Iyo twumva twihebye cyangwa kwiheba, reaction yacu ntazi ubwenge irasozwa kugirango umererwe neza. Birasa naho byumvikana - kuki bababazwa niba ushobora kubyirinda? Kubwibyo, twumva umuziki kugirango dushimishe, tuhumeka neza gutuza imitsi, cyangwa tugerageza kumva impamvu twumva gutya.
Kubwamahirwe, izo mbaraga zikunze kuganisha ku bisubizo, nkuko mperutse kuganira na mugenzi wawe - umutegarugori wa CCT na Blogger Joel Marnden mu gutekereza. "Buri wese muri twe yagize uburambe igihe twatekerezaga ko dushobora gukora ikintu cyo kumva tumerewe neza." "Muri ako kanya ntibikora."
Igisubizo gishobora kuba kibi kuruta kutabona ihumure. "Ati:" Birashobora rwose gutenguha no gucogora mugihe abantu bakora cyane kugirango bagerageje guhindura amarangamutima. "Ariko ntacyo bashoboye kubikora neza." Turashobora kwizera ko "tutagira intanga ngorote, cyangwa ko tudashobora guhangana n'amarangamutima atoroshye, cyangwa ko twagumye kandi nta nzira iva muri yo."
Inzira NzizaNoneho tuvuge iki ku bundi buryo? Baho ubuzima bwiza ushoboye, hamwe nuburambe kumarangamutima dufite. Milden yagize ati: "Ku bantu benshi, ni byiza cyane kwakira amarangamutima, kandi mutagerageze kubiyobora." Ati: "Ni ngombwa cyane kwiga gufata amarangamutima yacu nyabyo, uburambe bwacu imbere no kubafata ukundi kugirango tubone ibitekerezo byacu nibikorwa byacu kubintu byingenzi kandi bitanga umusaruro."
"Intsinzi" hejuru y'impuruza no kwiheba ntibisobanura ko tuzakuraho inararibonye. Minen yarambwiye ati "amarangamutima akomeye ni igice cy'ubuzima." - Tuzarwana. Ati: "Tuzagira ibihe byuburakari, kwicira urubanza, guhangayika numubabaro. Ibyo bintu bizabaho, bazatubona, kandi ntitugomba kubakunda. " Kubwibyo, aho kugerageza gukuraho ayo marangamutima, turashobora kubyanga mwijambo ryanyuma. Kandi ubu buryo bwo kubaho nkuko dushaka.
Nakunze kumva abantu bavuga ko ubwo buryo budashoboka kandi ko abahanga mu by'imitekerereze batumva icyo ari bwo bwo guhangana n'amaganya cyangwa kwiheba. Ariko meennden kandi njye nabona ko uburyo duha abandi ari ingirakamaro - kandi birakenewe kuri twe.
Minden yazanye urugero rwe rwo gukoresha ingamba zimyitwarire yo gusubira muri siporo - "gushiraho impuruza, biyemeje. Niba nkora umuntu umwe ukurura, hanyuma uve muri siporo, ni byiza. Hari icyo nakoze. Kandi ntiwumve, nkimara gutangira gukora buri gihe, byanyoroheye, kandi igihe natangiraga kubitegereza amatsiko. "
Nzi ko namenye impengamiro yanjye yo kwibanda kumarangamutima yanjye kandi nkabura mu gutabaza, kwiheba cyangwa reaction idahwitse kubibazo. Igihe nakoraga indwara idakira hashize imyaka myinshi, ziteje kwiheba, namaze umwanya munini n'imbaraga, ngerageza kumva impamvu numva nshaka ibyo. Mu nzira yibi, naretse kubaho neza. Igice cyo gukira kwanjye kwaturutse kumugambi wo kubaho ubu bishoboka, ndetse no kubuza.
