"Girman gilashi na abubuwan fashewa" cikin yara, ko kadan game da zalunci yara

Rashin zalunci a cikin yara ƙanana hali ne ..

A cikin kowane ƙaramin yaro, da yaron, da kuma yarinyar abubuwa, ko da kunnukai ɗari biyu na wakar yara masu ban tsoro? - Bari muyi magana game da yadda wannan "fashewar" yana nuna hali a cikin yara yana da shekara 1-3, wato baƙin ciki tsufa a wannan zamanin.

Yara da tsokanar zalunci.

Rashin zalunci a cikin yara ƙanana ne, cajin da abin da yake da ikonta da abun ciki wanda zai iya lalata wani abu, kuma tare da juyawa da kyau shi ma zai iya haifar da wani abu da kuma kawo fa'idodi da yara, da kuma iyaye.

Mu, kasancewa manyaƙan mutane, zamu iya cewa: Ina fushi, haushi, Ina so in karya shi / shi, ya lalace - waccan fahimta kuma in fahimta wane yanayi yake fuskanta. Da kuma tayar da juna, muna sha wasu ka'idodi, ka'idoji da siffofin bayyanar motsin zuciyarmu, jihohi.

Da gogaggen ji zamu iya bayyana a wani irin aiki. Ko a'a don bayyana, amma kawai bincika kanku. Misali, suruka yana da wuyar kirkiro da dangantaka da suruki, ba makawa mace ce ta al'ada za ta cutar da cutar da mijin mama. Da alama 'yar da za ta iya "narkewa" hatsarsa, ya ba da jiha a cikin kalmomi, zanga-zangar, fada game da wannan budurwa, gunaguni ga mijinta. A cikin yara kanana, wannan tsari na fushi da fushi ya fi wahala, har yanzu ba za a iya fahimtar yanayin su ba, ba za a iya kiranta abin da suke ji a cikin shekaru 1-1.5. Idan jariri mai shekaru biyu suka buga gado, cikin martani, zai iya buga ta ƙasa saboda ta sa shi zafi

Takaici bayan shekara abin amsawa ne ga wasu yanayi, yanayi, abubuwa, yana canzawa. Bayan shekara guda, aikin aiki na haɓaka zaman lafiya, mutane, hulɗa da lambobin sadarwa suna farawa. Wani abu ya rigaya ya yi kyau. Ya zama da za a yi - tattara dala, farashi da ƙwararrun bi, amma akwatin da kuke so ba zai iya aiki ba. Kuma a sakamakon sakamako - haushi, watsar da wannan akwatin da ba lallai ba.

5 mahimmanci idan:

1. Idan jariri bai yi aiki da wani abu ba (sutura, yayi hulɗa da abin wasa, tuƙi cokali mai yatsa) kuma ya fara yin fushi a wannan lokacin, kada ku ɗauki batun fushi, amma don bayarwa Taimako kuma nuna shi mafi kyau kuma mafi dacewa ya yi. Nuna kawai, amma kada ku yi wa yaro. Kuma a nan gaba don zama kusa da tallafi.
2. Idan ka ga cewa yayin aiwatar da wasan na motsi, ana yale yaro, yana ba ka damar jefa ku a wasan a wasan a wasan, kuyi dariya, kuyi watsi da wasan - ku faɗi cewa ba mu wasa don haka ba, ku faɗi cewa ba mu wasa ba Zuwa nau'in aiki mai zurfi (kerawa, aiki tare da babban abu, ɗakewa wasa).
3. Idan jaririn ya yi fushi, fushi da ayyukanku, yi ƙoƙarin kada kuyi dariya, kada ku ƙara haifar da shi, ya taimaka masa canzawa zuwa wasan. Misali, dan shekaru biyu yana cikin dafa abinci kuma yana buƙatar cookies daga mama. Kuma lokaci zuwa abincin rana ya kasance kadan. A cikin amsa ga mahaifiyar mahaifiya, ya fara fushi. Zai fi kyau a bayar da abin da ba tsammani ga yaro a wancan lokacin (don taimakawa tsaftace kwararan fitila, saka guda biyu kuma nuna yadda zaku iya canza croup da t.).
4. Idan yaron fushi yana tare da wani mai kira, wanda ya faru, ya fara jefa yara a wannan lokacin don muryar da yanayin yaran sai ka ce: "Na fahimta, kana bukatar ka kwantar da hankali. " Kuma a sa'an nan yi ƙoƙarin gano dalilin fushi. Idan yaron ya tura shi ya amsa, ya kicks, ya fi dacewa ka bar yaron ɗan lokaci mai lafiya kuma ka fita zuwa cikin ɗakin na gaba kuma ya fita zuwa cikin yaran da ya zama mai nutsuwa. Kuma Ku yabe shi a wannan lokacin.
5. Idan mutum daga iyaye ko ƙauna waɗanda ke ba da izinin hukunci na jiki game da yaro, to, ba shi da mahimmanci don yin mamakin yadda ake tsaftacewa da kuma maimaita irin ayyukan ko yara. Manyan yara waɗanda aka haifa da taimakon hukuncin ta jiki, galibi suna bayyana rashin amincewa, ta amfani da cewa babba zai buga ƙaramin (saboda maya da baba da baba ne suka ba da irin wannan misalin.

