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Ndili ndi mnzanga amene monya monya modzitama amalengeza kuti akufuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa chilichonse. Amanyadira nazo. Ngati china chake mtsogolo mwake chikuwoneka "cholakwika", chimakhala chikuyesera kukonza. Zimapangitsa miyezo yapamwamba yokhudza zomwe akuwona kuti ndizovomerezeka kwa ena komanso zokhazokha. Chifukwa cha izi, amapambana. Koma chifukwa cha izi, imakumana ndi mavuto.
Amadziwa izi mwangozi, koma, malinga ndi iye, izi ndichifukwa choti akufuna kukhala bwino. Ndipo pamene iye ndi wankhanza ndi ena, amanena zomwe zimachita ndi chikondi. Amafuna kuti anthu omwe alibe chidwi naye, anali opambana m'moyo.
Koma m'mbali zonse, kwa munthu amene amalankhula za kufunika kotsatira ungwiro, bla, bla, ali ndi zochuluka.
Akugwira ntchito pamagawo kwa miyezi, osawawonetsa kwa aliyense, chifukwa sakadatha ", ndiye kuti, wopanda ungwiro. Zotsatira zake, amakana pafupifupi aliyense wa iwo, chifukwa panthawi inayake amawona kuti pulojekiti inayo siyinakhale ngati anali wokoma mtima.
Amadzitcha yekha kwa milungu ingapo, miyezi ngakhale kwa zaka kapena chifukwa chakuti sanathetse kumapeto, kapena kukhala wopusa kwambiri kuti ayambitse ntchito "yosapembedza. Zaka za moyo wake udadutsa moyenera zolinga, malingaliro ndi chitukuko, koma popanda chimodzi.
Izi ndi zomwe munthu wokonda kuchita mwangwiro watsogolera.
Zochita Paradonto
Mvetsetsani molondola, sindikukulimbikitsani kuti muchepetse. " M'malo mwake, ndikuganiza kuti kufuna kuchita zinthu mwaluso kuli ndi moyo wawo muukadaulo komanso moyo wawo wonse (zoposa izi pambuyo pake).Koma ndizoseketsa kuti oganiza kuti aziganiza nthawi zonse amawopa anthu omwe akuwonetsa kuti ali ndi vuto. Izi zimachitika makamaka chifukwa amaganizira za chilichonse, ndipo ngati ndi choncho, chifukwa chiyani malangizo awo? Izi ndi zotsatira zoyipa za miyezo yawo yopambana: Palibe amene ayenera kumumvera. Chifukwa chake, munthu wosankha akulimbana yekha.
Mnzangayo atamuuza kuti adapita kukathamangitsidwa pa bizinesi yake pano, koma adapanga zifukwa zomveka zomwe sizikugwira ntchito komanso "zonyansa" sizikuvomerezeka . Kotero zidapita miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. Ndipo palibe chomwe chidachitika.
Woyambitsa Amazon Jeff Bezos adalemba kale kuti alembe kalata yomwe, m'malingaliro mwake, zisankho zoyenera zimalandiridwa pomwe munthu ali ndi zaka 70%. Malinga ndi iye, ngati ndizochepera 70%, ndiye kuti mwina mungasankhe molakwika. Koma ngati ali oposa 70%, mumakhala ndi nthawi yochitira zinthu zina zomwe sizingasinthe.
"Lamulo la 70%" la mwayi limagwiranso ntchito pazinthu zambiri. Nthawi zina zimakhala bwino kukhazikitsa ntchitoyi ikakonzeka ndi 70%. Polemba zochitikazo, ndimatumiza mkonzi wokonzedwa akakhala 70% amagwirizana ndi zomwe ndikufuna kunena.
Mfundo yofunika ndikuti mutha kudzaza 30% pambuyo pake. Koma 100% sangakhale kudikirira.
Sinthani ndi zoopsa zopepuka
Ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti si akatswiri onse amene angwiro ali ofanana.
Palibe cholakwika kupatula kukhazikitsa miyezo yapamwamba komanso zolinga zapamwamba. Muyenera kugwira ntchito kwambiri, muyenera kuyesetsa kuchita zomwe mukufuna m'moyo wanu.
Koma pali kusiyana pakati pa kungosinthasintha - kulakalaka ungwiro kuzindikira kuti zabwino sikungatheke - ndi poizoni - chikhumbo cha ungwiro ndi zomwe zimapangitsa chilichonse kukhala chocheperako.
Chifukwa chake quissism ndi mitundu ingapo.
Kufuna kuchita bwino
Ena mwangwiro amatsatira mfundo zawo (zopusa) zapamwamba.Sipakanakhala cholakwika ndi kuti ngati adziwa momwe angakhazikitsire machitidwe awo, pamene zinthu sizikuchitika pa dongosolo, koma - ndipo sichidzadabwitsidwa - sadzadabwa. Amawira ngati Vesuvius pamoto. Sangachotse zolakwa zokhumudwitsa, nthawi zina ngakhale zaka kapena zaka makumi angapo atazipanga. Amadzidzudzula okha pafupifupi zonse zomwe amachita.