Wibuke ko kwibanda mubikorwa bidasobanura ko ibyiyumvo byacu ntacyo bitwaye cyangwa ko tugomba kuba byiza kuri twe ubwacu. Reka nkureho indishyi zidafite akamaro kurwanya amarangamutima aremereye - iki nikimwe mubintu byubumuntu dushobora kwikorera wenyine. Kandi, nkuko dutekereza, byose bitangirira kuri bike mugihe hari impinduka mumyitwarire. Yavuze ati: "Reka turebe niba ushobora kwiyemeza gukora impinduka nto mu gihe runaka". Noneho buhoro buhoro utezimbere iterambere ryawe.
Imyitozo 12 ikurikira yibanze ku gikorwa nigisubizo cyo kuvura imyitwarire yo kutamenya, intego-zishingiye ku bumenyi (CCT), uburyo bwagaragaye cyane mu micungire yo gucunga amaganya no kwiheba. Hitamo imwe kugirango ubishyire mubikorwa buri munsi kugirango ugere kubisubizo byiza; Urukurikirane nurufunguzo. (Icyitonderwa: Iyi myitozo ihujwe na kpt igorofa, ibitekerezo no guhangayika.)
- Ibaze intego. Ikigereranyo no kwiheba akenshi kuzuza ibitekerezo byacu ibibazo nibibazo byo kunanirwa, nkaho turi abahohotewe. Tangira guhindura ibintu. Mugitondo, ikintu cya mbere wahisemo umunsi ufite. Ni ibihe bitekerezo uzahinga? Nigute ushobora kubona umunezero? Ni nde uzakunda? Uzabyifatamo ute, guhura ningorane? Uri Umwanditsi w'ubuzima bwe. Hitamo ko ukwiye imbaraga zawe no kwitabwaho.
- Guhangayikishwa cyangwa gukemura ibibazo. Clortia irasubirwamo kandi idatanga umusaruro, ariko birashoboka ko urimo gukora ibibazo. Igisubizo nyacyo cyibibazo, kubinyuranye, ninzira igamije kugirango abone ibisubizo. Iyo uhangayitse, menya niba hari ikibazo nyacyo gikeneye gukemurwa, cyangwa ubwenge bwawe umuyaga wacyo. Noneho ohereza imbaraga zawe zo mumutwe kubibazo bitanga umusaruro.
- Shakisha imbaraga. Iyo wifashe ku byiringiro byumunsi woroshye, uhamye, hindura ibitekerezo byawe uko ubyitwaramo. Mbwira: "Reka mbone imbaraga zo guhangana n'ikibazo icyo ari cyo cyose. Reka mbone ubutwari bwo guhura nibintu byose bizahurira munzira yanjye. Reka mbone umunezero mubyo nkora byose. " Mugihe uhanganye nabo, biterwa nawe gusa.
- Menya ubuzima bwawe bwiza. Iyo ushaka kwirinda ikintu cyose kubera guhangayika, ibaze nawe ubuzima wifuza kubaho. Bikaba biterwa no gutinya no kuguruka? Ko uzakitwara nabi, nubwo bivuze ko uzabura ibyo utabyitayeho? Cyangwa ubuzima, urugamba rwuzuye nubwoba no kudakora kugirango ukore icyingenzi kuri wewe? Gushishikariza uyu munsi gukora igikorwa kimwe kizakuzanira umunezero mugihe kizaza.
- Icara kuri branca. Amarangamutima ni abagenzi bashya baguhatira kwirinda ibintu byose bigutera guhangayika cyangwa bisa nkibikabije. Icyitonderwa! Ntukajyeyo! Dore! Tekereza uyu munsi, waba ushaka kwirinda ibyiyumvo bigoye ari ngombwa mubuzima bwawe. Hari ikintu cyingenzi kuri wewe kuruta guhumurizwa mumarangamutima? Niba aribyo, hindura ubuzima bwawe muriki cyerekezo, kandi amarangamutima yawe aguherekeze.
- Urukundo rutsinda ubwoba. Urukundo n'ubwoba ni imbaraga zinyuranye: umuntu akura, undi yica. Iyo ukumva uhangayitse cyangwa wihebye nonaha, ibaze uti: "Nigute nshobora kwerekana urukundo nkunda undi?" Shakisha umwanya wo gusohoza ibyifuzo byabakukiraga, ndetse no muburyo nk'ubwo badategereje. Wibande ku gikorwa cyurukundo, kandi ntutegereze kumva urukundo, urebe uko bigenda. Reka urukundo rube umuti utinya.