"Makullin" zuwa raguwa a cikin zalunci yara.

Don rage matakin tsokanar zalunci a cikin yara shekaru 1-2, za a sami hanyoyin caca da ke ƙarƙashin kowane mahaifa kuma ba sa buƙatar ƙwarewa ta musamman.

- "Grozny", "ko yadda za a yi tunani) matashin kai, pear ko ball (pearballable) don tsokana ko guduma, biyu, biyu. Muna amfani da su don fita tsokanar zalunci da kuma tattara tashin hankali a cikin yara. Amma a cikin wani hali ba ma bayar da guduma guduma don doke kayan wanki, da kuma a wasan wani daga dangi da yara. Kawai batutuwa marasa rai. Yawancin lokaci irin wannan splarment ayyukan da kyau a kan yaro kuma ya zama nutsuwa.

- takarda talakawa ko jarida. Suna iya tsaga su, su sanya wasu daga cikinsu daga cikinsu kuma suka jefa wadannan lpums a cikin kwande, mirgine. Ya kamata a yi bayanin cewa yana yiwuwa a rushe shi, da kuma ƙoƙarin karya littattafan don yin gargadi da bayyana abin da za a yi mugunta. Za'a iya amfani da guda na takarda mai tsage don kayan sana'a. Misali, buga a firintar ko zana hoton tsuntsaye na tsuntsu ko kayan kwalliya, shafa akwatin da ya dace, da kananan takarda waɗanda ke kunkuntar yaron, yayyafa ko gluvit da sassa. Kuma bayan yabo ɗan don hoto mai ban mamaki.

- kunna fushi a wasan. Kuna iya kunna wasa tare da Dols da kayan wasa na yaro, inda "mugunta Bear", wanda ya yi rauni da laifin da aka yi laifi, ya bayyana a kan rubutun. Kuma yayin aikin, yi bayani cewa ya zo da mugunta, kamar yadda yake ciwo ga wasu haruffa, kamar yadda ba sa son yin wasa da kuma yadda hakan ta zama mai kyau, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce, kuma nadama ce.

- Haƙiƙa wata hanya ce mai nasara don fitar da yawan zalunci yara, rashin fahimta da haushi. Dooline yana da amfani, kullu mai gishiri, taro don yin zane-zanen - duk waɗannan kayan ban mamaki don bayyana motsin zuciyarmu da jihohi, gami da korau. Lepim, tare da yaron, yanayi, mai shinge sannan kuma yana bayar da jariri don yin ado da shi, ƙara cikakkun bayanai, maida, maida.

- Ruwa mai kyau ne mai kyau. Amfani da wannan hanyar, yana da mahimmanci idan aka yi la'akari da tsari a cikin gida da kuma ikon yin wasa da ruwa ba tare da sakamako ba a cikin hanyar manyan puddles da rigar ruwa. Zai fi kyau a yi shi a cikin gidan wanka a cikin kwanonin mai farin ciki. Kuna iya ba da yaro don buga kumfa kumfa, ya mamaye ruwa daga wannan jirgin zuwa cikin wani, daga gyaran zuwa wani.