Tidzawatcha kuti "Angwiro adadziyankhula okha."
Kupepuka
Ambiri angwiro amatsatira dongosolo lalikulu kwambiri la ena. Ndipo sizingakhale zoyipa kwambiri ngati atagwiritsa ntchito miyezo yawo yapamwamba kuti alimbikitse anthu kuchita zinthu zabwinoko, ndipo "zabwinoko" zingakhale zokwanira.
Koma kachiwiri, sichoncho. Amaganiza zodabwitsa, zosatheka kuti palibe amene angakuchitikireni.
Kumbukirani abwana anu omwe achimwa ndi micromemage ndipo omwe mumamva okha zomwe ndidabayidwa, zomwe ndimakambirana zomwe ndimakambirana, kapena za munthu wanu amene amafuna kumuuza '' Kuonetsetsa kuti mutha kukukhulupirirani "(Werengani:" Ndiyenera kudziwa ngati mungakwanitse kukhala ndi chikhalidwe chabwino ").
Tidzawatcha kuti "akatswiri ofuna kuchita ungwiro amalankhula ndi ena."
Kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa
Ndipo pali angwiro omwe amakhulupirira kuti anthu ena amawathandiza kwambiri.Anthuwa nthawi zambiri amakhala mu chisokonezo. Sangasankhe chochita ndi moyo wawo, chifukwa sadziwa momwe angayamikirire ndi ena ngati lingaliro silikulondola. Amamva kutsutsidwa m'mitu yawo, koma osachokera kwa iwo amene amazungulira anthu, ndikukhulupirira kuti salimbikitsa zomwe zomwe adazipereka.
Nthawi zambiri anthuwa amatsutsana ndi kusowa kwawo. N'chifukwa Chiyani Zokumana nazo, Ngati Ndizothekabe Kuzindikira? Tidzawatcha kuti "Angwiro angwiro omwe adapita pagulu."
Ungwiro m'dziko lopanda ungwiro
Zachidziwikire, mitundu itatu iyi yangwiro yamasala. Kusamala konse kumasochera nthawi zambiri kumatsatira miyezo yapamwamba kwambiri modabwitsa kwambiri komanso mogwirizana ndi ena. Achangu angwiro omwe ankakonda kucheza nawo akhoza kuyesa kukakamiza anthu awo ku dziko lonse lapansi. Njira imodzi kapena ina, zonunkhira za terry nthawi zambiri zimakhala ndi chikhalidwe chimodzi chomwe ali nthawi zambiri.
Iliyonse yazinthu zongofuna kuchita ungwiro ndi chizolowezi chobisika kuti mugwiritse ntchito malingaliro oyerekeza angwiro kwa iwo eni kapena wina aliyense.
- Achangu angwiro omwe amapita kwa iwo okha kuti agwirizane ndi malingaliro awo kwa iwo okha.
- Ochita zinthu moyang'anizana ndi ena amalimbikitsa malingaliro awo kwa anthu ndi dziko lapansi.
- Achangu angwiro omwe ankapita kwa anthu kutsanzikana nawo, m'malingaliro awo, amadziwika kuti "abwino" pagulu.
Vutoli limachitika pamene "ungwiro" ndi zenizeni sizigwirizana.
Ndimabwerezanso: palibe choyipa pamakhalidwe apamwamba.
Koma poika miyezo yapamwamba iyi kwa inu kapena ina popanda malo osungitsa ndi kukayikira kwanu, chilichonse ndi choyipa. Ochita zinthu mwakufuna kwawo amasangalala mtundu wakuda komanso wachiyero "onse kapena ayi": Mukulephera, kapena kuchita bwino. Mwina wapatsidwa, kapena wotayika, adachita china kapena cholondola kapena cholakwika.
Moyo weniweni umachitika m'mawu a imvi pakati pa zakuda ndi zoyera. Ambiri amafala poti oganiza bwino amangofuna dziko lapansi (iwowo, anthu mmenemo, ndi zina) anali otsimikiza, koma satha kumvetsetsa zomwe ali nazo.
Kuchita helo kufuna kwanu
Mwina njira yosavuta yothanirana ndi vuto lolankhula ndi inu. Mamitundu awa a akatswiri angwiro amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi ulamuliro woyenera okha ndi malo awo oyandikana nawo, chifukwa chake, amakhulupirira kuti atha kusintha okha / kapena malo ozungulira.Kunena izi, ndikukuwuzani malingaliro anga momwe mungachotsere mitundu iwiri ya kufuna ungwiro.
