byakundaga bashiki bacu n'abavandimwe). Umwanzuro wagaragajwe mu kutagira ubuntu bw'icyayi kiri mu mugaragu, hamwe n'amasanduku ya bombo, muri Nyakanga ntibyashoboraga gukorwaho ("ibi by'umwaka mushya"). Muri iki gihe, nta mpamvu yo kuzigama birenze: ibintu byo murugo bikenewe birashobora kugurwa, kugira ningengo yimari yoroheje.
12. Abana muri kabage basanga
Ingingo zimwe ntizigeze ziganirwaho - kubibazo baturutse, abana bafashwe kugirango basubize ko basanze muri keleti cyangwa ingurube barabazana. Ubunararibonye bwa mbere bwurubyiruko rwakunze kwakira "buhumyi": Tudafite ubumenyi buhagije bwumubiri wabo, bishingikiriza ku nama za byinshi "kumurikirwa" hamwe namakuru yavuzwe mu bitabo na firime. Ibi byose birashobora kuganisha kubisubizo bibabaje - ibibazo bifite ubuzima na psyche.
Kandi ni ayahe mategeko kuva mu bwana bwawe yabuze akamaro kuri wewe mugihe wakuze?