Yaron a wannan zamani mafi yawanci yana haifar da azumi ba tare da sani ba. Ya mai da kansa sosai, jikinsa da kewayen mutane. Kuma da al'adarin da aka fahimta ta hanyar manya "cuckuco-biting" a gare shi zai iya zama akan wasan tare da ƙwallo, wanda lokacin da muke hulɗa da su zama mirgina, cire da tsalle-tsalle. Amma wannan baya nufin irin wannan yunƙurin yin jaririn ba su da jin daɗin sadarwa.

Mataki 1. Kada a maimaita ayyukan ɗan yaron a cikin mayar da martani, yi ƙoƙarin kada kuyi dariya kuma kada kuyi murmushi cikin amsa;

Mataki na 2. Don yin magana kowane lokaci yaro da ke lura, a hankali - "Don haka yi mummunan", "don haka yi mummunan", "inna / baba / baba rauni (bo-b)";

Mataki 3. A cikin mayar da martani "bari muyi kyau a Paparoma / inna" kuma ya nuna yadda zaku iya bugun jini a hannun ƙaunataccen, sumbata;

Mataki na 4. Yi aiki da wata dabara ta halayya tare da duk waɗanda ke tare da yaron, idan an kiyaye shi, ci gaba da ba a so lokacin da mahaifiya take murmushi ko kuma kakannin kakanninsu suna murmushi ko kuma kakaninsu hali.

Yana dan shekara biyu, tashin hankali da fushi da fushi galibi suna da dangantakar haramcin. Ya kamata a sami ba ya dakatar 20, 40 ko fiye. Dole ne a sami iyaka: ba zai yiwu ba, saboda "mai raɗaɗi" ko "haɗari". Kuna iya ƙara jumla "Ay-Ah", "Chi Chi", wanda zai yi gargadin yaron gaba cewa yana yin wani kuskure. Ga yara bayan da shekaru 1.5, ya zama mahimmanci don muryar motsin zuciyarsa da jihohinsa - "kuna fushi", "ba ku son abin da kuka tura shi" kuma mai ba da labari a cikin tsari " Na fahimce ku "," Bari muyi kokarin gyara tare, "idan ka yi hakan, zai zama ...". Kuma shi ma wajibi ne don yin bayyananniyar samuwar iyakokin iyakokin da aka yarda: idan mahaifiyar ta ce "A'a", sai ya yi ihu, sai ya yi ihu, sai ku yi ihu, don cimma abin da ake so ba zai yiwu ba.

Mataki na 1. A daidai lokacin da yaron ya jefa wasan wasan yara ta gaba cikin fushi, ya sauka zuwa matakin idanunsa, don haka ya ce: haka ma yi mummunan aiki. Ba mu wasa da kayan wasa ba. Kuma a sa'an nan yi kokarin canzawa, kuma a nan gaba ya zama dole a ba da shawara don ba da shawarar yin ninka kayan wutan. Idan yaron ya ƙi yin wannan, yi amfani da dabarun wasan, kamar su saka abin wasan yara zuwa hannu kuma ku nemi abin wasa don taimakawa mama sannan yabo. Ko kuma ba ɗaya daga cikin yaran yara da aka watsa wa yaro a hannu kuma a wasan game da kishiyar kishiyar da ke bayarwa yana zuwa da sauri zuwa kwandon tare da kayan wasa. A cikin irin wannan yanayin, sakamakon yana da mahimmanci: don haka aƙalla ɗan saman yaron da yaron da kansa ya sanya a wuri.

Mataki 2. Idan yaro ba ya aiki daga wani abu, to bayar da taimako da kuma nuna yadda za a gyara halin da ake ciki, sa'an nan kawai bi da yaro a lokacin da ya aikata shi wani mataki, da kuma karfafa.

Mataki na 3. Lokacin da yaron yake turawa, sai ya ja - tsayawa da bayanin dalilin da yasa baza ku iya yin hakan ba. Idan cikin amsa, yaron yayi dariya, ya ci gaba da yaƙi, je zuwa wani ɗaki, sai ka tafi da cewa idan ka yi kama da wannan, to, za ka yi rawa.

Yara tsokanar yara tun da farko sabon abu ne mai sauƙin gaske, kuma ba lallai ba ne don jin tsoro. Abu mafi mahimmanci shine a mai da hankali ga yaranku kuma ku gwada karbar makullin mutum "a gare shi cikin lokaci.