Momwe mungathanirane ndi vuto lililonse lomwe lalankhulidwa
Muyenera kuphunzira kudzichita mosavuta. Ndikudziwa kuti pafupifupi anthu pafupifupi eyiti miliyoni akukuwuzani kale izi, koma ndimandimvera kumapeto.
Mosiyana ndi osiyiratu zofooka ena, mutha kumva za anthu omwe amathandizira komanso kulimbikitsa anzawo komanso abale awo. Akalakwitsa kapena kuchita zinthu zopusa, simukuwaona ndipo musanene kuti ndi opusa.
Mumawachitira chifundo. Mukumvetsa kuti anthu amalakwitsa kotero kuti ali ndi cholinga chabwino kwambiri kuti pali chisokonezo chambiri komanso mwayi wambiri m'moyo, ndipo palibe aliyense wa ife angasinthe izi. Zimawathandiza kumva bwino. Zimapangitsa kuti akhale otetezeka komanso otetezeka. Amawona kuti ali ndi chithandizo chanu ndikuti zonse zikhala bwino, ngakhale sizili zangwiro.
Kwa inu zitha kukhala zodabwitsa, koma mutha kuchita zonse zomwezo.
Yesani. Dzichitireni nokha monga bwenzi. Ingoganizirani kuti cholakwika chomwe chimakupangirani ndi vuto la mnzake wapamtima kapena wachibale. Kodi mungawauze chiyani? Kodi mungawamve chiyani? Ndipo tsopano chitani chimodzimodzi polumikizana ndi inu.
Momwe Mungathanirane ndi Kufuna Kukonda Ena
Tiyenera kuvomereza kuti miyezo yanu yosatheka siyikulolani kuti mumvepo zonse ndi chikondi chomwe chitha kupereka maubale.Vomerezani kuti ndinu opanda ungwiro. Moona mtima, mumakwera nthawi zonse, ndipo anthu okuzungulirani akupirira ndikukhululuka - onse, ndi enawo simunaphunzirebe.
Momwe Mungathane ndi Kuchita Mwachangu Kufikira Anthu
Okonda aliyense wamtunduwu amadzimva kuti alibe thandizo. Aliyense akufuna kuwapeza, kuyambitsa ziyembekezo zosatheka ndikudzudzula mphuno. Amawona kudzikuza ndi kutsutsidwa m'mawu omwe amafala kwambiri. Amayembekezera zovuta zilizonse. Nthawi zonse amasokonezeka ndikukhulupirira kuti sakonda aliyense.
Ngati mwaphunzira nokha mu izi, ndiye kuti ndikufuna kukutsutsani! Kuyambira nthawi imeneyi, tengani chilichonse pazinthu zomwe zimachitika m'moyo wanu. Chilichonse. Izi ndi zomwe ndimatcha "Vera yoyamba".
Musanayambe kuyankhula: "Koma, sindiri wolakwa kwenikweni kuti dziko lapansi ndi chiyani! Kodi Ndingatani Kuti Ndikhale Ndi Udindo Wotere? !?! " Kumbukirani kuti kutenga udindo kwa china chake sichinthu chomwecho chomwe muyenera kudziimba mlandu.
Wofunafuna kufuna kuti azikhala mumsampha wa zomwe ndimatcha "nsembe". Mumadzisintha kwa wozunzidwa wa anthu ena chifukwa mwanjira imeneyi amamva kuti ndiofunika.
Malingaliro okhudzidwa ndi omwe amakupatsani mwayi wina wapadera komanso wapadera. Chifukwa chake, anthu omwe amabwera nthawi zonse ndi njira zomwe zimachitidwira zomwe zimachitidwira zikuyenera kuti muzimva zapadera komanso zofunika, ngakhale zili zodzivulaza.
Ungwiro ndi wopanda ungwiro
Yankho lomaliza la vutoli siliyenera kuchotsa ungwiro, koma kukonzedwa kumvetsetsa kwanu kwa "zabwino."Ungwiro suyenera kukhala zotsatirapo zake. Ungwiro ukhoza kukhala njira. Ungwiro ukhoza kukhala chinthu chosintha, osati kufunika kochita chilichonse bwino. Yesetsani kukhala wamkulu. Yesetsani kukhala abwino. Yesetsani ngakhale ku ungwiro.
Koma mvetsani: zomwe muli nazo m'mutu mwanu ndi masomphenya abwino kwambiri momwe zonse ziyenera kupangidwira, si ungwiro. Ungwiro ndi njira yothetsera kupanda ungwiro. Kufunafuna kena kake, kutsutsa, kulephera, kenako ndikuyesetsa kukonza. Ichi ndi mtundu watsopano, wopanda ungwiro. Ili ndi mtundu wa magwiridwe antchito. Kuti sizikukuthamangitsani misala kapena anthu okuzungulirani.
Ndipo ndikulakalaka kunena kuti iyi ndi njira yabwino yopezera ungwiro.
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