- Hindura ingingo y'ibiganiro. Ikigereranyo no kwiheba ni hagati yo kubitaho, biduhatira kubaza ibibazo nka: "Kuki numva ncitse intege? Nigute nshobora guhagarika guhangayika? " Iyo uyumunsi uhuye nibibazo byamarangamutima, ibaze ikindi kibazo: "Ni uwuhe murimo ukeneye kwitabwaho ubu?" Noneho wereke imbaraga zawe kugirango ukore igikwiye gukorwa, kureka amarangamutima yawe aguma inyuma.
- Reba mumaso yawe n'ubwoba bwawe. Nibitera kutamererwa neza, urashimangira ubwoba bwawe no kugabanya isi yawe. Inzira nziza yo guca intege ubwoba ntibusanzwe ni uhuye buhoro buhoro imbonankubone. Icyitonderwa uyu munsi ku bimenyetso byo kunyereza, nko kwimura umurimo utazi gukora, cyangwa inzira ndende mugihe utwaye imodoka, kuko izakoresha imodoka igutera ubwoba. Hitamo igikorwa kimwe ushobora gufata uyu munsi kugirango ushire ushize amanga unyuze mubwoba.
- Gutsinda gutebya. Gushiraho kurutonde rwawe birashobora gutera guhangayika, guhangayika no kwiheba. Hitamo ibyo wasubitswe, hanyuma ukore intambwe nto yambere uyumunsi. Kurugero, gukusanya gusa imyenda yose yanduye niba ukeneye gukaraba. Intangiriro yakazi yongera umwuka, igabanya amaganya no korohereza akazi kumurimo.
- Ongera igihe cyo kuguma mu kirere gifunguye. Kumena kamere, nkuko ubizi, bigabanya amaganya kandi byongera umwuka. Ishyireho intego uyumunsi bishoboka muburyo bwiza. Shakisha urwitwazo rwo kujya hanze, byibuze kumasegonda make. Jya mu rugendo rugufi. Fungura ubutumwa uhereye hanze. Kurimbuka hanze. Reba ibidukikije by'ijuru, urumuri, ibimera n'inyoni. Umva nshimishijwe no gutekereza kuri kamere. Wibande kubunararibonye ubwacyo, kandi ntukumve niba igufasha kumva umerewe neza.
- Huza ingeso nziza. Ukuri kubandi ninzira nziza yo kuturangaza ibitekerezo byacu kubitangazarulamu. Iyo ubonye ko bakomereje kumarangamutima akomeye muri iki gihe, tekereza ku kintu cyiza ushobora gukorera umuntu uzi, yaba umuntu ukunda cyangwa uwo tuziranye. Ni iki kizashushanya? Emera umwuka uteye ubwoba cyangwa wihebye kuba imbarutso kubikorwa byiza, nubwo bari batunguranye cyangwa nibidakwiye.
- Nshobora gufungura ibi? Amarangamutima meza akunze gutuma turwanya gusoza gusoza no kuvuga "oya" ibibera. Iyo uhuye nikintu kitoroshye muri iki gihe, ibaze uti: "Nshobora gufungura? Niteguye kugumana n'ibyamubayeho? " Ikiruhuko kinini gishobora kuboneka mugihe duhamye ubutwari kandi duhura nubuzima bwicyo.
Ijambo rimwe ryanyuma - Kurikiza impengamiro yo gusubika imanza mugihe kinini imbaraga zidagupfukirana. Milden agira ati: "Buri gihe ndagira inama yo kudategereza kugeza igihe ufite imbaraga zo gukora ibyo witayeho." - Ntabwo bizaba aribyo ushaka gukora. Kubwibyo, ahubwo, kora uko byagenda kose, hanyuma urebe uko bigenda. "
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